So I Fell For Sexworker ..Is It Okay?

Her name is Amber she is Canadian she is a hooker but she sleep with 2 guys so she isn't really bad but I happen to be on crave and I took her home . Too my knowledge we have a lot in common. We like Anime and she loves video games.

I told her do you want to go out and the streets are not a good place. She hasn't said anything yet but we see each other everyday.

Well, if shes a hooker then I would ask the question "Are you ok with dating someone whos sleeping with other guys." I mean I guess it can work, and I guess if you can convince her to stop and all thats fine. But at the end of the day, its not unheard of for men to fall for women they sleep with including hookers and its also pretty common for hookers to play on those feelings to get the client to be more steady.


All in all its ok to have those feelings, and you can try to make it work, just keep in mind you're in a very delicate situation and whatever you do should probably be done with caution.

Pretty much how I feel. Who you choose to go out with is completely up to you, but understand the risks and exercise caution.

This is more of an LL&R related topic, will request it be moved there.

First off if you are paying her for sex then this isn't a relationship, it's business. Even if you two hit it off any financial transactions that happen mean that there is business involved and you need to keep this in-mind. This type of profession mixes business with pleasure so it can be hard to distinguish the one with the other. Even if she does have feelings you cannot pay your lover cold hard cash and say this is something and you two would have to talk about things before this got any more complicated.

My advice to you is to give your relationship and feelings on this whole matter some serious thought before you get yourself deeper physically and emotionally. You know what she does as a profession, but as to why is different for every person. Just telling someone to stop such a thing isn't so simple, there may be reasons she is doing what she does and it can be ignorant to talk about choosing to do something more morally sound when you don't even know why a person does what they do.

If you find you are having feelings for this person and she feels the same, then decide if you can at the very most accept her profession and what she does. I'm not saying to be okay with her being a sexworker, but rather could you be with someone that has done this with her life? Even if she did decide to end this profession a lot of people could not handle having their partner doing something such as this.

You will also need to talk with her about things if she is open for discussion. You'll have to decide if you are okay with her being a sexworker and see what it is she wishes to do with her life. The same goes for yourself, basically just communicate where you are both at in life and what it is you want short-term and long-term in general.

If she chooses to remain as a sexworker then ultimately you'll have to decide if you are okay with this. It's okay to not be. It's not easy to have someone you care about go and have sex with random people for money, but if this is her choice and she doesn't want to change then you can't do much more about the matter.

Overall you need to think about things and talk with her about matters if you feel you two have something. I wouldn't get anymore personal until then because you can't force your values into someone if they don't wish to change.

>sex worker
>only two people

... I know priests who had more partners then that.

I personally see Litterily zero reason why prostitution is illegal, so, yes it's ok unless it makes you personally uncomfortable. Also know that you'll never be able to be a blood or organ donor, since they have the whole "have you ever slept with someone who takes money for sex"

Well first you have to see if there is even an interest in a relationship before you even bother with dealing with the fact she's in the prostitution business. Don't be like me and my problem with strippers and be given false hope, even if they seem to be on the level. Also you have to deal with the fact that she is her own person and can do what ever she likes and if that working the streets then ether try to tell her the dangers and hope it takes, for her safety, but if not you can't force her to do anything. Just be careful bro.

I am going to suggest figuring out how long she has been a prostitute cause 2 seems like a terrible number, and I somehow doubt she meant she only had sex with 2 people.

To be honest, I don't think she's going to say yes, so anything I could say about "reevaluate this, or be concerned, get tested, blah bladdity blah blah" is mostly meaningless (unless she secretly really digs you and has been totally honest this whole time). From your story it seems like you were super horny and lonely so you paid her for sex, and afterwards you grew attached because you both share superficial interest. You then told her to stop working and be be a couple without even dating (you really don't sound like you know her all that well).

I know this is Random (probably LR&R later) and you're putting yourself out here because you're genuinely stumped, but...You're stupid.

It's very easy to like someone because they like video games and anime. But the road can be very short. If you don't have any connection outside of these, then the relationship will fall flat.

She is an adult who made an adult decision to be a prostitute no matter what the reasons were. You have to really consider her feelings and what she wants to do. Don't try to force her out of it.