A Friend of Mine is Braindead

ShaggyJebus · 2009-03-19T19:47:04-01:00

I feel bad for the people who come into this topic expecting some silly video. Early this morning, someone I've known for years curled up into the fetal position and stopped responding to the outside world. His stupid girlfriend, and her stupid friends, didn't call 911 because they were afraid he would go to jail, because there was a warrant for his arrest for skipping probation or whatever. Five hours after he collapsed, his father and stepmother finally came and called an ambulance. He was taken to the hospital, and the doctor said that he had an aneurysm in his brain that had popped or whatever. They transferred him to a better hospital, hoping that something could be done, but just a short while ago, he was pronounced braindead. All that's left is to take him off of life-support and let him die. This man, not even 25 years old, was a family friend, a guy who spent a lot of time with my mother and father, a guy who stood up for me in school, and I didn't even know it at the time. I'm not sure what's bothering me more, dealing with the death of a friend or seeing my father deal with the death of a friend. My father was closer to him than I was, and my dad's really taking it hard. I'm not asking for sympathy. I'm not asking for stories about how people knew people, and then they died. I'm just doing what I can to cope right now. If anyone wants to join me in a drink right now, I'd sure the guy would love it. He loved to drink, after all. So, here's to him! Rest in peace, man. I'll remember you.

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Korou

15 years ago

ShaggyJebus wrote...

I don't really know how to deal with death

there is no such a thing as a receipt on how to deal with it
i guess it al depends on how you can handle the situation right now

well i'll make a toast for your unkown friend
may he rest in peace at a place where he is able to enjoy himself

okami

15 years ago

a toast to your friend..
may he rest in peace..
and.. be there for your father.. just being with him would help a lot..

Dante1214

15 years ago

ShaggyJebus wrote...

Thanks, everyone, for the kinds word. He was a hell of a guy.

The Jesus wrote...

I could say a lot, since I was the one who found my brother after he had an aneurysm and he died from cancer a couple months later, but fuck it. You can't find anything in sympathy, wallowing in sorrow, or dwelling on past memories of the dead. Get drunk, cope the way you need to cope, and figure out how you're gonna take your next step forward.

That's exactly why I didn't ask for stories and such. I know people die. I just felt the need to express myself. I thought he deserved to have some random people know that he was gone. Thanks, everyone, for bothering to post. It gives me some comfort, though God knows why.

I don't really know how to deal with death. My grandfather died when I was in sixth grade, but I didn't really know him, and he never really cared about our family, so it wasn't a big deal. Close to a year ago, I heard that a friend from high school, who I was very close to for one year, had killed herself, but she'd died a couple of months before I heard, and I'd have zero contact with her for years, so the situation was very different from now. And that's all. I don't know anyone else that has died. I'm finding myself to be fine for 90% of the time, but I'll suddenly think about the nature of death and that no one will ever hear him speak again, and I break down.

Again, thanks everyone. I needed to let this out.

No one really knows how to deal with death. And it's never easy. But it's a part of life that we all end up having to deal with at some point. I think for most people it helps to stay close to good friends and especially family.
I'm sorry to hear about your friend.
I'll down a Whiskey for him.

dNextGen

15 years ago

a toast for your friend man, rest in peace

reality suck's

*pouring down some sake* and a toast we have...

Jonoe

15 years ago

May his memories bring back good times.

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