razama wrote...
LostQuartet wrote...
razama wrote...
You can't let pass problems prevent what you are trying to do and who you are trying to be today.
Past problems are part of what defines a person and who they are at the time.
razama wrote...
If the biggest problem you are having right now is keeping a relationship longer than two months, then I think you simply haven't found the right person.
That, and also he probably does subconsciously or consciously freak out when the girl starts to take about things seriously. He hasn't found a girl that has been able to open him up yet, which kind of applies to everyone, but it may be harder for him than most because of that past.
Yeah I don't disagree with anything you said. My point though is that pass problems can have an effect on you and mold you, but they don't restrict you and you can't allow them to start to restrict you from doing what you want. If he thinks he has identified his problem, then great. But don't let it become an excuse, you now you are obligated to overcome it now that you now what to fight against.
This is like a person trying to quit smoking it can be done, but it is very difficult and the person always has the chance of going back to the addiction. It isn't that I don't wanna be rid of this it's that I am having trouble with it. I wanna find love and I wanna have kids. I don't wanna be like this forever.