Attraction

What attracts you to a person? is it their physical apearance? personality? intelligence? something else?

for me, apearance may be the initial thing that draws me to a woman. but if she turns out to have a poor personality, or is ignorant and not willing to learn, she becomes very unatractive to me. it works both ways too though. she may not be the best looking woman i've ever seen, but if she is a good person or very intelligent, she starts looking very sexy to me.

Well obviouslly im attracted to a person appearance, but thats only something like sex or to fap.

Now a relationship is different: Cant be a Psycho already been there and thank god it didnt DO It. Now i like a girl who is cool, a girl i could be open with and talk to. Maybe have the same likes as me. stuff like books and gaming. Someone who is relaxed and would get hurt easily by my dumb comments. Someone to have fun with. ^^

30% physical. I prefer either super dark or blindingly pale women. No cornrows, no bleach blondes, and bonus points for red hair. I can't do chicks who have absolutely no ass, it's a cultural thing.

20% intelligence. I cannot stand somebody who I cannot hold a conversation with.

5% personality. I am seldom turned off by personality flaw. The only dealbreaker I've encountered are Elitists.

45% problems. I don't know why, I just don't like healthy people. I need somebody to take care of.

Come for the hotness, stay for the nerdyness!!

Initially it's the looks, then it's the personality and the intelligence.

The things that attracted me to my woman are the same that endear any person of either gender to me (creativity, elitism, keen wit, intelligence, sensitivity, independence, taste, a shared sense of humour, similar interests and convictions, etc.). What matters only with her - obviously, for I amn't polyamorous - is physical attraction and a certain penchant for sensuality.
Suffice to say that the right mix is ultra-rare and I haven't even met anyone other than her, ever, whom I'd consider even only remotely as attractive, thank god.

Easy ways for someone to become not just unattractive, but downright repulsive to me abound, and naming them all would truly drown this here place in a veritable flood of hatable characteristics. Dull, crass, loud, boastful, puritan, tasteless or naive people (again, either gender) frequently manage to disgust me the most, though .

I use my sixth sense to detect people.

I can tell if you're a good person or a bad person.

Same for everybody else, looks and personality are important. I mean I may find someone who I really get along well with, but if I don't find them attractive I'm not going to gain any feelings for them or want anything like that with them.

But then we all perceive good looks differently, so it's down to personal tastes I suppose. Although i've noticed that I tend to go for people that have complete opposite likings to me, which most of the time stops anything really happening for me.

Although a wise man once said, Looks aren't everything, but you can't wank over a personality.

I base my jugement soley on their personality and their combatibility with me, their apperance, social standing, background, and history means nothing to me it's about whats inside not whats outside.

An oddity. I seem to be attracted to women that have something slightly off about them, a particularly weird personality quirk or very strange habit...something out of the ordinary that catches my attention. I barely notice girls at all until I notice that one askew moment that catches my attention. After that, they just need to have a decent sense of humor, and we'll get along just fine.

Hah, that's bullshit. Two girls with the same personality, but one's hotter, and you'll go for the hotter one. No matter how much you get along with her, if she looks like a pack of wolves just snacked on her face, you're not falling in love any time soon. Check out the episode of Red Dwarf (British sci-fi comedy series) called Camille. It's on YouTube.

It's also been found that even blind people care about their partner's appearance. For reals.


Woah, woah. Naive people? Surely you mean ignorant people? Or are you saying you hate people that are innocent and childlike?


It's called insecurity. You want them to be dependant on you because you'd feel threatened by their independence and/or you're not very good at reading other people's emotions and attitude toward you, so their dependency would be one of the only signs you could understand. I'm an award-winning psychologist so you should trust me on this.

I prefer the term "COdependency", having an irrational need to help people, I fail to spend any time taking care of myself. I wouldn't say I'm threatened by independence, I was just brought up to fill the protector role--and find esteem when doing so.


Elitism (synonymous with classism) is despicable, it devalues humanity.
Elitism (synonymous with discretion) has great value, personally, socially, and economically.

I'm getting a "discretion" vibe, but if that's not your intention--I'm always open to plumbing the human psyche.

For me the first thing is appearance but only because there's no way to avoid that being first. Second is sense of humor. Third is personality. Fourth intellect. Fifth would be....weirdness I guess. I don't seem to get along with "normal" people all that well...then again I don't get along with downright crazy people either.

Personality, physical attraction, the usual of what almost everyone says. A huge thing for me is a similar musical tastes (I do it unintentionally). Yeah, lol

^ This.

Also, If they smoke Its a definite no.

I look for something unique to draw my attention then personality and shapely muscular legs.

Only Good personality will be enough ....

I am easily charmed by goofy yet smart, bespectacled men XD

Hate is too strong a strong word, but yes: I do find wide-eyed naïvety bothersome and annoying to the n-th degree. 't makes for bumbling, credulous fools that tend to get themselves, and everyone around them, into deep shit, all the time. Makes me cringe, to be frank.



I like people who
-know that they're better than everyone,
-know that their taste outclasses everyone else's,
-and that they don't need to conform to mass opinion
-nor require the appreciation of the rabble around them
to lead a happy life.

This may seem counter-intuitive, seeing how I stated that I dislike boastfulness, but in all truth and veracity, the above personality makes for a certain kind of detached self-certainty, that is actually incredibly pleasant, and easy to relate to - and comes with a greatly reduced load of needless drama, dick-length contests and false pretenses. These people are usually anything but boastful.