TheBookie wrote...
Aura-Desu wrote...
TheBookie wrote...
I like all of you...so no worries....not that my opinion matters much lol
not to sound mean or rude, but you shouldn't say stuff like that. self detrimental comments like that sound more like you have a low self esteem than just being modest. Nor am I saying you should over sell yourself and claim you are perfect. but I am sure you opinions do matter to your friends and saying stuff like that is like saying you have a low opinion of them as well. and I am sure you are a friendly and kind person who has no such ill intent. so try and think more positively okay? ^^
see, I knew I liked you for a reason.
And I trust me, I do try to be positive, doesn't always work lol, but I try...the self deprecating "humor" has some truth behind it stemming back to previous severe depression suffered (a lot of people around the forums have gone through much much worse, so I try not to harp on my misgivings as much) but anyway, the reason I am down at times is because it's just how I am, since I was raised in a home of high expectations, I would always hear, I'm not good enough, you're not trying hard enough etc. so that's just ingrained in my personality and it comes out at times. Now I don't really mean that my opinion doesn't matter, it's more of a jab at myself to keep myself in check and joke around a bit, tho it may come off more serious than it means since we only read, and not hear or see the actions/manners in how I say it. So basically I can be super hard on myself because my expectations in my head are so high that I push myself to do so many things at once and help anywhere I can, and sometimes I fail and it feels terrible, but when I succeed, hopefully it makes a difference
Also I like to ramble.....it happens. I think I got off topic but anyway.....
Welcome to the nook.....you can't escape now. muwhahahaha
Just don't use your past as an excuse for the present/future. The fact you are able to realize "why" you act the way you do is a good start in correcting or changing. Not to say that you can snap your fingers and be a new person, but it means you are self aware enough to realize how you can go about fixing it. I myself had parents who said the same thing, and now I have no family whatsoever, but that won't stop me. the expectations of others aren't what get you down, it is the expectations that "you" set for yourself. Life is short and harsh, and we must find any comfort or enjoyment out of it that we can.
You claim you aren't popular, and I do the same, but in actuality, we both are, to a certain extent. we each have shown ourselves and been rewarded with people who accept and like us for who we are, they do not judge us or tell us we aren't doing good enough. they are just there to support and bring us joy. Keep your expectations if you want, just realize that you won't always achieve them. always work to better yourself, but don't lose yourself along the way. Realize that your actions don't always just affect yourself. Even in the midst of sadness, a single smile can brighten a dim place.
You have made a new friend in me today, and while I may not always be active, and I am a bit eccentric. You will always have one more support who is looking forward to your bright future, your personality is what I like about you, and I can tell you care about your friends. So cheer up and give a smile to those you come to see here. I'm sure they are more than willing to smile back :D