[?] What do you say when a a conversation gets quiet.?

I usualy wait for them to say something or say something random to start a new conversational topic.

I ask them their opinion on things like sodomy and scat porn.
I don't have many friends.

I start to make a dirty joke so we can laugh at each other

Jokes

either start another conversation concerning another topic or just say something random

I lol'd.

....i make jokes......talk about random anime (since almost all my friends are otaku).......

I wouldn't know since I would be the one quiet around my friends, and I wouldn't know what to say. It's really quite bothersome. :?

Well, you can bring up random topics, like what shows you or the other person have been watching lately and your opinions on them, what movies you've seen, what books you've read, and so on.

Or you can bring up political, religious, or philosophical questions. The trouble with that is, the other person may not be interested (usually the case) or you may have different opinions and end up offending each other. Really, I wouldn't bring up religion or politics, unless you know absolutely, for certain, that the other person has very similar thoughts. Or if, you know, you don't mind never talking to that person again. Likewise, if there's someone you hate talking to, bring up religion and/or politics and disagree with them. And make sure you're adamant about how wrong the other person is.

Anyways, if a conversation stops, and you can't think of anything at all to say, end the conversation. Just say you'll talk to the person later. There's no reason to keep trying to talk if there's nothing to talk about. Of course, don't be snobby about it or anything.

Depends on the mood and whether or not the silence is comfortable. How long you've known one another is a big factor, as well. Sometimes just being quiet together is nice. Trying to constantly fill the silence can be taken as nervousness or insecurity. If I absolutely must talk about something, though, I'll usually either talk about something that happened during the last few days or I'll choose a topic that's random and likely to help me learn something new about the person I'm speaking to.

Sounds to me like you lack common interests. I sometimes have problems finding things to talk about with people as well - after you have gone through all the preliminaries things tend to stagnate if you don't have any common interests.

I don't think you have specifically said, but I'm going to assume this is a friend you are romantically interested in. If thats the case, then I would say your relationship is probably based off of physical attraction. In a good relationship you should both like the person for who they are, and be attracted to them. If you are just looking for friends with benifits... then I suppose it doesn't really matter.

Ah! Now THIS is a topic I could get Active at, since I also have the same problem.



Same here, Same here. Although i'd like to start a topic, I have nothin to say.



Well... what if the person I am talking to is.... doesn't read books much, doesnt talk about religion and politics. And I dunno what she watches.... What could I say....

Although the last suggestion is a good idea. I'll use that sometime

I'm never eager when it comes to "talking" neither do I have "a lot" of friends to talk with.

But when I "must" talk with someone, all I do is bring up certain things that I want to discuss. Every topic I believe has its own set of course, which may lead to other relevant topics to talk about. I'd pause from time to time to give a chance to the other person to either follow up or change the topic into something else. In case he/she doesn't, "discussion over!" (If ever I'd want to continue though) I'd just come up with something random. Surely, there's plenty of things that can be talked about. You just have to find out where the other person's interest lies.

some time ago, I did have a phone-pal who kept on pestering me every night. For most part, she was the one who did most of the talking... :lol: no, not really, I simply would let her initiate the session. Whenever she would stop talking for awhile, I'll ask, "hey are you still awake?" or "are you even listening?" --- One day I just got sick of everything and decided not to answer her calls anymore... (I'm such a cold person)

Everything comes down to each person's "style" of approach I'd say. I may be an introvert but I can talk freely to just about anyone, I can even "act" friendly when doing so. (when I feel like it) Just be yourself. Don't bring up anything that you have no idea or interest about whatsoever, just to impress. Take note of her interests by sharing some of yours...you're bound to at least have a few similarities somewhere. So, that's basically everything I can tell you.

In the end, it still depends on the girl whom you're conversing with. If she has the slightest of interest towards you, she'd probably hear you out, if not, she might not even bother hanging out with you. And one last thing, I'm not a pro at this... it's best to keep that in mind. :lol:

If you don't know what she watches or what she's interested in, ask her about it. Finding out what interests the other person is a conversation.

When we hit a brick wall, i usually say totally random things which would lead to further random things. an example would be talking about school life and suddenly leads to the plausiblility of alien life or philopshiphy about human evolution. But most of the time i would just say things that gross my friends out.

Just say any ramdom things or telling corny jokes hahaha :lol: