Have you ever had a Japanese BF/GF/Husband/Wife?

Just random stupid poll~like question. Since all of us here are in some way interested in Japanese culture... albeit the "perversely" sexual side of it.

Have you ever dated a Japanese guy or gal? Maybe even married etc? Or do you dream of it but never actually tried? If you have, what would you say your experience was like with them. If not, what do you expect it would be like?

I'll go first. I did date a Japanese girl way back in the early 2000s, but it didn't go well (she was a playgirl lol). Then I dated a Chinese girl from Hong Kong for 3 years, and that was freaking amazing... but ended sadly (not badly, just a mutual parting on very good terms). Yeah she wasn't Japanese, but she was still a tall hot Asian beauty that security guys at Narita airport were giving me the greenest looks of envy.

And now I'm currently not in a relationship, but a Japanese acquaintance of mine is showing interest in me (when any woman states she doesn't have a BF without asking she's dropping a hint...) and I'm the kind of guy who observes the personality before diving into the pool. Sure I could just go, wham bam thank you ma'am. but I'm not that kinda guy. Won't sleep with a woman unless I'm thinking I really want her to be the mother of my children lol...

Topic started. Fire away!

Note: Now that I'm more awake...zzz moved to this section. And didn't miss dat poll button cos of exhaustion.

Don't tell a woman this and don't expect her to become the mother of your children. You hope the person you sleep with will be your everything, but it can fall through and some people don't think like that. It's very adamant to have this mindset, just don't get hurt n the process.

Never really cared about dating a certain race, I've dated white and Jewish but never been against any race or had a preference. I just go for personality really since if I can't talk with them/have fun with them they are a no go. The only real things I don't like when dating is I prefer for a guy to be my height or taller and I prefer they be older then me, never really had a thing for younger guys.

I haven't dated anyone asian, but I have a friend who has a japanese girlfriend. It doesn't sound nice at all (obviously this does not apply to every woman from Japan). He gets curfews e.g. what time he should be hope after university. He needs to ask her permission to go out with his friends and if they're gonna be drinking the likelihood of her allowing him is even smaller. She goes apeshit if he's still doing uni work by a certain time and she seems very childish. I should also mention theyre both 30 years old. Nevertheless they love each other and are making it work.
A guy I know is Japanese and he has an asian girlfriend. They have a strange relationship in the way that they only see each other every few months and he never talks about her,calls her, nothing. They just message each other and it seems to work well since theyve been together for a year or so.

So these are the experiences I've observed.

Lol, I'll clarify a bit. I'm a very picky guy. I actually won't even get into a relationship with a woman unless I forsee myself being able to start a family with her should an "unplanned" pregnancy happen. I don't just spout out to a girl I'm dating, "Hey be the mother of my children!", although my last did gf ask me 3 times for us to have a kid together...

Logic is never get in a relationship in the first place that you don't forsee yourself in the long term. Over the years I've seen a gargantuan amount of people I know date someone just to get in their pants, and then there's an unplanned pregnancy, affair, etc and they end up in a relationship or drama that they hate because of their own selfish desires. In a country with an extremely high divorce rate, it becomes pretty clear to those who take the time to step back and see why it is to avoid such simple errors.

One night stands and short-term flings may be fun for the moment, but there can always be long term consequences. Some physical and many emotional. I've learned to not put myself in those situations even when they arise.

Race doesn't matter, but this is mostly directed towards people who are not only interested in Japanese culture but also have an attraction towards Japanese people because of their cultural and societal influence from being raised in Japan as a native. Some people may like Indian culture and become more attracted to Indian people, etc.

I mean everyone has a different idea on dating and it's great you aren't a player, but you with love not everyone feels such a commitment to a person as quickly as you. I know I date and have relationships hoping they will be long term, but I don't initially think "this is the man I want to marry". If I did I would be a bit creepy; not saying you are, but you it can be a bit overwhelming for any person to have someone thing that you are the one they are meant to be with. I look at love and relationships as something fun and new. You get to learn about a person and see if they are someone you could spend your life with.



To each their own as I always say. I did some of that a couple years back and I don't regret it. I was as safe as I could be and it was my choice. Not everyone has that mindset when they go into short-term relationships, but honestly if it's waht you want you just have to go with it and learn from it. I want something serious at some point but to me life is too short to waste on searching for something when I could come naturally when I least expect it. Along the way I'll have fun with people. So basically don't knock it if others do it.

Also to add the divorce rates here are crazy as well, I mean most of my family members have been divorced multiple times. I don't look at it as something that you should use whenever, but I just feel if I made a mistake with someone then it's there if I need it. I'll just really make sure the person I wish to marry is the right one before I get the legal paper saying were bound together till death lol.

Tell you the truth i never thought the girls/lovey girl like boys i was fucking were gonna be my mate for longer than the cab fare on the dresser and the complimentary breakfast of coffee and cold pizza on my couch. I never plan ahead a person for me only. Was never the plan. Shit changed. If it helps my mate is half japanese.

Half Japanese half American here, living both lifestyles to an extent. Born in Japan and lived there for my first ten years, AMA.

#1 way to scare someone off.

I had a pretty bad relationship with a Japanese girl that didn't work out when I was going to school there. I was kind of emotionally fucked up at the time and didn't know what I was doing though :/

I dated a Chinese girl briefly after that and it also didn't go so amazingly. Her English wasn't that great so we had a lot of communication issues. One time, however, she did give me a blowjob while Snake Eater played so that was pretty hilarious.

My current Korean girlfriend of almost 2 years has been pretty amazing though.

Sure, I date myself all the time. It's great...ha...ha...ha...

But seriously, no.

I thought you were Chinese.

half and half

I would love to have a Japanese partner who can be kinky at times when we're in the mood. Been dreaming about it but that hasn't happened yet.

My girlfried is Japanese, I am white miyself but we are both into hentai which is helpful. I love her to bits. She's also eager to...ya know...xD

Dating someone primarily because of their race/ethnicity is pretty gross. Just because they happen to be Japanese or Asian, doesn't mean they're gonna be your yellow fever fantasy. Everyone is an individual, you can't assume shit just because you happen to like the media that is produced by their country of origin. That's super ignorant. You won't end up with a happy relationship, because you already went into it with a ton of misconceptions and expectations. Putting a square peg in a round hole, so to speak. You're not giving them any room to be who they are, and you're not opening yourself up to love them for who they are. That's an issue.

I'm dating a guy of Taiwanese origin (100%, ethnically), but he's American. Completely westernized, haha. So, just like dating any other kind of guy, except he happens to be Asian. Naturally, there are some differences - he has foreskin, which is common for East Asians. He likes Asian food. He knows more about Asian culture and customs. He knows some Mandarin. His family is slightly different than my family in terms of their more traditional Asian background. But... ultimately, he's an individual. He's weird and unique and he's mine, and he'd still be mine whether he was black, hispanic, or whatever else. His ethnicity is a perk, not a necessity. It's not why I dated him.

Newp. I'm moving to jp to work for a bit soon and I'm sure some people expect me to date someone japanese. I have a conversational grasp of the language an all. It's definetly not my motivation in going though. I can just as easily see me end up dating a fellow gaijin while I'm there. That or dating no one as per usual ^^;

Had a JP GF up until recently. She was an exchange student where I currently study. She was kinda on the traditional side of the Japanese attitude (being reserved and all that). That made it an uphill battle to get her interested, but definitely worth it. Reserved though she was at first, she had a side that only could be characterized as a sexual deviant. I expected it, but she went above my expectations.

As far as one night stands go, I've only had few JP women because JP women (at least where I live) are the pickiest women I've ever encountered.

Race, for the most part, is not an issue for me as I have different 'cravings' depending on my mood and current capability.

I'll chip my two cents in and see how far this goes, lol.

I've never dated anybody of any kind of asian ethnicity, but I imagine it's fairly similar to dating anybody regardless of race or gender. Being boyfriend/girlfriend is sort of a social contract where two people agree to try to learn a little more about each other, and see if they might be a good fit for each other, as it were. If I meet a girl who's really cool and seems to like me then I'll give it a go, since you never know if she's 'the one' when you first meet her right? I feel like if you let skin color or race get into the mental formula of choosing a partner, you're in it for the wrong reasons and should re-think what kind of relationship you're looking for. I dated a girl for about 6 months when I was 16, and I was almost 100% that she was someone I could spend my life with, but it turned out to be that as much as we were great friends, she just didn't see me romantically appealing. It was a tough feel to get over with all the weird puberty stuff going on, but looking back on it, I'm glad she told me how she felt, rather than lie and try to fake it. It's better for both of us that way.

It made things super awkward though, and I could never bring myself to look at her the same way without getting super embarrassed and weird, but then again that could have been puberty.

I can't even imagine the odds on finding someone who shares your sexual interests on top of your non-sexual ones, but if I've only got the one life, I better make sure to take advantage of what I've got, and do my best, :)