Can standards be too high?
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Hello, I have a bit of a problem.
I am a 19 year old Sophomore at a certain University in Michigan.
Now, meeting women and going on dates, I have no problem with.
It's the actually finding of one that meets the standards I have for my chosen partner.
Said standards are a bit hard to describe given that most of it is a "gut feeling".
But simplisticly put, her personality, attitude, lifestyle, and intelligence all matter to me.
I cannot stand the "Bleached Blonde/I'm addicted to tanning salons/i'm the prettiest bitch youll ever meet" type.
My question again is, Does having "High standards" simply mean you'll never meet someone good enough for yourself?
I am a 19 year old Sophomore at a certain University in Michigan.
Now, meeting women and going on dates, I have no problem with.
It's the actually finding of one that meets the standards I have for my chosen partner.
Said standards are a bit hard to describe given that most of it is a "gut feeling".
But simplisticly put, her personality, attitude, lifestyle, and intelligence all matter to me.
I cannot stand the "Bleached Blonde/I'm addicted to tanning salons/i'm the prettiest bitch youll ever meet" type.
My question again is, Does having "High standards" simply mean you'll never meet someone good enough for yourself?
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No, having high standards just means you won't see the best qualities in those girls that don't meet those standards you have. You'll be too focused on those standards to see something else that may get you to like them.
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Hmm, I see what you mean. Though it's sort of difficult to put into practice.
Usually, I notice pretty much everything that "matters" to me on first impression.
However, there are times where I'll meet someone and get to know them, noticing alot of good in them, but it's always not to be so to speak. Anywhere from that girl already having a boyfriend and or is married (lol), in which pursuing them goes agaisnt my morals.
I think, when I get right down to it, I just have plain bad luck with girls.
I do appreciate the words of wisdom!
Usually, I notice pretty much everything that "matters" to me on first impression.
However, there are times where I'll meet someone and get to know them, noticing alot of good in them, but it's always not to be so to speak. Anywhere from that girl already having a boyfriend and or is married (lol), in which pursuing them goes agaisnt my morals.
I think, when I get right down to it, I just have plain bad luck with girls.
I do appreciate the words of wisdom!
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standards or not you'll know when you like someone so it realy doesn't matter how high your standards are, but if you dismiss women before you get to know them than you're only getting in your own way
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I think username02 summed it up. You don't have to lower your standards but don't let them blind you from getting to know someone just because they don't meet those standards from first impressions.
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username02 wrote...
standards or not you'll know when you like someone so it realy doesn't matter how high your standards are, but if you dismiss women before you get to know them than you're only getting in your own wayi third this
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Andoru-Kun wrote...
Can standards be too high?Yes.
Andoru-Kun wrote...
My question again is, Does having "High standards" simply mean you'll never meet someone good enough for yourself?Quite possibly.
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=\ Hmm, it sounds reasonable enough. I'll try putting more effort into it I guess.
As I am quite the lazy person when it comes to dealing with others.
Only problem I forsee coming from it is attachments. Either myself getting to into the girl that I screw up and scare her away, or vice versa. Then again, as a male with such knowledge of "tsundere" and "yandere". I'd probably be ecstatic.
Then again.... I've had to deal with a stalker behaviour from a girl before. Not really fun. especially when you somehow become the bad guy....
Anyhow, thanks for the advice everyone.
As I am quite the lazy person when it comes to dealing with others.
Only problem I forsee coming from it is attachments. Either myself getting to into the girl that I screw up and scare her away, or vice versa. Then again, as a male with such knowledge of "tsundere" and "yandere". I'd probably be ecstatic.
Then again.... I've had to deal with a stalker behaviour from a girl before. Not really fun. especially when you somehow become the bad guy....
Anyhow, thanks for the advice everyone.