Understanding the misunderstood
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For most of my life I lived in an area with many prejudice people and many people at the schools I attended, even high school, were the same way.
I always try to understand people thoroughly, but with various misinformation and blatant rumors being spread about people, it is hard to distinguish fact from fiction.
What I am asking is - What do you think the most effective and humane means of understanding people you want to get along with is? And how do you sort through information you've heard from others so that you can find the truth about people?
How do you understand those who are widely misunderstood?
My life's story aside, the question remains - What do you think will help people to understand those who are widely misunderstood, and what do you think will allow people to be more open-minded about those kinds of people?
I believe that common interests are the answer, because common interests are something that people share, and it can be used as a bridge to deeper understanding and stronger friendship.
I always try to understand people thoroughly, but with various misinformation and blatant rumors being spread about people, it is hard to distinguish fact from fiction.
What I am asking is - What do you think the most effective and humane means of understanding people you want to get along with is? And how do you sort through information you've heard from others so that you can find the truth about people?
How do you understand those who are widely misunderstood?
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My life's story aside, the question remains - What do you think will help people to understand those who are widely misunderstood, and what do you think will allow people to be more open-minded about those kinds of people?
I believe that common interests are the answer, because common interests are something that people share, and it can be used as a bridge to deeper understanding and stronger friendship.
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I'd say helping out is the answer - that will cause common interest as well as trust. You gain all sorts of positive consequences from that: useful connections, friends, new information.
Than again, it is that crucial to be understood at every instance? I prefer working alone and not being disturbed by something useless in my opinion like: "what's up? Not much. Ok, bye". Business partners and good friends do understand that, although, it took years to build such a platform and get others to understand it. Thus - no distractions but warm relations from people you can trust and no unnecessary attention from others.
That said, there are very often some isolated people in almost every community, so if someone takes the initiative - they may get along well and become good friends too.
As to the preliminary data from others - well, it's better to check for yourself, I guess.
Than again, it is that crucial to be understood at every instance? I prefer working alone and not being disturbed by something useless in my opinion like: "what's up? Not much. Ok, bye". Business partners and good friends do understand that, although, it took years to build such a platform and get others to understand it. Thus - no distractions but warm relations from people you can trust and no unnecessary attention from others.
That said, there are very often some isolated people in almost every community, so if someone takes the initiative - they may get along well and become good friends too.
As to the preliminary data from others - well, it's better to check for yourself, I guess.
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The misunderstood often require the longest amount of time and effort to be invested in. Common interests aside, I believe sincerity is the key to understanding people. Too many times we say "yes" when we mean "no". If we don't understand, we have to say so. It takes time and effort to understand a person; not everyone is open and extroverted. There are some too who wish to be left misunderstood than to be probed. Personally, I'm one of those and prefer to keep it that way.
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Just be chill and be yourself. You cannot force people to understand you and vice versa. Just let the flow happen, and if the guy/girl/monster/alien likes you or share the same hobbies, then go from there.
People have different personalities, likes, dislikes so not everyone will get along. So why bother mingling with them? Find the people that you can and will allow you to be yourself.
People have different personalities, likes, dislikes so not everyone will get along. So why bother mingling with them? Find the people that you can and will allow you to be yourself.
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The most effective way to understand people you want get along with people is to be yourself, and talk to them.
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My friend told me once, that a person with good character listens to what the other has to say and thinks about it. He also said that a bad character would be to ignore the words of someone else and doesn't take it into consideration. If someone misunderstands than how they react determines their personality of handling the information, will they just accept or will they not accept and wait for any evidence regarding the truth behind that information.
So really, people that misunderstand without questioning the situation or information is likely to either be a difficult person to deal with or someone who has no care for others. If someone is willing to understand it means they questioned the actual information and decides to actually give effort into believing you, which is a good thing.
So really, to get along with someone who is difficult or hard to get along with is the question of "TIME" ... because like many say, it takes time and patience for the other person to open, also requires a little investigation as to what they like or carefully observing how they handle their environment, and using that to get closer.
Friends must really care for each other, if not then it is a useless friendship which serves no benefit for both, therefore you yourself must be open and friendly and also understanding for the other person to accept you. If any rumors spread about them, then it is up to you to investigate the matter and think hard about how you handle the situation or the person.
Many people are kinda afraid to open up to others, but they start feeling that comfort once someone else offers them that comfort and therefore opens up endless benefits for you and that person.
So long story short, it is up to you to decide what actions will be taken, and how it help you and that person.
Sorry for the long post, just wanted to get that out of my chest.
So really, people that misunderstand without questioning the situation or information is likely to either be a difficult person to deal with or someone who has no care for others. If someone is willing to understand it means they questioned the actual information and decides to actually give effort into believing you, which is a good thing.
So really, to get along with someone who is difficult or hard to get along with is the question of "TIME" ... because like many say, it takes time and patience for the other person to open, also requires a little investigation as to what they like or carefully observing how they handle their environment, and using that to get closer.
Friends must really care for each other, if not then it is a useless friendship which serves no benefit for both, therefore you yourself must be open and friendly and also understanding for the other person to accept you. If any rumors spread about them, then it is up to you to investigate the matter and think hard about how you handle the situation or the person.
Many people are kinda afraid to open up to others, but they start feeling that comfort once someone else offers them that comfort and therefore opens up endless benefits for you and that person.
So long story short, it is up to you to decide what actions will be taken, and how it help you and that person.
Sorry for the long post, just wanted to get that out of my chest.
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I agree with this one here, to get closer to someone means to think real carefully as to how you handle that person and also having the patience to do so. Oh and not to forget, being JUST yourself is fine, just be firm about this matter and do your thing.
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I'd never just believe what others say or what rumors are spread about someone. Make your own opinion by talking to that person or having trivial small talks to understand how that person essentially works or how he/she thinks. Of course it takes time and you have to slowly develop a perceptiveness. But due to individual expirience and knowledge you can avoid misunderstandings!
My advice shake off all the rumors and Don't be scared! Have occasional conversations and trust your own JUDGMENT!
My advice shake off all the rumors and Don't be scared! Have occasional conversations and trust your own JUDGMENT!
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The best way to coexist with your fellow man is to accept and meditate on the fact that the selfish importance and emotional connection you place on your suffering, and the impact your every experience has had on you, is exactly how someone else feels about their own life.
When you accept on a practical level that other people have feelings, to the same degree, intensity, and profound effect that you do, it fosters a natural awareness of your own interactions with others, and allows for a growing curiosity about who they are on the inside. This is true empathy.
Once your curiosity starts to grow, open up to knowing about their inner selves.
When you accept on a practical level that other people have feelings, to the same degree, intensity, and profound effect that you do, it fosters a natural awareness of your own interactions with others, and allows for a growing curiosity about who they are on the inside. This is true empathy.
Once your curiosity starts to grow, open up to knowing about their inner selves.
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Lollikittie wrote...
The best way to coexist with your fellow man is to accept and meditate on the fact that the selfish importance and emotional connection you place on your suffering, and the impact your every experience has had on you, is exactly how someone else feels about their own life.When you accept on a practical level that other people have feelings, to the same degree, intensity, and profound effect that you do, it fosters a natural awareness of your own interactions with others, and allows for a growing curiosity about who they are on the inside. This is true empathy.
Once your curiosity starts to grow, open up to knowing about their inner selves.
This. Just hear them, and truly listen.