My cat likes being coddled

If you don't pick him up and pay attention to him, he will jump onto your shoulder.

Your cat's a pussy.

so who's the big spoon

My Herbie is the same way he has to be the center of attention.

He likes being up high, and will try to get higher than you. Thems signs your cat thinks he's above you from memory

He doesn't try to be higher than me.

He jumps onto my shoulder and then makes me hold him like a baby.