Why I don't like handsome people
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I've met in the past a lot of persons naturally being too sexy. In real and online.. I am not making a general assumptions.. maybe there's that super hot guy someone who's very nice.. maybe..
The ones i had bad experiences with are guys obviously. Most of them are narcissic , what I mean by that : They like to be worshipped and they know you'll do anything to talk with them.
They also hate to be confronted because obviously they know anything.
If you stop talking to them (which will probably irritate them)for a while they will come back and then be sweet and wait for you to praise them again because they need acknowledgement.
They live in their sweet superficial world.
So people just run away from those. All you need is charisma and humor .
Feel free to share your experiences or just say im totally wrong or anything . Im curious of your point of view
The ones i had bad experiences with are guys obviously. Most of them are narcissic , what I mean by that : They like to be worshipped and they know you'll do anything to talk with them.
They also hate to be confronted because obviously they know anything.
If you stop talking to them (which will probably irritate them)for a while they will come back and then be sweet and wait for you to praise them again because they need acknowledgement.
They live in their sweet superficial world.
So people just run away from those. All you need is charisma and humor .
Feel free to share your experiences or just say im totally wrong or anything . Im curious of your point of view
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Misaki_Chi
Fakku Nurse
Not all people considered good looking are narcissists, if anything most of them are pretty insecure about their appearance needing the praise of others to feel good about themselves because they don't themselves. A lot of people that I've known as handsome or that look good are some of the more insecure people I've ever known, shame to since they have a lot going for them.
I just go with the saying "don't judge a book by its cover." Regardless of who you are, what you look like, etc, etc, that doesn't define you as a person. A narcissist doesn't have to be good looking, they are usually ones who are so self absorbed with themselves and their appearance it can border on delusion.
I've known all kinds of people and all of them have different personalities. I usually just look at it as if you're cool to hang out with and talk to then that's fine with me, if not then I probably won't be as close with you.
Also even if you don't have model looks or rock hard abs, that doesn't mean you're personality is any better as a result. Basically it doesn't matter who you are, what you've been through, your upbringing; if you're an asshole, then you're an asshole lol.
I'd personally be careful with broad statements such as "handsome people suck" unless you've personally met and talked with every good looking person on this planet. Beauty is also in the eye of the beholder so someone you think is handsome may not be that way to another. In the end don't let something like this limit your view on people; in the end we are all human.
I just go with the saying "don't judge a book by its cover." Regardless of who you are, what you look like, etc, etc, that doesn't define you as a person. A narcissist doesn't have to be good looking, they are usually ones who are so self absorbed with themselves and their appearance it can border on delusion.
I've known all kinds of people and all of them have different personalities. I usually just look at it as if you're cool to hang out with and talk to then that's fine with me, if not then I probably won't be as close with you.
Also even if you don't have model looks or rock hard abs, that doesn't mean you're personality is any better as a result. Basically it doesn't matter who you are, what you've been through, your upbringing; if you're an asshole, then you're an asshole lol.
I'd personally be careful with broad statements such as "handsome people suck" unless you've personally met and talked with every good looking person on this planet. Beauty is also in the eye of the beholder so someone you think is handsome may not be that way to another. In the end don't let something like this limit your view on people; in the end we are all human.
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You are right by saying they need to be praised. I didnt said all of them were asshole. But most of the ones i had any kind relationship with were. Maybe i wasnt lucky. Each persons have theirs own standards of beauty but society really prefer people with a certain kind of aesthetic features & it would be hypocrite to say we dont
... Kinda normal you never look in magazines or even tv ? It is kinda normal since we are incitated everywhere.. I dont judge people ive just met. I spend enough time with those people to analyse them by how they act with me and others in general. Many person are asshole cause of a mecanism defense but you know there is time when you need to let your defense down when there is no risk and try to give people a chance. But most of the one ive met where spoiled childs that would only think of themself above anything.
... Kinda normal you never look in magazines or even tv ? It is kinda normal since we are incitated everywhere.. I dont judge people ive just met. I spend enough time with those people to analyse them by how they act with me and others in general. Many person are asshole cause of a mecanism defense but you know there is time when you need to let your defense down when there is no risk and try to give people a chance. But most of the one ive met where spoiled childs that would only think of themself above anything.
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The way you describe these guys acting is not behavior that is limited only to "attractive people". I have seen many guys act this way who are I don't believe to be attractive. Also, most people will act this way at some point for one reason or another, it does not mean that the person always acts like this.
If what you say is true, that every "attractive" guy you have met is like this and this has caused you to group every "attractive" guy into the same group of behavior because of this then I feel sorry for both you and them. I feel sorry for the guys because if they are like that then they are going to be miserable until they see the errors of their behavior. I feel sorry for you because you will only see an attractive person as having a bad personality and dismiss them without getting to know what could be an amazing person.
If what you say is true, that every "attractive" guy you have met is like this and this has caused you to group every "attractive" guy into the same group of behavior because of this then I feel sorry for both you and them. I feel sorry for the guys because if they are like that then they are going to be miserable until they see the errors of their behavior. I feel sorry for you because you will only see an attractive person as having a bad personality and dismiss them without getting to know what could be an amazing person.
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Misaki_Chi
Fakku Nurse
Society may have views and perceptions so I'm not ignorant of the fact that yes people appreciate beauty, but I have my own mind so I personally don't judge a book by it's cover. I may have some initial judgement, but we all do that based on first impressions, but that never affects how I act towards someone. I treat everyone equally and with respect, even if they're an asshole, I either kill them with kindness or just walk away. To me though, just seeing someone as handsome doesn't constitute in my mind "oh this person is probably going to be a jerk or spoiled because they look similar to other good looking assholes I've met in the past".
You say you don't judge people but you make your opening header "why I don't like handsome people" and state you've studied numerous people on their behavior and have concluded most of them are not people you enjoy being around. Personally speaking, even if I met 100 nice looking people and all of them were narcissistic I wouldn't chalk it up to their beauty because in the end a person is who they are for whatever reason. The beauty they have could have made them vain, but other factors play into it as well, it's never just one reason.
Basically I just look at this as a closed minded view on a specific group of people and is highly subjective. I also don't really look at the world personally in terms of beauty and ugly. I can if I want to and I have (I'm human), but if someone is interesting to talk with and I think they're fun to be around, why do I care what they look like? I've meet amazing people of all shapes, sizes, colors, personalities, etc.
For me beauty is something that makes a person shine. People that care about themselves in the sense they want to be the best they can be, people that care about others, or have a passion for something; to me this is real beauty. I also think to myself that aesthetic beauty is fleeting since everything changes with time.
I don't have anything against people with physical beauty since as I've said I've met all kinds of people myself and not all are bad. I'd just continue to meet more people and even if you think this, it's not always true, people can surprise you lol.
You say you don't judge people but you make your opening header "why I don't like handsome people" and state you've studied numerous people on their behavior and have concluded most of them are not people you enjoy being around. Personally speaking, even if I met 100 nice looking people and all of them were narcissistic I wouldn't chalk it up to their beauty because in the end a person is who they are for whatever reason. The beauty they have could have made them vain, but other factors play into it as well, it's never just one reason.
Basically I just look at this as a closed minded view on a specific group of people and is highly subjective. I also don't really look at the world personally in terms of beauty and ugly. I can if I want to and I have (I'm human), but if someone is interesting to talk with and I think they're fun to be around, why do I care what they look like? I've meet amazing people of all shapes, sizes, colors, personalities, etc.
For me beauty is something that makes a person shine. People that care about themselves in the sense they want to be the best they can be, people that care about others, or have a passion for something; to me this is real beauty. I also think to myself that aesthetic beauty is fleeting since everything changes with time.
I don't have anything against people with physical beauty since as I've said I've met all kinds of people myself and not all are bad. I'd just continue to meet more people and even if you think this, it's not always true, people can surprise you lol.