can anyone help?

ok I'm just about ready to kill myself every time i try to have a relationship i end up getting my heart ripped out and fucking destoyed i wonder if it's even worth me ever thinking of having a gf i fail that misserably.

ok I will take and upload new pics of me soon and want honest opinions about what you think of me in the time being i have some old pics (taken last summer up to december) i don't mind any negative comments lets just try and keep it a bit serious i know that may be hard to believe coming from me but i really want you guys and girls to give it to me straight ok no suger coated bullshit please thanks.

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ok ill try to get some new pics of me up soon but my comp is being repaired stupid assholes it's the fucking hard drive i told them -_- but i might be able to load up some pics on this comp either way if i forget and you care that much just pm me or pm me for the hell of it thanks for reading guys and girls

Even if you upload your pictures, it is kinda hard to determine what I think of you just based on your appearance. I can take this post into account, but that isn't exactly going to change much. From the information you have provided, you look like an ok guy. The post itself is a bit melodramatic, but if you really just got dumped, or something to that effect, I can understand it. In conclusion, from this limited information you seem fine to me. You're not bad looking, you seem to have a grasp on the english language, and from that last pic, there is a good chance you have a sense of humor.

Realize that none of us are really qualified to give you a complete answer here, but I guess if you want people to try...

um in that new one you look really good
ehh if this is about the rs im sorry cause i kinda take your women
but on a serious note nothings so bad you have to kill your self
go to anime conventions find girls that like what you like

this isn't about rs man thats fine it's just my whole life is kinda killing me at the moment and losing erin the other night was another laseration on my heart I'm being held together by a hairs width of hope for a happy life and a meaninfull relationship if i could paint how i see my heart it would be a angel hanging by a firey noose with broken wings and torn flesh a single crimson tear rolling down hear cheek the last remnats of happyness memorys of a better time have all benn bled from her as as she hangs there waiting to die sigh if only i could paint or do something to express how i feel i might actually feel better and thanks for your oppinions people

I had my heart broken 4 times by the same woman.
It's hard, but that's why I became an otaku.
Well, I hope you don't kill yourself CT, it's nice to see ya around in the RS.

thanks man and that must hurt

I love your hair color!
I think a short haircut would complement your bone structure better; and, perhaps you can try less baggy clothes?

It's not like there's anything problematic with your appearance ;D. And, looks aren't everything-- people always perceive these things differently, anyway, due to socialization.

I can now understand where you're coming from...
that's quite insane though, but you've got my utmost respect.

Well, I don't really know much about this kind of issues (since I've already given up on LOVE a long time ago) but judging from your pics, I'd say trim your hair a little bit more. And never say that you're "just about ready to kill" yourself over some lousy woman or whatever. That's not the best course of action and it wouldn't get you anywhere in life. (death means the end, obviously) Try thinking the other way around, why not tell yourself that you're just about ready to "love" again?

The main thing you need to remember is that a girlfriend will not make you happy. A girlfriend may help, but it is up to you to make yourself happy. If you have self-esteem problems, you have to fix them or get help. If you're unhappy and you're not sure why, you have to figure out why and do something about it.

Humans don't get into relationships just to feel better about life. We get into relationships to bond with another person and share life with that person. If you're unhappy before getting into a relationship, then if that relationship ends, you're going to be really unhappy. But if you're happy when you get into a relationship, even if the relationship ends, you'll still be able to be happy (after the fallout, of course).

Or, as the saying goes, "You can't love someone else until you love yourself."

I'm not saying you should stop trying to get with a girl. You just have to remember that getting a girlfriend isn't the best thing that could ever happen in your life. It's just one part of the great experience that is life.

Some more help - confidence matters. A lot. If you're confident, then girls will be more attracted to you. If you're worrying about whether your hair looks shitty or the clothes you're wearing look good, girls are going to notice that. Chicks smell fear, man. I know it can be hard to be confident, but if you keep trying, you'll get there.

What he said. You can't always be thinking that you need a relationship to make yourself happy. A lot of people around here seem to have that mindset, but it's pointless and will end poorly.

Also, don't be an emo kid.
And you look like you own a battle ax. And that's awesome. So don't worry so much.

thanks but as i said old pics i have cut my hair shorter (in fact it could do with another cut and coloure right about now) and just before christmas my whole image was changed (not willingly damn fammily) but i have to admit i like alot of it and thanks.
also i want a relation ship so i know i can actually be loved like a human because at the moment i don't feel very alive and i have never really had a relationship i want to know what it's like to love and be loved.

also due to medical historey i lack confidance in myself but i can stump up some when i need it i just feel as thaough I'm too fucked up to ever be loved and death is all too much of a reality to me i can't help what i was and what i am.

also damn were did that camera go i really need to get some new pics up to show you what I'm like now

Why thank you Hermit, I have much respect for you too. 8)

Here ya go crimson, just one song I listen to to remind me of my ex.




Hopefully you'll like it to Hermit. 8)

EDIT:
And this too, cause you know, I still think about her even though I said I'd never love again either.

I want to share something to you too theotaku...(& for those who fail'd in love)





I just like listening to some of those classics from time to time...
just to remind myself of such times...

when i read all of the post here, i came to think, most of my side of the sex fails you guys, i feel like i wish i had met you guys in real life and be friends with you, i would like to be the one who can talk to you guys in times like that. but believe me, i too am lonely even though i am a friendly person, the guys around me never notice me, maybe its because im so stuck in front of the pc, kinda fat and im such a geek -@.@- and tomboyish, sometimes makes silly decisions, even stupid mistakes that are really noticeable that made me embarrass my self on front of friends, but oh well, maybe that's my personality and i somewhat think that im still young and never give up looking for the right person to suddenly come and share life with.

I sincerely hope you find that someone, don't give up just yet. (unlike me who've already quite given up a long time ago)... hoping doesn't do me any good... At least, I'd wish for others like you to obtain happiness. (best regards) And even though we couldn't see and talk face to face with each other, I somewhat already consider you guys like family. :)

in some way it's kinda nice to know that other people are going through the same thing also what country are you from?

also you seem like a perfectly likeable person i already like you ^_^ new rs member anybody?

your a girl?..........

anyway.....crimson_tears:
i think spike hair suites you......also.....if you often smile......people will like you(yeah....im a dumb ass that always smile even if im angry or sad,but hey,becoz of that, all my classmates from elementary till now(college) are my friends, no enemy, even on my senpais)......no serious face.....lol.....dont take things personaly......it will hurt you in the end.....anyway, i think girls will like you if your friendly and polite........sorry i wasnt any of help.....btw...whats an rs?.............

rs....

it can only mean one thing....


The feared, Random Squad!!

....oh...naruhodo...its the forum created by members right?......

People probably think you are an idiot.
So I guess that's the trade off.
If you are friendly and polite, girls will want you to be their friend.
But this is only a good plan if you are asexual.

When I make friends, I keep them, but I don't make friends easily or often.
And I don't generally understand why my friends like me.
I mean, I'm great and all, but I often get the impression I'm not at all personable.

You shouldn't worry so much, though. There isn't really a way to force yourself to be some ideal man that every woman wants. You are who you are, pretending to be anything else it pointless.