Apathetic
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PuRin wrote...Just need some feedback on this topic.. What's better? Being Apathetic in life(only when life is being really bad.. which is most of the time) or actually trying to care that theyre happening?
I've been (apathetic) for many years now, to the point where I have to ACT like I care. Just recently someone was run over in front of me, and I could've gone to help, but I didn't.. I just didn't really care.
Now some people may call me a jerk and whatnot, but I ask myself, why help people when all they do is make you remember them? When people die, you cry, and feel bad, and have memories, you reminisce and that's it, time wasted. All people do is waste your time, even if you're not doing anything.
I figure my life should go like this
-work
-entertainment
-work
-die
and all while not giving a damn.
So in basic words, i'm just saying "Who cares? We're all going to die anyway!".
People could say I should live-life to the fullest..
Well take this into consideration, I am an "extreme agoraphobic" which basically also translates into me being a shut-in with no friends. All i need is the internet, I've grown to learn that people aren't worth it.
I mean, isn't it awesome to just be like,
ahh, the world's going to end in 2012? Whooo cares?
or
My parents just died? well.. that sucks. I get their money? hooray?
TL;DR
I don't give two-craps about anything, is this healthy?
You know, I've a friend who has this type of mentality. Being apathetic at all times is unhealthy because it means that you put zero emotional commitment with the people around you. What I mean by emotional commitment isn't something so deep like love or faith, but rather being willing to converse with people, listening to their opinions and appreciating them. This clearly can't be the case because unless you are stuck in the island of Elba (like Napoleon), you'll be putting a certain level of emotional commitment with the people you interact with, even if it's negligible. For example, your replies to this thread. It is true that eventually all of us will die. But it's what we do that will be remembered, not our funeral ceremonies. While I agree that from a rational point of view, there is time wasted when we remember those long gone, I'm sure there must be some fond memories that you won't mind revisiting (even if it results in time wasted). Perhaps, like Robert Frost, you believe that "life goes on". Indeed it does. We "do not care" and we "refuse to care" however are two different things.
P.S. Sometimes when I find that I'm sufficiently satisfied with my life, I tend to not care about others too. Is this your situation?
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Watched a man squirm in agony after being hit by a car. Wasn't bothered.
Hit a cat while driving. Found the experience odd. Not amusing, or disturbing, but simply strange.
Spent the day with my girlfriend yesterday - and enjoyed it thoroughly. The bond I share with her is what makes the moments valuable - but I have to wake up every morning and tell myself to care because I generally don't. There are days when my relationship has absolutely no value to me, and when I cannot bring myself to feel anything for her.
But, regardless of the pain the connection has occasionally caused me it has been worth it because Ive had the best of times with her. And to me, its that bond that apathy may miss. I truly do understand how you feel - when my cousin died a couple of years ago, I thought 'And so what?'. But i do feel its worth investing time in cultivating a few strong bonds.In a society where emotions are given so cheaply, reserving them for something worthwhile makes life enjoyable.
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I'm apathetic. Damn near to the point where I'm a sociopath, but i can still laugh at jokes and people getting hurt, so meh.
It's not a good thing. People don't like those that don't care. When you don't care, you don't care about things that are truly important...like...bathing...for instance. Those that are truly apathetic won't bother bathing, won't bother cleaning their teeth, all that crap, know why? Because they don't care. They dont' care if they look bad, they don't care if they get sick, they don't care. THAT is true apatheticism. What YOU might be referring to is apatheticism where someome comes up to you and says, "Hey this is how my day went." and you reply, "Hey this is where I stop caring." That's not apathetic, that's just being a cock, which is still not a good thing.
Round about way of saying it, but meh, apatheticism=bad, is my point.
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[color=darkblue][font=Verdana]I think the most important thing is to ask yourself when you decided to stop caring. If you honestly know why you stopped caring, then you can answer your own question of whether your apathy is healthy or not.[/font][/color]
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Whoa... guess I'm a rare specimen in a crowd of tundras... XP
Granted, I have a healthy dose of scepticism as a result of a tough childhood, but if someone was hurt I'd be the first to run to help. I guess it's probably just my nosy personality, but if I'm gonna be teaching one day I can't be apathetic to the students can I?
You don't have to worry too much about being cold though. It is a personality type... just as long as you don't alienate yourself purposefully from society. Not only is it bad for your health, it's quite a dangerous route to go down on, considering how many I've seen develop a psychological syndrome as a result. It doesn't mean you should go to nightclubs everynight, since sometimes all it takes is one thing you're passionate about. I'm sure you're among friends here so you never alone in that regard.
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I was like that too when i was about 12-16 mostly because i didnt really have anything to really feel good about. i felt like my friends hated me, i wasnt very popular, and i didnt get a girlfriend until late 16. After a while, and especially after i went away to university, i had something to actually feel good about. Plus the girlfriend helped even though it ended soon.. (I probably should not have gone into that life story..) As for advice, all i can say is to find something you enjoy. If you feel apathetic, fine, jsut dont take your own life.. Then there really is not turning back...
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PuRin wrote...
Just need some feedback on this topic.. What's better? Being Apathetic in life(only when life is being really bad.. which is most of the time) or actually trying to care that theyre happening?I've been (apathetic) for many years now, to the point where I have to ACT like I care. Just recently someone was run over in front of me, and I could've gone to help, but I didn't.. I just didn't really care.
Now some people may call me a jerk and whatnot, but I ask myself, why help people when all they do is make you remember them? When people die, you cry, and feel bad, and have memories, you reminisce and that's it, time wasted. All people do is waste your time, even if you're not doing anything.
I figure my life should go like this
-work
-entertainment
-work
-die
and all while not giving a damn.
So in basic words, i'm just saying "Who cares? We're all going to die anyway!".
People could say I should live-life to the fullest..
Well take this into consideration, I am an "extreme agoraphobic" which basically also translates into me being a shut-in with no friends. All i need is the internet, I've grown to learn that people aren't worth it.
I mean, isn't it awesome to just be like,
ahh, the world's going to end in 2012? Whooo cares?
or
My parents just died? well.. that sucks. I get their money? hooray?
TL;DR
I don't give two-craps about anything, is this healthy?
You know, I've a friend who has this type of mentality. Being apathetic at all times is unhealthy because it means that you put zero emotional commitment with the people around you. What I mean by emotional commitment isn't something so deep like love or faith, but rather being willing to converse with people, listening to their opinions and appreciating them. This clearly can't be the case because unless you are stuck in the island of Elba (like Napoleon), you'll be putting a certain level of emotional commitment with the people you interact with, even if it's negligible. For example, your replies to this thread. It is true that eventually all of us will die. But it's what we do that will be remembered, not our funeral ceremonies. While I agree that from a rational point of view, there is time wasted when we remember those long gone, I'm sure there must be some fond memories that you won't mind revisiting (even if it results in time wasted). Perhaps, like Robert Frost, you believe that "life goes on". Indeed it does. We "do not care" and we "refuse to care" however are two different things.
P.S. Sometimes when I find that I'm sufficiently satisfied with my life, I tend to not care about others too. Is this your situation?
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Watched a man squirm in agony after being hit by a car. Wasn't bothered.
Hit a cat while driving. Found the experience odd. Not amusing, or disturbing, but simply strange.
Spent the day with my girlfriend yesterday - and enjoyed it thoroughly. The bond I share with her is what makes the moments valuable - but I have to wake up every morning and tell myself to care because I generally don't. There are days when my relationship has absolutely no value to me, and when I cannot bring myself to feel anything for her.
But, regardless of the pain the connection has occasionally caused me it has been worth it because Ive had the best of times with her. And to me, its that bond that apathy may miss. I truly do understand how you feel - when my cousin died a couple of years ago, I thought 'And so what?'. But i do feel its worth investing time in cultivating a few strong bonds.In a society where emotions are given so cheaply, reserving them for something worthwhile makes life enjoyable.
Hit a cat while driving. Found the experience odd. Not amusing, or disturbing, but simply strange.
Spent the day with my girlfriend yesterday - and enjoyed it thoroughly. The bond I share with her is what makes the moments valuable - but I have to wake up every morning and tell myself to care because I generally don't. There are days when my relationship has absolutely no value to me, and when I cannot bring myself to feel anything for her.
But, regardless of the pain the connection has occasionally caused me it has been worth it because Ive had the best of times with her. And to me, its that bond that apathy may miss. I truly do understand how you feel - when my cousin died a couple of years ago, I thought 'And so what?'. But i do feel its worth investing time in cultivating a few strong bonds.In a society where emotions are given so cheaply, reserving them for something worthwhile makes life enjoyable.
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I'm apathetic. Damn near to the point where I'm a sociopath, but i can still laugh at jokes and people getting hurt, so meh.
It's not a good thing. People don't like those that don't care. When you don't care, you don't care about things that are truly important...like...bathing...for instance. Those that are truly apathetic won't bother bathing, won't bother cleaning their teeth, all that crap, know why? Because they don't care. They dont' care if they look bad, they don't care if they get sick, they don't care. THAT is true apatheticism. What YOU might be referring to is apatheticism where someome comes up to you and says, "Hey this is how my day went." and you reply, "Hey this is where I stop caring." That's not apathetic, that's just being a cock, which is still not a good thing.
Round about way of saying it, but meh, apatheticism=bad, is my point.
It's not a good thing. People don't like those that don't care. When you don't care, you don't care about things that are truly important...like...bathing...for instance. Those that are truly apathetic won't bother bathing, won't bother cleaning their teeth, all that crap, know why? Because they don't care. They dont' care if they look bad, they don't care if they get sick, they don't care. THAT is true apatheticism. What YOU might be referring to is apatheticism where someome comes up to you and says, "Hey this is how my day went." and you reply, "Hey this is where I stop caring." That's not apathetic, that's just being a cock, which is still not a good thing.
Round about way of saying it, but meh, apatheticism=bad, is my point.
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[color=darkblue][font=Verdana]I think the most important thing is to ask yourself when you decided to stop caring. If you honestly know why you stopped caring, then you can answer your own question of whether your apathy is healthy or not.[/font][/color]
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Whoa... guess I'm a rare specimen in a crowd of tundras... XP
Granted, I have a healthy dose of scepticism as a result of a tough childhood, but if someone was hurt I'd be the first to run to help. I guess it's probably just my nosy personality, but if I'm gonna be teaching one day I can't be apathetic to the students can I?
You don't have to worry too much about being cold though. It is a personality type... just as long as you don't alienate yourself purposefully from society. Not only is it bad for your health, it's quite a dangerous route to go down on, considering how many I've seen develop a psychological syndrome as a result. It doesn't mean you should go to nightclubs everynight, since sometimes all it takes is one thing you're passionate about. I'm sure you're among friends here so you never alone in that regard.
Granted, I have a healthy dose of scepticism as a result of a tough childhood, but if someone was hurt I'd be the first to run to help. I guess it's probably just my nosy personality, but if I'm gonna be teaching one day I can't be apathetic to the students can I?
You don't have to worry too much about being cold though. It is a personality type... just as long as you don't alienate yourself purposefully from society. Not only is it bad for your health, it's quite a dangerous route to go down on, considering how many I've seen develop a psychological syndrome as a result. It doesn't mean you should go to nightclubs everynight, since sometimes all it takes is one thing you're passionate about. I'm sure you're among friends here so you never alone in that regard.
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I was like that too when i was about 12-16 mostly because i didnt really have anything to really feel good about. i felt like my friends hated me, i wasnt very popular, and i didnt get a girlfriend until late 16. After a while, and especially after i went away to university, i had something to actually feel good about. Plus the girlfriend helped even though it ended soon.. (I probably should not have gone into that life story..) As for advice, all i can say is to find something you enjoy. If you feel apathetic, fine, jsut dont take your own life.. Then there really is not turning back...