So I need your thoughts on this thingie...

So I am going out with this girl, yes. We fucked, kissed, blah blah blah. Anyway, I found out that she was, err..., more of the "un-social-able-people-types" (?) or was really, really, really shy. Shy enough to freak out whenever someone talks to her. She changed alot after we went out and I really do like this girl (this was my second one, sad I know). So, I also found out that she has a real hardcore addiction to the internet. Not like porn or anything, before she met me, this is how she met people. Over the internet. She also met these two guys from...WoW and...Gaia (?) and they were real close for about four years. I didn't really care if she talked to them (one of them was her ex) but I got a feeling that they know her more than I do, and that bothers me alittle. I mean, I know she knew them for quite a long while, but shouldn't she let me in on some of her problems? And the other thing is, I think she still has feelings for the one guy. -,-; Both long distance, and I kinda read some of her comment thingies, (its not creepy, I swear! Dx) and found out that she talks to him loads more than she does to me. I don't know what I should do. I've tried talking to her about it, but she then shuts down, so I decided not to. So, I'm kinda confused about our relationship and stuff.

So, I've decided to see what the FAKKU! Family would like to say about this. Why? Cuz they are the best that's why.

-Sorry for the wall of text-

being a very unsociable person myself
I'd say cut her loose

it may sound harsh but those types are messed and often use their shyness as a shield to avoid problems and get out of things

How long have you been going out? Because if it hasn't been all that long it's not surprising at all she hasn't fully opened up. Some things she may discuss with other people and not you specifically because you see her irl, are dating her, or just because you're you. People having some feeling for an ex is relatively common. I would suggest being patient and letting her know that you'll be willing to accept anything she has to say without judging her and that you should at some point mention that you do feel some jealousy over the time she spends with other people but that it's not a huge deal.

Edit: Also, never trust anyone whose forum name is a meme. This is a clear sign of insanity....or really bad taste.(j/k)

Yes sire. And thanks for the thoughts. We've been going out for about...eight and a half months. So, guess I should just forget about it and act like everything is chummy and then she would open up. Cool cool.

-Heh heh, and I do agree. :) But it caught your attention, yeah?

jesus god 8 months already, thats a long time man. you know, maybe you should confront her and just really tell her how it is and how you feel, I mean I hope you dont intend to be all soft with this person forever, shes antisocial but shes not a child, and just let her do as she pleases even if its disturbing or making you feel uncomfortable, atleast let her know then give her the space and time to think it over and see if she can meet you somewhere, compromise.

You dont have to be an asshole to tell her what the deal is and it doesnt make you one. Dude, these are puny matters, try to imagine the bigger issues and problems youd be facing together in the future and if shes gonna be like this, damn.

Sorry, im not really in a very positive mood at the moment. I hope all would go well with you though

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Just let her know what you want, then if she just cant meet you, I think its fair enough to just let it go. unless this is cool with you

@balls: be open about how you feel, but don't make it look like you're pushing it or anything. give her enough time to think it out.

heh, at least she's not autistic like my ex...

they're the worst lol

.......what worst? my ex was awesome.

its a joke, though I am not fond of autistic people (despite having a strain of said mental illness...hmm maybe thats why)

You should start by not comparing how open she is with you vs. a guy she has known for much longer. If she tells you some things that she would not share with other people, then that should be good enough, just forget about whether she shares more or less with this other guy.

If she doesn't want to speak to you as much as other guys, you really have a problem you need to talk out. Just mention it to her. Say what you think about it. I'm sure she didn't mean for it to be like this either, but just didn't think things through.

That, or she really doesn't like you like that anymore. But I doubt that.

Well, if she's anti-social, it may be easier for her to talk over the internet, like me. If this was real life, I wouldn't be in half the conversations here.

You could always start playing WoW with her...?

How did you two meet? How does she refer you as? (examples: my boyfriend or some guy I met)

Hm. If she's discussing other things to a person that isn't you, and you've been going out for 8 months now, you have a slight problem. Sometimes you want to get a different opinion from others, but if it's to the point where you wonder, you'll have to confront her about it. If she decides to clam up, that's not the best of signs. Most people like that know how other people see them, and will use that as an excuse to not say anything. Just let her know how you feel, how you think it isn't fair, etc, etc.

If after a while she still won't say anything to you, and is far more quiet to you than someone else, I'd start looking for someone else. Not to sound mean, or rude, but that sounds very one sided.