Questions with being asexual

You probably could be a voyeur however that itself might be a stretch. Well, there are all types of reason someone might be asexual like not wanting to get sexually transmitted diseases, not wanting to deal with being held back by primitive institutions such as marriage, not wanting kids, wanting to maintain financial freedom, and just freedom in general. In short sex and just sometimes the things individuals go through with just to reach the big "O" is in my humble opinion too long term.

So no it is not unusual because some of greatest minds of past centuries were labeled that. Also, protip if you feel the urge but don't want the baggage just hire an escort. :)

I say it's pretty normal. I have a friend I grew up with who is asexual. She just doesn't find anyone attractive. That doesn't mean she doesn't love a good sex scene or drawing perv art, she just doesn't connect wanting to have sex with the people she sees around her.

That said do not associate sexual attraction with love. They are not the same thing. A lot of "love at first sight" situations are rooted in lust and for asexual people this may never happen. It doesn't mean either that you'll never want to have sex with the person you do end up falling in love with, just that it will be very low on your list of things you want to do with them.

I call myself an Asexual, but I'm interested in watching strangers have sex so I could just be aromantic. I don't want any romantic or even platonic relationships aside from the usual net friends I have. It used to be that I had a phobia of dealing with people and I was highly self conscious/egocentric as a kid. Now its just plain old disinterest. That and I found out when I was in college that I absolutely hate physical contact with people whether it be males or female. Women would sometimes flirt with me, but I'd just kindly brush them off until they lose interest. The fact that I don't (and never have) felt lonely for companionship (outside my family) was enough to convince me that I just don't have a interest in people (in a physical sense).


Before jumping to the conclusion that you may be an asexual, ask yourself whether or not you feel lonely or crave companionship for another person. Otherwise, you may wind up regretting living a life of solitude at a certain point in your life.

Asspergers is a fake disease OP, it's just that you need to develop better social skills. You sound like you've given up on people, that's most likely the case. It's normal, you'll surpass it and build yourself stronger and anew.

Asexuality is often thought of as a sexual orientation, I'm no expert, but based on a lot of readings on the subject of asexuality, asexuality is more akin to a spectrum. Also, you can be asexual and be heterosexual, homosexual, or any of the other sexual orientations. Heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, are specifically inclined for sexual attraction. These individuals, when asked, "would you like to have sex?", will usually respond positively. To an asexual the answer might be, "maybe?". The maybe highlights the different degrees of asexuality.

I think of myself as a gray asexual; I do crave sex, watch porn, and fantasize about sex. But not to the point that I become desperate or stressed, and I don't want to have sex with some random girl: I am first attracted to a girl's personality, and then if I realize I really like her, then I would like to have sex with her. Another asexual may only be interested in having sex with only one woman. And there are the "super" (forgot the actual terminology) asexuals, the ones that don't care about sex, don't watch porn, don't want a partner; and they are perfectly fine members of society.

Think of asexuality not as a sexual orientation but as a degree of sexuality. Ask yourself: Do I want sex now? Am I comfortable having sex with this person? Do I want sex because of a physiological need or because of attraction? How comfortable am I with the subject of sex? Do you have a positive or negative outlook on sex? If I am asexual, should I be worried about my sex life?

You can always learn more about asexuality by visiting asexual websites such as this one: http://www.asexuality.org/
Learn about what asexuality is, and then come to your own conclusion. If you realize and accept that you are asexual, it doesn't mean that you can't have sex nor can't have a normal sex life.
And remember, you are not alone.

I think sometimes but others, I mean one can be lucky to meet someone they click with.
I met a girl like that... Now I don't think she likes me back (though as I have aspergers and she has her own things... neither of us are exactly pros at dating) who really knows.
I think I clicked to her as soon as I met her. Before meeting I felt very detached and uninterested in marriage and children and all that, maybe its growing slightly older but if given the chance I'd marry her in a heartbeat.

Sometimes you click and it falls into place, sometimes it doesn't, one ought not rely on others for their core happiness.