I kinda need some advice.

There's someone I have a pretty huge crush on.

I want to stop.

I really need to stop liking her.

I don't want any questions as to why I want to stop having this crush. I just want to fall out of love.

Please help.

Fall out of love? That's not easy, but here's some tips to help.

The most efficient way to fall out of love with someone, is to fall in love with someone else. Try to find someone who you like more or develop a relationship with someone else whilst keeping your distance from the person you currently like.

Try to associate the person you like with something bad. Try to make some sort of bad experience with the person to create tension between you two.

Spending less time around the person will help too.

I usually specialize in helping people with a love they want to have so I'm not sure how much help this will be ^^; I'm sorry if this doesn't work for you, and I'm curious as to why you want to fall out of love, but I'll respect your privacy.

Yes I agree with ThorW-kun. I don't think this will help, but my way is to forget about her completely. Like ThorW-kun I specialize with helping people get to love not go away from it. Srry if I didn't really helped or anything.

well, i'm not sure if this will help you or not. try to get yourself in activities that will distract you thought from thinking her, avoid spending time and space with her if possible. find someone else to love in short time is not appropriate, is like forcing yourself to love someone while you have no idea about your feelings. that's torturing yourself.

Try to make some sort of bad experience with the person to create tension between you two is not good idea too, what if she's friend of your friend or friend of your relatives, then you have a lot of explaining to do, or if the plan backfire, and you'll be the one in a situation that might attract attention like people misunderstood you.

anyway, time will heal, maybe you won't think about her when you know there are friends that will give advice and guide you. besides there are a lot of girls out there, so don't be trouble by one, go out and get them, tiger!

hope this help you.

Stop spending as much time with that person, do other things to distract you. However falling out of love is a very hard, even somewhat challenging thing to do.

But I guess you have your reasons.

Question, why don't you just confess to her?

That could work too.
...if she says no.

Yeah, usually people fall out of love if they get denied.

But it would be easier if you told us why.

Just wanna ask...you sure you're not trying to deceive yourself? Why would you force yourself to stop liking someone you liked?

Well, if you really need to...hmm...try to create some bad memories with her.

I'll share, because I've decided, I really can't follow any of this advice.

It's hard to try to associate or create bad memories with her, I just can't do it, she's too nice of a person for that. As for confessing, I don't think I even have the courage or confidence. I'm a failure as a person and as a man. Even when I try to busy myself with something else, I just can't help but think about her.

I've definitely fallen hard for her, but I feel like I'm a horrible person to begin with, and I don't want her to have to put up with such a person. Even before this, I've been looking up on wikihow whether or not there's signs of her liking me back, but to be honest, I can't help but be skeptical about those how-to articles.

I mean, are those even accurate? Am I an idiot for trying to use those? I'm sorry, I'm taking this in a weird direction.

But I guess the largest reason as to why I want to fall out of love with her is simply because...I'm afraid.

I mean, I've never felt this vulnerable towards anyone, so I'm very afraid of what would happen, regardless of the outcome.

I mean, I keep saying to myself, "this isn't possible, it's illogical to even have these feelings. She's younger than me. It won't work out."

Well, it's a HS crush. I know, it's stupid, it's my first, and I'm probably being delusional.

I'm a senior and I just turned 18, she's a sophomore. Since I'm graduating this year, I don't want to leave any lingering sentiments or attachments.

I think this is just an infatuation, but since I fessed up, feel free to make fun. I hate showing a weak side to anyone so being this honest to anyone at all is like swallowing my pride.

I want to make this work now. Do I confess regardless of the outcome or do I wait while still spending time with her? Do I have to be more obvious about my feelings or continue to be shy and awkward around her?

Just do it. If it works it works if not you got a good experience out of it.

Fess up boy, it's better to let words out now than never.

BTW, did you join when you were 17?

Ok first of all, why would you be a horrible person, from what I've been able to tell your nothing less then any of us. Thinking bad about yourself isn't going to change who you are, I used to think that way about myself as well but then I realized I'm just who I am no matter what (bad) image I tend to draw myself off as.

Also, don't take offence in me phrasing it like this but, the only who should decide whether they'll put up with you is her not you. (Considering she knows you.) You can't sketch yourself as a bad person like that for no reason, because to others you might be much more valuable then you might imagine. Not being able to confess isn't something to be ashamed over, it's a difficult task to do. However it's something that should be done at the right time, so take your time working it out if you want to let your feelings be known. (Actions sometimes say more then words.) By the way don't read articles, everyone experiences love in a different way, there are no manuals on this. Tips yes, but in the end your situation will always be different and unique from others' ones. (See it as a puzzle that only you can work out.)

I understand that you are afraid of the outcome, it's frightening to be so vulnerable. Trust me, during the time I was in love I had the same feeling. I constantly was anxious, I didn't want to mess anything up because I wanted to be a good guy towards her. Everything she did had an impact on me, every move she made whether made me very happy or really sad, it felt really strange being so affected by one person. That's how vulnerable one can feel during love. But the outcome shouldn't scare you, yes we always hope for a good outcome but (although I know this is a very hard fact the accept but it's something we most likely something we all had to coop with at one point) there is always the fact that you can get denied. However even though one can suffer greatly from this, you must never blame yourself for falling in love because that is neither your fault nor hers. Doing what you feel is right and pursuing love is something that you never should feel guilty about.

Also don't lift too greatly on the age difference, sure it may seem really weird to some but a person isn't always defined by their age. Age doesn't always decide whether a love works or not. However try not to rush it, but at the same side don't sit it out to long. (This is a very hard task to do and honestly I had problems finding the balance too.) Try to let your feelings shine through but don't suffocate her with them, be nice to her but also don't neglect your own opinion, she needs to see you for who you are and not for someone you imagine that you should be to her.

Honestly I see no need to make fun of you, it's very brave of you to openly express your feelings (especially on the internet). Lots of people have troubles talking through their honest feelings, because it makes you really vulnerable, so that shows a clear sign of maturity and braveness from your side. Honestly that's one step closer that you get to letting your real feelings shine though, something that'll be of use when you are around her.

Sorry if I seem like I'm acting as your "best friend" even though we've never really spoken before but I'm just trying to share my advice from my past experiences (both happiness and grievances). I'm in no way a love guru, just an ordinary guy that has also experienced the feelings that you have.

I wish you the best of luck though.

Don't make the mistake I did when I was your age. It turned out that she also felt the same towards me. I only found out years later and after she had married someone else.

Being shy is a real pain, I know that from experience. Just suck it up and try, what do you have to loose?

Now go get her.

one way that i know, is that you get the person to reject you. the probablity of that happening is 50/50. but the probability of you still liking her after she rejects you is in the 90% area

for the first way, it's more than likely that you will
1)not confess
2)still have strong lingering feelings for her

the 2nd way i know is that you need to fall in love with someone else. it's not an easy thing to do, but like they say, "there are more fish in the sea."

like the others, i'm not one to give advice to stop liking someone, because pushing away something or someone you desire is a hard thing to do. i respect you for having asked for advice on giving up ^_^ but who knows, if you liked her and went out with her, what would happen? if i were in your position i'd think: hey, might as well let human nature take it's course. whatever's going to happen, will happen, whether it be good or bad. then again, i'm also a coward who is afraid to confess, so who knows what'll happen if i were you XD

i bet a decent amount of us have fallen for people we shouldn't have. it's quite painful to like something forbidden. but i guess that at some point we knew it was wrong.

@Zero: Lol....from what I've read...I really can't help but think you're so cute...I mean, loving her so much to the point you're afraid to have her putting up with a person like you? Wow.

If that's how it is...all I can say is man up, and go for it. I don't think it's bad, seriously. If you decide to kill the love yourself, I'm just afraid that the regret will be too big for you to bear later on.

Alright, you want her to like you back now? That's good I can help with this. Since you seem to genuinely like this girl and not just want to use her, I'll pm you with some great tips and allow you into some of my best techniques.

on my opinion
confess and be straightforward
Most of the time Sophomores look up to the higher batches
so you have an "advantage",you just need to be "cool" I guess(I think Dating is like an Eroge or something like that and most of the time what I do works)

...I think reading "The World Only God Knows" might help
just my 2 cents

I say confess. I once had a similar agonizing hesitation over a girl, and after I confessed to her, even though she rejected me, I was so relieved I couldn't stop laughing for the following minutes.

Speaking of rejections, I'm planning to confess to another girl tomorrow evening. Wish me luck, and together with me wish Zero!!! luck for confessing to the girl he's interested in. Which he should.

That's just like me. <.<
Except it's true.

Oh yeah, also, you've already reached Stage 1 of getting over her!
Admitting to yourself that you like her.
...I can't contribute anymore.