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What do you think of it? Do you have sex friends or your friend has some. For me i have a serious relationship with my fiancee but i cant still stop calling some of my sex friends. BTW i live in Japan sO practically sex in here is just a game. So people dont make a big fuss about it but as tIme goes by i feel guilty having sexfriends and i was thinking of saying it to my fiancee but im afraid of losing her. Can someone give me an advice or something? Please someone help me!
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animefreak_usa
Child of Samael
I had one for five years... now were in a open relationship since were both bi.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
You can't say you have a serious relationship with you fiancee and still keep secrets from her, much less secrets that involve you sleeping with other women! Emphasis on the plural! You need to man up and think long and hard to yourself. Do you really want to settle down with your fiancee and live a happy, normal life, or do you just wanna get laid. It's one or the other.
As for having to tell her, I don't really wanna say anything that could ultimately jeopardize you social life. You put yourself in a situation this deep. You're gonna have to pull yourself out.
If you're wondering why I'm being so harsh, put it this way: a lot of Fakku users hate NTR doujins (cheating). If we can't tolerate infidelity in fantasy, how do you expect us to do so in real life?
As for having to tell her, I don't really wanna say anything that could ultimately jeopardize you social life. You put yourself in a situation this deep. You're gonna have to pull yourself out.
If you're wondering why I'm being so harsh, put it this way: a lot of Fakku users hate NTR doujins (cheating). If we can't tolerate infidelity in fantasy, how do you expect us to do so in real life?
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No its not that harsh but very nice advice, thanks but i was really thinking of telling her and what ever happens, im just gonna take it like a man, i think its better to tell her that than she founding about it.
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I'm not against the concept. I doubt I would keep a sexfriend if I was in a serious relationship, but I'm certainly at no point going to condemn someone for those actions.
It's easy to condemn someone for going around their significant other and having sex with someone else, but each relationship is a unique and different experience, and not all of them have to operate the same way.
It's easy to condemn someone for going around their significant other and having sex with someone else, but each relationship is a unique and different experience, and not all of them have to operate the same way.
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
soulmate122 wrote...
No its not that harsh but very nice advice, thanks but i was really thinking of telling her and what ever happens, im just gonna take it like a man, i think its better to tell her that than she founding about it.Well, at least it's good to see you taking responsibility. Sorry if I came across as too harsh. Good luck anyway, bro. *gives bro hug*
animefreak_usa wrote...
I had one for five years... now were in a open relationship since were both bi.You lucky bastard...
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That's really absurd in my country.
It's only natural if you have a girlfriend and you have sex with her.
It's only natural if you have a girlfriend and you have sex with her.
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well, if you're not that satisfied, might as well let her know like artcellrox suggested (probably get a 3-some)
gonna be tough telling her though, cause she might feel inadequate and feel hurt because she's not enough for you...
-->you can do it!!
gonna be tough telling her though, cause she might feel inadequate and feel hurt because she's not enough for you...
-->you can do it!!
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Wow, you have sex friends in Japan, seriously? Are they gaijins too, or japanese? Can you give some contacts? I want to have sex with a japanese girl. Just kidding, but I know someone who really does want one. Onegaishimasu.
Anyways, you got to face it like a man! Either tell her or don't tell her. But the truth will come out anyway somewhat, so it's better to tell her straight in the face. By calling her your fiancee that means you're engaged, right? Well, if that's the case then you must tell her to prove that you are really serious with settling down with her.Best-case is she will forgive you. Worst-case is that you'll be breaking up. EIther way if you are really serious with her then go the extra mile to prove it.
Anyways, you got to face it like a man! Either tell her or don't tell her. But the truth will come out anyway somewhat, so it's better to tell her straight in the face. By calling her your fiancee that means you're engaged, right? Well, if that's the case then you must tell her to prove that you are really serious with settling down with her.Best-case is she will forgive you. Worst-case is that you'll be breaking up. EIther way if you are really serious with her then go the extra mile to prove it.
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
As above and the guy with a classy avatar said: Tell her, and just take it. if she breaks up with you, deal with it. it's your fault for breaking her trust. If she stays with you and you're on your last straws, best be good.
Odds are if you don't tell her, she'll walk in on you and you'll get royally f'd in the a.
to answer your question: I wouldn't want to have a sex friend. I don't want sex from anyone except my girlfriend. My girlfriend telling me that she had a sex friend at some point annoys me (then again, when she tells me about her sex life, it kinda annoys me :/ )
but yeah, short long story short, i don't much like sex friends
Odds are if you don't tell her, she'll walk in on you and you'll get royally f'd in the a.
to answer your question: I wouldn't want to have a sex friend. I don't want sex from anyone except my girlfriend. My girlfriend telling me that she had a sex friend at some point annoys me (then again, when she tells me about her sex life, it kinda annoys me :/ )
but yeah, short long story short, i don't much like sex friends
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definitely, definitely tell her. if you're going to do that, it should at least have been made clear in the boundaries of your relationship if you could (ie open relationship.) either way, someone's going to be hurt. probably both of you. on one hand, she might completely throw you out and break up with you. on the other, she might try to forgive you and say it's okay. either way, she'll be hurt, even if she does forgive you, and you'll probably feel like shit, too.
now for a few questions, my friend~
- for all intents and purposes, do you love her?
- why do you/did you feel the need to have sex friends?
- have you ever had sex with your fiancee, or is that why you need sex friends or something?
now for a few questions, my friend~
- for all intents and purposes, do you love her?
- why do you/did you feel the need to have sex friends?
- have you ever had sex with your fiancee, or is that why you need sex friends or something?
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
perhaps she doesn't want sex before marriage. and he wanted sex earlier. in which case, no offense, but it seems like she deserves better. either way, i can't say it sounds like you deserve her. remember kids, nobody likes a noob who has to cheat to win. cheaters never prosper. etc etc.. i still cheat on grand theft auto san andreas, cause i like fast cars, i don't settle for no shitty utes. bam son.
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If she doesn't satisfy your needs, why get into a monogamous relationship with her in the first place?
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artcellrox
The Grey Knight :y
Drifter995 wrote...
As above and the guy with a classy avatar said: Tell her, and just take it. if she breaks up with you, deal with it. it's your fault for breaking her trust. If she stays with you and you're on your last straws, best be good.Odds are if you don't tell her, she'll walk in on you and you'll get royally f'd in the a.
to answer your question: I wouldn't want to have a sex friend. I don't want sex from anyone except my girlfriend. My girlfriend telling me that she had a sex friend at some point annoys me (then again, when she tells me about her sex life, it kinda annoys me :/ )
but yeah, short long story short, i don't much like sex friends
Wait, did you mean me?
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menolly-hime wrote...
definitely, definitely tell her. if you're going to do that, it should at least have been made clear in the boundaries of your relationship if you could (ie open relationship.) either way, someone's going to be hurt. probably both of you. on one hand, she might completely throw you out and break up with you. on the other, she might try to forgive you and say it's okay. either way, she'll be hurt, even if she does forgive you, and you'll probably feel like shit, too.now for a few questions, my friend~
- for all intents and purposes, do you love her?
- why do you/did you feel the need to have sex friends?
- have you ever had sex with your fiancee, or is that why you need sex friends or something?
-i love her very much! My world revolves on her!
-They were the ones who invited me to be thier sexfriend, they were my friends before i met my fiancee
-nope we havent done it and maybe thats the reason
doing that to her makes me feel guilty right now, im planning to tell her everything this month maybe next week just trying to bulid the courage to say everything to her and be rapeady for whatever happens after this.
artcellrox wrote...
Drifter995 wrote...
As above and the guy with a classy avatar said: Tell her, and just take it. if she breaks up with you, deal with it. it's your fault for breaking her trust. If she stays with you and you're on your last straws, best be good.Odds are if you don't tell her, she'll walk in on you and you'll get royally f'd in the a.
to answer your question: I wouldn't want to have a sex friend. I don't want sex from anyone except my girlfriend. My girlfriend telling me that she had a sex friend at some point annoys me (then again, when she tells me about her sex life, it kinda annoys me :/ )
but yeah, short long story short, i don't much like sex friends
Wait, did you mean me?
I think he/she is talking about you
And for all that replied to this post. THANK YOU ALL!!!!
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Well thank you too.
Now give me those friends. I live in Japan too. Just kidding though.
You must be one heck of a guy, having women ask you for pleasure and stuff.
Anyways if it all pushes through, you better take good care of your girl from now on.
Good relationships revolve around the word "communication".
Well, best of luck to you man. I hope you do well.
Oh, and one more thing, just a personal experience. I also kind of cheated when I attempted to have sex on chat or something to another girl (I know it's lame, don't kill me and stuff)in the past. I told my girlfriend about it and she got mad and stuff and it's a long process of forgiveness and stuff. Now our relationship is in it's fifth year. I never attempted anything like that ever since.
Bottom line is she deserves your honesty nonetheless.
Now give me those friends. I live in Japan too. Just kidding though.
You must be one heck of a guy, having women ask you for pleasure and stuff.
Anyways if it all pushes through, you better take good care of your girl from now on.
Good relationships revolve around the word "communication".
Well, best of luck to you man. I hope you do well.
Oh, and one more thing, just a personal experience. I also kind of cheated when I attempted to have sex on chat or something to another girl (I know it's lame, don't kill me and stuff)in the past. I told my girlfriend about it and she got mad and stuff and it's a long process of forgiveness and stuff. Now our relationship is in it's fifth year. I never attempted anything like that ever since.
Bottom line is she deserves your honesty nonetheless.
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igarcia wrote...
Well thank you too.Now give me those friends. I live in Japan too. Just kidding though.
where do you live in japan i live in gyotoku chiba
igarcia wrote...
You must be one heck of a guy, having women ask you for pleasure and stuff.Anyways if it all pushes through, you better take good care of your girl from now on.
Good relationships revolve around the word "communication".
Well, best of luck to you man. I hope you do well.
just add me up on FB my name is tsushima yuki
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Drifter995
Neko//Night
artcellrox wrote...
Drifter995 wrote...
As above and the guy with a classy avatar said: Tell her, and just take it. if she breaks up with you, deal with it. it's your fault for breaking her trust. If she stays with you and you're on your last straws, best be good.Odds are if you don't tell her, she'll walk in on you and you'll get royally f'd in the a.
to answer your question: I wouldn't want to have a sex friend. I don't want sex from anyone except my girlfriend. My girlfriend telling me that she had a sex friend at some point annoys me (then again, when she tells me about her sex life, it kinda annoys me :/ )
but yeah, short long story short, i don't much like sex friends
Wait, did you mean me?
indeed i did. ;D
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How old are you and your fiance?
How come you don't sleep with the women you are going to marry?
Well I had sex friends and it ALWAYS went terribly wrong because one of us would eventually fell in love while the other of course wouldn't. But I was never in a relationship while having a sex friend.
To be honest here, if your fiance is like 90% of all female on this planet you are screwed ....my condolences.
How come you don't sleep with the women you are going to marry?
Well I had sex friends and it ALWAYS went terribly wrong because one of us would eventually fell in love while the other of course wouldn't. But I was never in a relationship while having a sex friend.
To be honest here, if your fiance is like 90% of all female on this planet you are screwed ....my condolences.