Donimance

I don't really know what brought this to my mind, but...

In terms of dominated/dominator[dominatrix?] or passive/aggressive, which do you think is a better way to live? Is it better to have an aggressive mindset where you always go after what you want and ONLY what you want with an undying passion, or to be the one who will do what other people say and just kinda go with the flow? If you were creating yourself, and you had a pick [could not be in between], which would you go for? Passive or Agressive? What are you now?

Both of these could have pros and cons. Passive people might now get what they want most of the time, but may be liked more by others, whereas the aggressive people might get what the want and how the want it, only to be absolutely loathed by all or most others.

Maybe this comes down to being a leader or a follower, I'm not sure.

Discuss please. I'd like to hear your thoughts.

Life is most certainly too short to have it someone elses way (espcecially in matters that are important to you).

Either way, in the end its about balancing, life as a social being is all about compromise and trying to have it your way all the time won't pay off in the medium to long run.

I am passive for the most part. I let the little things go, however i jump to my chance of being known when I can, and become spontaniously become agressive. This not only makes you more formitable as an enemy (being unpredictable) but waiting and soking in other arguments and points can only make yours stronger. Just know when to show your agressive side

Its best to go about life with a certain amount of reason. You don't have to be dominant or submissive, but depending on the situation you shouldn't have to bend for others or force others to bend for you. Life doesn't go the way you want it to all the time, if it did you'd be living in Candyland, or whatever, not on Earth. Sometimes you gotta roll with the punches, even if that means swallowing your pride. I know people who've been shot because they were to fucking stupid to let shit go. All I know is that it's better to pull back and think shit over than it is to get yourself killed.

I would like to be Agressive because thats how I wanna live my life. I want to do something for myself. If you're always passive, you can't really do anything for yourself. That's what I believe.

To an extent, that is true. No one should have to live a life managed by someone else, but as humans, like any other organism, we should take advantage of anything we find beneficial to our survival. Morals might become a factor, but if you aren't doing anything that can harm yourself or others, go for it. You can always do your own thing, but when opportunities present themselves, its not all that bad to play by other people's rules.

I cant really answer this, as im fairly opposed to extremes.
As the cat said, it all comes to balance.

The most I can say is that im the sneaky-submissive type, that will tell you whatever you want to hear most of the time , but do what I really want.

So for me it all comes to playing your cards right.

Honestly neither of the two is good, finding the line between those options and applying them both is the best way to go.

But since I have to choose, I'd say aggressive. Mainly because I was a lot more passive back in the day, aggressiveness might result in you getting hated but at least you tend to get a lot more done then letting yourself be pushed aside by others who'm are more dominant then you.

It is what it is, agreed. For me it also depends on the situation presented, whether you decide to either be passive or aggressive on the situation as long as the decision applies better to the situation. But life's a lot of give and take, you can't always take and you can't always give.

But for the most part of my life I've been quite passive since the chance to be aggressive about something presents itself rarely (except in "bed").

Switch is the way to go in daily life.

In the bedroom... wherever your depraved heart leads you.

I'm a quite aggressive person myself, some of the decision that I make on a day to day basis I know are harshly criticized and hated by others, but I don't care enough to change my mind.I like it this way, though having some passive qualities might be advisable as well. You will probably go farther in life with that sort of personality.

But always get stuck in molasses T-T

Anyway, I'm usually passive. I rarely get aggressive, usually when someon really pisses me off. xD

Currently i am passive. I could care less about people and the world. It just rotates around mylife. If i remade myself yeah i would be aggresive i would take life by the balls, rip them off and feed them to life. It would be fun. I would be more willing to talk to people i would want to do more things instead of just saying "meh". And i would probably find that special someone faster. so yeah if i remade myslfe I WOULD LOVE to be aggresive.

I would remain as I am, which is a passive dominator.

Ie I will happily let someone else be in charge but, I will more then likely be the one telling them how they should do things :P