netorare is my guilty pleasure. It makes me feel lousy at the end but it also has some of the best drawing styles. I binged on it yesterday, especially mama Tama and just when I thought it was useless I read the works of Aoki Kanji. It drained away all that hopelessness in an instant. Wondering why, it suddenly hit me.
Netorare is where the female acts like a board to her other half, acting goody goody and never realising pleasure in sex. Only "vanilla" sex. the guy acting like a complete vegetable doesn't pursue this thinking he's respecting her wishes. then the douchebag comes along and and breaks through those walls and surprise surprise, she finally starts enjoying sex. She associates this pleasure with the douchebag and so can't live without him anymore.
So, what's vanilla? Vanilla is where the couple has ntr sex with each other. Both parties want the other to feel amazing from sex. It doesn't need a guy with a bigger tool coming along and raping the woman, for her to realise sex feels amazing.
Reaching this understanding has made me immune to the effects of ntr.