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im probably not the only lonely bastard on these forums searching for that special someone, so with that i call to singles and pairs alike. i might be single now... but i dont plan to be all my life, and i would like to come prepared to the battle and have an unbiased median of what to look for in a quality girl. if you could be so kind as to help fill in your own answer to these questions as well as give some constructive criticism on my own answers it would be greatly appreciated, and ill be sure to do the same. who knows, you may learn somethin yourself. if you dont wanna listen to my novel however, please just answer the questions so that i may have a better variation. im sorry for the length... but thanks!

A) what kind of personality do you look for/does your partner have? this can be as descriptive or vague as you please.

B) what do you look for physically in a partner?

this ones a bit personal.

C) what does your partner enjoy during sexual activities, or what would you like to try? favorites and experiments a must.

you may wonder how thisll help me, or perhaps you! everyone has prefernces so you might think this question is an empty hole of unhelpful answers. but the point is, try something new! might not be theyre favorite, but you might be suprised if its something outta the ordinary.

D) are there any hobbies you would like to have similar interests in with him/her? any conflicting hobbies?

E) whats one experience you have had/would like to have that would only be right with that person?


i appreciate it guys and girls, i really do. i cant wait to hear from all of you! my answers are down below.


A answer) i would like a girl whos open to new thoughts, ideas and experiences and is easy to share a laugh with. very shy exterior with complex ideals and beliefs few get to know with a sense of self satisfaction(nothing makes you look fat! lol). lustful lustful lustful! being a virgin and hentai veteran, the one thing thats stuck from all those pages is a girl who can be shy or outgoing, but you get her the right way and its like being attacked by a wild tiger! dream a dream.

B answer) call me shallow but looks are important... not fundemental, but important. the most important aspect to me is someone with really, really deep eyes. ive only had the pleasure of experiencing sensational eyes two or three times, but you can truly lose yourself in them.

C answer) i couldnt say for sure as i havent had the privilege of exploring a womans body to the full extent, but ive found the neck is sometimes a weak spot. this questions criticism is the most appreciated!

D answer) this is the most out there, but a girl with an interest in hentai and video games would be EXTREMELY IDEAL. this is an important factor to me as anime, video games and hentai are no longer hobbies, but a fundemental part of my life. not so much that i rely on them or they engulf my social life in a pit of nerdom... but i think you can relate somewhat with one of your hobbies. a girl with unique and different music tastes would be a change of pace, thats the only diverging hobby i can think of right now that i would enjoy.

E answer) thanks to evangelion ive become a hopeless loser for this... i would enjoy a simple day in bed, laying naked with her and skipping work while talking about anything and everything. the idea gives me a sense of serene simplicity, i would really like to have a legimate experience like this.

YOU CANNOT CANNOT CANNOT FALL FOR SOMEONE YOU ARE NOT SEXUALLY ATTRACTED TO; DO NOT TRY TO BUILD THAT, ITS IMPOSSIBLE.

physical really is one of the core basis for any relationship.

ill give you my full answer tomorrow.

Sadly he is right,

No matter what a person tells you or what they say, they wont like someone who is not good looking to them.

you can have the best personality in the world but if your not attractive girls/guys wont really pay attention to you.
We live in a world dominated by looks and shallownes?..thats not a word is it?

Its not sad at all. Of course there's a limit to how much of a role physical attraction should play. I mentioned this in one of the Motemote battles. You are not going to be able to be with someone who you find repulsive or makes you vomit every time you see him/her. It just doesn't work that way. Its not like a person has to be a model for them to be attractive physically, they just have to have enough respect for themselves to look respectable in public. I personally don't give a shit what other people think about me, but when I go out, unless I'm trying to scare people or make money pretending to be homeless, I make sure that I'm not a fucking mess.

Its not shallow to think a person's appearance is important. The only way its shallow is if that's all you think is important.

Physical attractiveness is undoubtedly important, but I think Waar's statement was too absolute. The example I use is my best buddy's relationship... Basically this girl asked him out awhile back, they had been kinda friends for awhile etc. Well he had to think long and hard about that, because she was not up to his normal standards of attractiveness at all. Kinda heavy, not particularly pretty (I hate to say that, its just kind true IMO) anyway, but he decided he'd give it a shot, since he'd been single for awhile. Well after a little while he fell absolutely in love with her, any hesitations he had over her attractiveness vanished, and reversed... And now they've been going out a long time and have a great relationship. So yeah, physical attraction is not always a must have at first, as attraction can be largely based on emotional love, which generally takes a little while to grow in most relationships.

your friend obviously was attracted to the girl; even if she was not up to his standards.

Everyone has two levels, girls they would "take home to mom" (proud to show off) and girls they would "fuck and forget", obviously im using the terms loosely and you should not take either literally. The take home to mom girls are the ones that fit your standard of beauty or rise above it; you would brag about being with these people and would probably not need to consider whether dating the girl is in the cards. The fuck and forget girls are girls that you might consider slightly lower than your standard "level", you can still be attracted to these girls and those are the relationships that require a bit of work but they can still work out quite well. But you can't force attraction; if you can't get it up or are a shamed of being seen in public with a girl you obviously won't be forming any type of long term relationship. None of this has anything to do with girls you wish to sleep with once and never see again; that's a completely different scale.

The only reason you believe my statement to be too absolute is because you gave my words your own meaning...

Finally none of this has anything to do with personality; this post was entirely based off of physical attraction. A girl that is at or slightly below your current standard can have an amazing personality and win you over in a short period of time but it doesn't change the fact that you cannot build a long term relationship with someone you find physically unattractive; plain and simple.

i think there might have to be a counterbalance between physical and mental attraction for a relationship to work. perhaps if you dont like them entirely physically its possible to maintain a great relationship with them if they have a strong, unique personality. vice versa is likewise, she could be shallow as a pond but hot as hell... you could probably compromise with that. hopefully we can all find someone we like with these aspects equally.

the point is you should not have to; there are enough women in the world to find someone you both love to talk with and you find sexually arousing. Don't ever settle for what you can get; go for what you want.

my problem with that is the pinacle of perfection in a partner(try saying that ten times fast) is a rare thing, and although im certainly not going to improvise or settle in any means... experience is important. maybe its better not to have loved and lost, but its probably better to know how to make love lol

i hope you dont really believe that; i hope you go into every relationship looking for the one and not simply more "experience". Many people find their soul mates in the first girls/guys they sleep with. You would be doing yourself a disservice by thinking otherwise.

What I think Waar is trying to say is you need both. Seriously how many times have you or anyone you know said" Damn, you see the personality on that girl.".

I for one think you need both physical and personality. Without that initial physical attraction you can't say " I would like go out with her". Go for what you want man.

oh i agree by all means, but im not gonna reject a girl just because she lacks slightly in one of those qualities. im not going to look for relationships simply for experience, hell my track record should tell you something; 3 seperate relationships... with the same girl. thats why its probably just an unbiased opinion

the problem with that is from my perspective hobbies are an important factor... and you can judge a book by its cover. i could get to know all the girls in a bar and half of them could like anime and video games, but as socially acceptable as they are its usually not what a girl talks about. reputation and appearance are priority one... and that makes it hard to truly know a person when you dont know them well.

alright, i agree with most of what you said but something i don't agree with is the lack of personality; at least when you're looking for the one... If you're looking for a fuck friend sure but if you want "the one" you really can't have any wiggle room; you have to be in love with her personality. It's thew one aspect you can't compromise on at all.

trust me, if finding a fuck friend were that easy i would lovvve it... but being 19 and sexless the thought of my first experience leaves me anxious and nervous at the same time. i think it would be more meaningful if it were someone i cared about too... almost a waste of something special if you will. maybe im to uptight about the whole thing but just damn! i cant wait lol.

By reputation, do you mean like being or whore? I think its more important to know facts, because people can catch a bad rep for anything these days. When I first started smoking pot, out of nowhere I became the "biggest drug addict" in my school even though the majority of the people talking were smoking before I started. That was at least a year before I actually did become the biggest drug addict in my school.

thats exactly what i mean jesus. one slightly unsettling thing and the whole thing gets blown out of proportion. a beautiful girl with plenty of friends would probably be much less popular if she expressed a like for anime... maybe not so much video games, but i think you get my point. presentation is on the top 10 list of everyones to be list, and that doesnt just mean physical appearance. you might lie about your hobbies, preferences or opinions just to fit in, or rather to not singled out... it severely misleads a person without them even knowing it.

you could try to find similar interests unrelated to anime and whatnot; say a specific television show your band you like? You could try new hobbies; sports worked well for me; girls don't love playing the sports i played but they loved the boys who played them... Either way; you have many options; you aren't as handcuffed as you think.