Stuttering.

Mishima Yukio wrote about it in "The Temple of the Golden Pavilion" as "my key of the lock to outside world was broken" (something like that).

I've been stuttering since I was a kid, and it had big influence on my lifestyle, way of thinking, attitude towards society and other stuff. Sure it gets in the way in daily life, not anyone had enough patience to listen to a stutterer. Besides, my case ir pretty bad one, I often become unable to continue talking at all, my speech literally disappears.

It's not like I've been avoiding people in my life, it's just something like nobody wanted to talk to me second time, after becoming acquaintances, listen to my stuttering every time when I have a conversation with them. So I decided that not talking to people is ok, cause my surrounding is always fun even without me, so it's enough for me only to listen to their conversations, because I've learned through my (maybe lonely)life how to enjoy every moment, so I've stopped thinking about stuttering as a curse.

What's strange, I don't like to "say" something through the Internet because of that, and I enjoy reading (only) FAKKU! forum without leaving coments, I find here a lot of my opinions lready been written. It's some kind of habit from the real life - 54 posts for 2 years sure is a little amount, although I read FAKKU! every day.

So, I wanted to ask FAKKU!-mates, does anyone has the same problem or maybe somebody your friend is? Has anyone "cured"?
Please tell me how it affects your life.

P.S.: sorry for such a long post for SD...

A friend of mine has a really bad stutter, but it was caused by a terrible accident. She was in a nasty car wreck when she was in high school, and it left her mentally handicapped. As a result, she has a really bad stutter.

Don't worry about the long post. Serious discussions usually should have long posts anyway.

As per your topic, I have a good friend who has stuttered all his life in a pretty bad way. He's been picked on for it, ignored by others, and all around bullied by people because he took a little longer to finish a sentence.

Personally, I never understood why people couldn't stand to wait for a few extra moments to let a person finish their thoughts, but I guess it's because people are getting more and more used to others talking faster and getting their ideas out as fast as possible.

But anyway, I sure hope that you yourself don't get bullied by others just because you take a little extra time to talk. Some people just need to slow down their pace and allow others to speak.

If you're looking to cure the stuttering then I wish you luck. I'm sure it won't be too easy.

Oh shi...
I..I...I..u..Used to..Stutter too!!
My friends used to make fun of me every single time I did it. So I usually keep my mouth shut.
Now Im already "cured" as I dont stutter anymore, the only advice I can say is, stay calm when you speak, talk short words at a time and think the whole sentence you are going to say before talking.
Talk short sentences that include only less then 3-4 words at a time is the best, after some time you will be cured.

Be the quiet cool guy.
It's not so bad being quiet, at least you can listen to people well.

Well, I dunno whether this applies to everyone, but at least it worked for this friend of mine...

He used to stutter a lot before. I can't really say how bad he was since I don't have anyone to compare it with, but to me, it was very bad. Then this one guy transferred in, and he was a very good friend. He told my friend to be calm and say out whatever he had in mind. He would listen very carefully and take not of his every words. So after a few months or so, thanks to having one patient enough to listen to him, and perhaps also because he was trained to speak his mind, his stutters was cured.

In short, try to muster the confidence you need.

Well, I used to stutter pretty badly up until high school when I finally started getting better. I still stutter a little bit when I get particularly nervous, like the other day in my Bio lecture class I was answering a question and started to stutter though that was probably due to there being over 120 students in the class.

I think my stuttering probably has to do with me having had some psychological trauma in the past, namely an asshole of a former stepfather who would yell at me for no good reason other than to hear his own damn head rattle and make himself feel better because he was an illiterate, bipolar, dumb-ass. This was because he knew that I was smarter than him even when my mom married him when I was 7 years old.

However like I said I started getting better near the end of my freshman year of high school,

Sorry about the rant, I just have a lot of pent-up rage towards that bastard. But anyhow around the end of my freshman year of high school I was recommended for these therapy sessions where maybe twice a week a person who specialized in speech problems would come and talk to me. Sometimes we would do some speech exercises. Then my stuttering improved to the point around my junior year where we only met around once a month and then senior year only once every three months just to check in with me.

Now its pretty much a non-issue and anytime that it does happen anyone could just chalk it up to being nervous.

I know a few stutterers. There are ways to smooth it out entirely or help alot with it. From speech courses to frequent training of speeches etc. Also it helps to have a patient listener, as the more you try to hasten your own speech, the worse the stuttering becomes.
Incase you are trying to hold a presentation at school / college / university / your job etc, try to have a partner besides you, so you can switch every now and than, to take your time to think about, what you want to say exactly and prepare for it :)

I used to have a friend (we lost contact) who stuttered as well, she seemed very reluctant to talk to people because of it, because nobody seemed to have enough patience. Well I basically often deliberately went to see her for just a simple conversation, just to get her to talk more. I found it stupid to ridicule someone because of something they can't help/are born with. She was quite thankful because I and some other guys managed to get her to be more talkative and secure.

She went on to take a speech classes and all, so it did get better.

Sometimes stuttering is the byproduct of a mental disorder/mishap. More often I believe that people stutter because they aren't confident in themselves or can't find the right things to say when put on the spot. I've never really met a person who stuttered like crazy, not even in my speech class.

I know a few people who stutter and most of our friends wait the few secs for them to finish their sentences, the thing about me is that sometimes i rush them and cut them off >___> but i stopped doing that now.

One of my acquaintances back in high-school used to (and still does, I believe) stutter. At first I admit I almost cracked every time I heard her talking, but took care never to show it, specially when she was around.

Still, sometimes it was painful to hear her talk (specially on expositions)

I never had a problem with stuttering, however I had to grow up with tourette syndrome. During elementary school I would have these full body shivers and would be helpless to control them. Many doctors my parents took me to said they were so distracting that I would be unable to learn anything. Around the time I got into middle school I grew out of it. But wait, you may be asking, you can't grow out of having tourettes because it is a lifelong disease! Well we went to the doctor and he basically said, " My bad, is was actually aspergers." I was a little angry with that. Bottom line though I managed to grow out of my "curse" and I sincerely hope you find a way to do the same.

*hugs the monitor*
-Densha!

Thank you all guys for replying!
I've never had a friend or an acquaintance with the same problem so absolutely had no idea if it could get better, even if only for a little.
I always avoided discussiing it because when I was a kid, every time I asked "Mom, why do I stutter?" she started crying, so I quit it.
I guess now I have some confidence about it geting better ). I assume the most important thing daily practice, huh? Well, I never thought It'll be easy anyway, so... my fight starts here!

Thank you all guys again!

I use to have a really bad stutter problem! I had to take speech therapy for it. My stutter habits slowly started to go away.
I too use to hate talking to others because of my problem, but now i feel more confident because i no longer stutter!

For my cure i was told to talk in short sentences, and think of what i was going to say before i said it.
I was told to stay calm.
I was also to practice Tongue twisters in my spare time(do them slowly, not fast)

I stutter only really when I'm nervous but otherwise I'm fine. It's still annoying though when it feels like you can't get out what your trying to say.