False Love, Illusion, and Regret
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i have a girlfriend in a faraway city. both of us are from the same country, indonesia. i first met her in another forum but she's formerly a Fakku member too.
we're now having a far relationship through monitor..
i've been with her for almost a year. the first time i was with her, it's so wonderful.. however lately many problems seems coming to us.
i dont really understand why i've become jealous over a girl.. whenever i see her with a friends i feel rage boiling inside me.. it's like i wanna say "leave her or i'll fukken kill you bitch"
guys.. is it false to love someone on internet? i feel like fool.. but i dont want this to easily ended either..
we're now having a far relationship through monitor..
i've been with her for almost a year. the first time i was with her, it's so wonderful.. however lately many problems seems coming to us.
i dont really understand why i've become jealous over a girl.. whenever i see her with a friends i feel rage boiling inside me.. it's like i wanna say "leave her or i'll fukken kill you bitch"
guys.. is it false to love someone on internet? i feel like fool.. but i dont want this to easily ended either..
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I believe that it isn't a true relationship until you finally meet her in person, which I think you say but it's kind of vague.
You should have contact in person as much as you can, to see her quirks and stuff to see if it's right for you. If someone is just typing, they are only giving you the things of themselves that they want you too see. You aren't "soaking in oil" as they say. Okay, I made that quote up... Uh... you aren't getting the whole picture, as they say.
You should have contact in person as much as you can, to see her quirks and stuff to see if it's right for you. If someone is just typing, they are only giving you the things of themselves that they want you too see. You aren't "soaking in oil" as they say. Okay, I made that quote up... Uh... you aren't getting the whole picture, as they say.
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Why does it matter if she is hanging with another girl - unless she is interested in girls. Even then, she doesn't belong to you.
And no it isn't "false" to love someone over the internet, but do you really think you are getting to know the real her online?
I think you might be obbessing over her because you can only know some much about a person online. So you are feeling in what you don't know about her with your imagination and fantasies. So in your view she is so WONDERFUL that you are obbessed about her and the thought of losing her is unbearable.
Try to get to know her more online and then setup a real date. Meet up some place and she the real her. And then when/if you still love her, remember that she doesn't only exist to give you company, you have to share her wonderful person with the world.
And no it isn't "false" to love someone over the internet, but do you really think you are getting to know the real her online?
I think you might be obbessing over her because you can only know some much about a person online. So you are feeling in what you don't know about her with your imagination and fantasies. So in your view she is so WONDERFUL that you are obbessed about her and the thought of losing her is unbearable.
Try to get to know her more online and then setup a real date. Meet up some place and she the real her. And then when/if you still love her, remember that she doesn't only exist to give you company, you have to share her wonderful person with the world.
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Unsigned wrote...
I believe that it isn't a true relationship until you finally meet her in person, which I think you say but it's kind of vague.My policy goes the same.
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Every couple has some sort of problem, whether it's online or not. If you feel jealous over her hanging out with other friend then it's because you feel like you need more time with her. So, just plan more time with her. If you two truly can't meet up with each other, then set up webcam dates every week. Try to find a way to find a bit more time with her and open up to her more. Being honest and telling her what's on your mind works a lot better than keeping it a secret until it's too late.
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I personally think that online relations can work as long as the two of you meet up somehow, but of course that's going to be different from what you did behind your screens.
There are a lot of things you can't do with an internet line running in between you and I think those things are pretty important for a relationship.
As for you getting angry at her spending time with others: that's only natural, but don't let it get to your head. It's not very nice if you can't let her go a little. There are only a few girls attracted to control freaks.
There are a lot of things you can't do with an internet line running in between you and I think those things are pretty important for a relationship.
As for you getting angry at her spending time with others: that's only natural, but don't let it get to your head. It's not very nice if you can't let her go a little. There are only a few girls attracted to control freaks.
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I dont think its false love, but maybe false impression. As many have stated, theres only so much you can learn about a person thru the internet. I know this kind of relationship work for some people, others not so much. From own personal experience, i feel its hard to know the person beside how they are on their computer, as on the computer you are less restricted and may not act the way you would outside. The best thing i think is to meet the person asap to see if there are any real connection between you two, altho it has been a year.
