Perfect girl: not so perfect situation
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WELL...
Im dating this really hot girl, who's horney as hell, a very good drawer, a gamer, anime fan, a writer, and everything I could hope for in a woman. we have intelligent discussion, flirty hit-ons, and we molest each other. Good times.
...Im bored, though, for some reason.
I mean, most of the time I have fun with her, but as of late, I've... just been bored. today when we talked, near the end... I was bored.
Why? Is it that she's too perfect for me or something? I know its not her, I mean, she's basically flawless to me... so whats up with me? Am I just... scared of her or something?
thanks...
Im dating this really hot girl, who's horney as hell, a very good drawer, a gamer, anime fan, a writer, and everything I could hope for in a woman. we have intelligent discussion, flirty hit-ons, and we molest each other. Good times.
...Im bored, though, for some reason.
I mean, most of the time I have fun with her, but as of late, I've... just been bored. today when we talked, near the end... I was bored.
Why? Is it that she's too perfect for me or something? I know its not her, I mean, she's basically flawless to me... so whats up with me? Am I just... scared of her or something?
thanks...
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tsuyoshiro
FAKKU Writer
Some say that it is flaws that make people the most interesting. Not me though. I think you have it too good and need to get your ass kicked as a reminder :)
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im not sure what to tell you pocru, are your days with her awkwardly bland? are you always talking or is it silent for the most part? you stated all her hobbies, her physical appearance... but you really didnt state anything about her personality. its been very important to me so far that i can relate to her on a personal level, the girl im seeing right now is never boring, not because of similar hobbies or anything, its because, well... i dunno. theres chemistry there and its easy to catch, i enjoy just hanging around with her because i feel privileged to be in her company.
maybe you rushed to quickly into the physical aspect? im not sure what to tell you man. try and integrate yourself into her hobbies and vice versa, make some fun out of your time together! just make sure that sex isnt the only reason your hanging out with her or you might have yourself a fuck buddy.
how long have you been seeing each other? gimme some more details and ill help as much as i can man.
maybe you rushed to quickly into the physical aspect? im not sure what to tell you man. try and integrate yourself into her hobbies and vice versa, make some fun out of your time together! just make sure that sex isnt the only reason your hanging out with her or you might have yourself a fuck buddy.
how long have you been seeing each other? gimme some more details and ill help as much as i can man.
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u could do other stuff with her..and try out new hobbies..dont juz stick with those old ones..it wil get boring anyway..tink out of the box man..u can do it~
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Brittany
Director of Production
If you spend, every day, talk all the time daily on the phone - I'd give it a break a little.
Take a few days off (no more then a week) and then go back to it and see how things are.
Don't make a big deal either by telling her you need a break and so forth, then she'll just go into panic mode and never leave you alone afraid she did something wrong.
Just tell her you'll be busy for a few days so talking might be limited.
If she calls just leave it to voice mail
Call her back whenever you're ready to
Take a few days off (no more then a week) and then go back to it and see how things are.
Don't make a big deal either by telling her you need a break and so forth, then she'll just go into panic mode and never leave you alone afraid she did something wrong.
Just tell her you'll be busy for a few days so talking might be limited.
If she calls just leave it to voice mail
Call her back whenever you're ready to
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well, its mostly a long-distance relationship, we dont actually see each other terribly often, so most of the time Is spent talking/Role-Playing/Gaming together.
And its not awkwardly bland... its just that sometimes I'll get mind-numbingly bored and spend time playing flash games instead of focusing on whatever we may be doing on the phone/AIM.
Maybe there's just some trend im not noticing, like maybe we're talking about something in particular every time I get bored... I'll just do some analyzing.
thanks...
And its not awkwardly bland... its just that sometimes I'll get mind-numbingly bored and spend time playing flash games instead of focusing on whatever we may be doing on the phone/AIM.
Maybe there's just some trend im not noticing, like maybe we're talking about something in particular every time I get bored... I'll just do some analyzing.
thanks...
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I dunno.
the perfect mate might not always be perfect. You'll get bored of it since you're so familiar to what she does. Maybe you do need a break.
the perfect mate might not always be perfect. You'll get bored of it since you're so familiar to what she does. Maybe you do need a break.
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It's like pouring water to a glass full of water...
Sometimes, having too perfect gf can become such a problem to some people..
Sometimes, having too perfect gf can become such a problem to some people..
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This sounds as if it's a lusty friendship. Take the whole lust/sex part out of you and this chick's relationship and you'd probably just want to see her as a friend. Lust just fucks up friendships and makes you believe you really like someone or even love them.
If you're dedicated on keeping her, You might want to try doing new things online, there's plenty to do to spice up the relationship. Try playing a new game together or setup weekly webcam dates. Online relationships are very tricky, because of how limited you really are. Just try to be as open and honest as you can with her and it should work out well in the end. If you two really want this relationship to last, you can both work out ways to get over this slump.
If you're dedicated on keeping her, You might want to try doing new things online, there's plenty to do to spice up the relationship. Try playing a new game together or setup weekly webcam dates. Online relationships are very tricky, because of how limited you really are. Just try to be as open and honest as you can with her and it should work out well in the end. If you two really want this relationship to last, you can both work out ways to get over this slump.
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well, its mostly a long-distance relationship, we dont actually see each other terribly often, so most of the time Is spent talking/Role-Playing/Gaming together.
Personally, I think that is the problem at hand. And no, I'm not talking about "you don't get laid often enough"; there's plenty of things for a couple to do together, in person, which I would personally regard as vital for bonding (i.e. continued mutual interest). I personally don't give long-distance relationships much credit over prolonged periods of time.
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gibbous wrote...
well, its mostly a long-distance relationship, we dont actually see each other terribly often, so most of the time Is spent talking/Role-Playing/Gaming together.
Personally, I think that is the problem at hand. And no, I'm not talking about "you don't get laid often enough"; there's plenty of things for a couple to do together, in person, which I would personally regard as vital for bonding (i.e. continued mutual interest). I personally don't give long-distance relationships much credit over prolonged periods of time.
I agree 100% you'll need to spend more time together. How long have you two been dating? and how many times have you actually been together? Trust me, I've been where you are right now. I had a long distance relationship once and I got bored talking with her just like you. It's only after living together with her for 3 months is when I actually got to KNOW her. Also, you kinda have to ask yourself, what do you want? Is this girl really worth it to travel to see her if she lives really far away? If not then perhaps wait untill your relationship "matures" a little untill you or perhaps both of you know what you want.
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tsuyoshiro wrote...
Some say that it is flaws that make people the most interesting. Not me though. I think you have it too good and need to get your ass kicked as a reminder :)If I were your friend I would do that to you Pocru.
Well, I've never dated another person who even like manga or videogames so I don't really know what to say that that situation. The 4 girls I've dated were somewhat my oppisite. To me you struck gold, so don't fuck it up.
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Well, I guess I'm in a once was quite real and now is long distance relationship and the best advice I can give you is
Things need to be real, you need to think about and talk about things that aren't fucking her. Need to have a nice hobby or subject to connect on and always be honest and talk about whats going on in your life.
Things need to be real, you need to think about and talk about things that aren't fucking her. Need to have a nice hobby or subject to connect on and always be honest and talk about whats going on in your life.