Safe Day?

Yea, that was my guess that she was on birth control. But I don't say "It's a safe day" on my pill. If I've been good on my pill all month I'll just say do it inside. If not my partner knows ahead of time that this month isn't good to be finishing inside.

No real girl knows what specific day she knows when to come inside.
It's possible that "It's a safe day" is just poorly translated from Japanese to Enlgish.

I agree, I think that there was something lost in translation. There is no way you'd just know.

That's why I said that those tests are useless for safe day measures. They're used to get pregnant, not the other way around.

I merely pointed those tests out for the interests of other members.

That scenario I setup earlier was just for ease of explanation, we all know women aren't robots and will have flexible cycles.

I know you did.

??? seriously, you didn't know ???????

^_^

Neither do I..... at first...

I was told that she was safe.......................

















BOTH TIMES... and now i have 1, 3yr old and a kid on the way....................




Well to me now..

There is no safe day.

Always use a rubber..

You dont want to get diseases anyways..

Well I can agree with you on the whole "use rubbers because the safe days is a lie" part, but I don't think you need to worry about diseases. As long as both of you have proper genital hygiene and don't have multiple other sex parents then there most likely isn't that big of chance you'll get a disease from having sex.

Safety first in my opinion. A condom is the best way in the end to prevent a mess and not to mention also the safest and most likely cheapest. Because to be honest, neither men that claim to be able to hold everything inside nor women that claim that the chance of pregnancy is 0 while being horny are very reliable. Try solving when it is a safe day during sex and you actually love your partner and feel good.... I bet you won't get past the first 1 - 2 additions / subtractions.

I have to put in a vote for yea on the safe day thing. My gf and I have had sex without the use of condoms before, and we've been successful so far and that's about a year and a half so far.

You aren't supposed to TELL people that there is any time at which you can have unprotected sex and not risk pregnancy, because then people will think they can actually figure out the days properly, and most people can't do it entirely accurately. Women are different, and even the same women will not necessarily maintain a set cycle. If you are a gynecologist, then you should have no problem figuring out when it's ok to fuck your girlfriend without a condom and not get her pregnant. But as just some dude, you'd be better of using some form of birth control.

Actually a lot of condoms do not prevent STDs, and many only reduce the chance - and not by that much. On the condom packets we have it actually says "does not prevent the spread of STDs"

They do prevent HIV though, since you actually need to have a fluid exchange. But herpes and warts are still just as likely to happen.

Ah, but what if you ask your gyno and they give you the schedule?

If you go every month? maybe.
But if you are in a monogamous relationship, why not just use the pill or other contraceptive?

That's like telling your kid "the mousey ain't dead, it's only sleeping".
This might sound cynical, but I'm all for telling people the truth, no matter what they make of it.
If you're not supposed to tell people that there is any time at which you can have unprotected sex and not risk pregnancy, then you're not supposed to tell people that protected sex is OK either. Condoms are so terribly unsafe that sex with a diseased partner is Russian roulette with an 8,3333333333-shooter revolver.
The only way to really stay safe from STDs without living abstinent is fidelity and regular check-ups; the only halfway reliable way to really avoid pregnancy are the pill, etonogestrel combinations, IUS or sterilisation in both partners, as individual sterilization has a surprisingly high failure rate.
The condom is a very convenient and practical method, and I'm all for people using protection, but one needs to remember that it always remains a placebo to some degree (the aforementioned 8.3333333 degree), and that it isn't the magical protection against STDs and/or pregnancy it is sometimes billed to be.



It doesn't really work that way. Going to a gyno once a month won't do you any good. The cervical mucus and basal temperature needs to be sampled much more frequently (You don't need to be a gyno, but you need to know your body well. Better than most girls do, in any case), the woman needs to have an absolutely stable estrus, and if she's below 35 years of age you can pretty much forget about it. And if there's the slightest bit of stress, or any other factor that might destabilize her estrus, the whole thing flies out the fucking window straight to the moon. Add to that that with this method you can only have intercourse when her libido is at its lowest, and it becomes a very, very unfeasible method of contraception, despite its high safety rating in a perfect use case environment.

I did say "maybe."

Any you CAN tell the truth about things all the time...if you want to just be a dick about it. People do not want or like to hear the truth all the time, and will continue to lie to themselves about most things, because it's more convenient to them. And if you tell them something that is true and also convenient for them, they may well ignore any further caveat and just pay attention to the good parts.
In this case, that means you say to a person, "yes, there are times when you can have unprotected sex without any risk of pregnancy, BUT..." and they stop listening right there, get their girlfriend knocked up, and wonder why.