Fitting in vs. Individuality
0
gentle Jichan wrote...
I'm quite accustomed to people being normal and not questioning their views on life. Dem folks have their own expirience and need no opinions of mine.I don't know many people close to me who aren't questioning their lives and their existence. My friends are going through ideological tortures I didn't think were possible, rofl. A majority are in law, publishing, or teaching though, so maybe this explains a few things: these three systems uphold great ideals - justice, art for art's sake, the importance of knowledge and wisdom - but aren't always procedurally stimulating to facilitate.
edit: I mean, I'm not judging those who don't question their views on Life. They can do whatever they want as long as they are sensible and responsible. I just always thought everyone was predisposed to questioning their existence, that it's a very human trait. - maybe they just don't know they're questioning it. Isn't it that every statement we make about ourselves is an implicit question about who we are?
0
I'm an individualist, I do things for me, dress for me, and talk for me. I'm not one to fit in for the sake of others, I'd rather have people accept me for who I am and not what I wear or how I talk.
0
It is natural for humans to want to be like others. Its natural, society looks down on indivuals but says they like creativity.
I am me and no one else. To be honest at times i want to fit in. But who i am and what i think is me and me alone, i cant fight who i am right?
I am me and no one else. To be honest at times i want to fit in. But who i am and what i think is me and me alone, i cant fight who i am right?
0
film_orange wrote...
gentle Jichan wrote...
I'm quite accustomed to people being normal and not questioning their views on life. Dem folks have their own expirience and need no opinions of mine.I don't know many people close to me who aren't questioning their lives and their existence. My friends are going through ideological tortures I didn't think were possible, rofl. A majority are in law, publishing, or teaching though, so maybe this explains a few things: these three systems uphold great ideals - justice, art for art's sake, the importance of knowledge and wisdom - but aren't always procedurally stimulating to facilitate.
edit: I mean, I'm not judging those who don't question their views on Life. They can do whatever they want as long as they are sensible and responsible. I just always thought everyone was predisposed to questioning their existence, that it's a very human trait. - maybe they just don't know they're questioning it. Isn't it that every statement we make about ourselves is an implicit question about who we are?
ah, yes, Right you are miss. It was stupid of me saying "not questioning their views on life".
but here we rarely talk open about it cuz it feels awkward for men to unbosom their sufferings. Relatives see only christianity and stigmatize other as "from the devil". People with whom i can talk without crumbling their trust in me
are strongly filled with local mentality and see me as something slightly (thanks to their friendliness) not normal. Due to our young age i do not blame them. You may think it sounds kinda sad film_orange, but i'll tell you one little secret that helps me very much in this life. and here it is:
Spoiler:
0
huh well the fact i have been open about being a pedo since high school i guess I'm more into individuality i could care less if i fit in I'm a hikamori anyway so i don't care bout others.
0
Fitting in vs Individuality?
Well, at some point, I think there is a mix of both, unless your a musician or something, but even then.
You could be totally a unique individual and stay away from groups and non conform, but the human side of us also want security of belonging of some sort. This could result into either restricting or abandoning ones code of conduct, dress code, etc in order to have that security in belonging to something.
The job market is a system and in order to get ahead, you sometimes have to make sacrifices and play by the rules. There are those though that stay away from that system (ex: unsigned bands and drug dealers) and do all they can to get ahead without following a popular system, but set their own rules or what not.
Well, at some point, I think there is a mix of both, unless your a musician or something, but even then.
You could be totally a unique individual and stay away from groups and non conform, but the human side of us also want security of belonging of some sort. This could result into either restricting or abandoning ones code of conduct, dress code, etc in order to have that security in belonging to something.
The job market is a system and in order to get ahead, you sometimes have to make sacrifices and play by the rules. There are those though that stay away from that system (ex: unsigned bands and drug dealers) and do all they can to get ahead without following a popular system, but set their own rules or what not.
0
Both themes do not have to be mutually exclusive. You can still fit in while maintaining your individuality =)
0
Professionally, I always try to adapt...It's with the people you work with, & you'll just get fucked up if you don't try to get along... But personally speaking, I'd rather be alone than be plastic with someone I don't even like to be with...
I don't even do the courting practices that most guys do... I'm simply myself when I'm with a girl, I'm not even that nice, & if we "click", then that's where our story starts...
I don't even do the courting practices that most guys do... I'm simply myself when I'm with a girl, I'm not even that nice, & if we "click", then that's where our story starts...
0
I was always the odd man out, regardless of where and when I am. I feel that there's no point in trying to fit in with others to befriend them if they cannot accept me as I am, and require me to change to be like them.
After all, once I've become them, what am I?
After all, once I've become them, what am I?
0
When i was in school i experimented with every damn cliche there is. now im just a plain boring person. i dont have any real style i just wear plain shirts and jeans, and i don't act along with any fads or whatever i just keep to myself. i fit in with everybody and nobody at the same time!
0
To me is more important fitting in as that way you can cheat everyone into belive that you're part of their group and get the things you need.
0
Kind of Important
A ray of Tsunlight.
I've always ran to my own beat.
Worked fine so far, I got along perfectly fine with all the 'groups' back in high school, and really I could bounce around between everyone with no issue.
After you get outta school you realize (If you hadn't already) that all the clique stuff is superficial bullshit. Be yourself, and fuck everyone else.
Worked fine so far, I got along perfectly fine with all the 'groups' back in high school, and really I could bounce around between everyone with no issue.
After you get outta school you realize (If you hadn't already) that all the clique stuff is superficial bullshit. Be yourself, and fuck everyone else.
0
I learned relatively early on that it's better to be yourself.
As time went on, I realized that you can't know who "yourself" is until you've got other people to compare it against.
Then I discovered that, ultimately, you decide who "yourself" is, and if "yourself" is a genuinely good person, other like-minded individuals tend to be drawn to you.
Unless you're living on an otherwise-uninhabited island somewhere, there will be people somewhere you can mesh with.
It helps if you don't let yourself be defined by some subculture or label. Trying to fit in with some crowd is the worst possible move, unless you're doing it for a substantial personal gain and can come out of it mentally and emotionally unscathed. (In other words, even if the people at your job are assholes, be civil to them. You hurt only yourself otherwise.)
Don't become a doormat; it's a sign of lack of confidence, and nobody will respect you for it.
Don't become a social chameleon; nobody will think you have a sufficiently strong sense of identity, and they will not respect you.
Avoid going too far in the other direction, because nobody will like you that way.
Now, here's the challenging part: try putting this into practice.
As time went on, I realized that you can't know who "yourself" is until you've got other people to compare it against.
Then I discovered that, ultimately, you decide who "yourself" is, and if "yourself" is a genuinely good person, other like-minded individuals tend to be drawn to you.
Unless you're living on an otherwise-uninhabited island somewhere, there will be people somewhere you can mesh with.
It helps if you don't let yourself be defined by some subculture or label. Trying to fit in with some crowd is the worst possible move, unless you're doing it for a substantial personal gain and can come out of it mentally and emotionally unscathed. (In other words, even if the people at your job are assholes, be civil to them. You hurt only yourself otherwise.)
Don't become a doormat; it's a sign of lack of confidence, and nobody will respect you for it.
Don't become a social chameleon; nobody will think you have a sufficiently strong sense of identity, and they will not respect you.
Avoid going too far in the other direction, because nobody will like you that way.
Now, here's the challenging part: try putting this into practice.
0
Individuality. I think it's better to be unique and be yourself. I don't want to be this guy:
Spoiler:
0
There are very few things that I keep secret from my friends, but keep them, I do.
Asides from that, it's the real deal. Trend or no trend, I don't give a shit- I do what I like. Even for work, I get jobs that suit me- I don't change according to how my employer wants me to.
Granted, that does limit options- but I'm not exactly aiming to be a Doctor, either.
The only exception that I'd make would be the Army- since they don't put up with that shit.
Asides from that, it's the real deal. Trend or no trend, I don't give a shit- I do what I like. Even for work, I get jobs that suit me- I don't change according to how my employer wants me to.
Granted, that does limit options- but I'm not exactly aiming to be a Doctor, either.
The only exception that I'd make would be the Army- since they don't put up with that shit.
0
I think in our society, you need to conform when it comes to your "public image", when your with close friends, you can be whoever you want but when it comes to survival and making money in order to pay for shelter, food etc. you need to conform.
It's like how I like hentai, I don't openly say I like it cause I already know the majority of people will be like "your weird you like cartoon characters and you masturbate to them". This will impact me negatively as it will close off options to network with other people and potentially get a job and other stuff. Some jobs care, others don't. And the latter is rare or very low paying in terms of salary.
Though I would like to be myself all the time, you can't always be yourself and you have to put on that public mask in order to get money.
GET MONEY GET PAID!
It's like how I like hentai, I don't openly say I like it cause I already know the majority of people will be like "your weird you like cartoon characters and you masturbate to them". This will impact me negatively as it will close off options to network with other people and potentially get a job and other stuff. Some jobs care, others don't. And the latter is rare or very low paying in terms of salary.
Though I would like to be myself all the time, you can't always be yourself and you have to put on that public mask in order to get money.
GET MONEY GET PAID!
0
Woah, I'm actually kinda scared of posting this....
So, my answer's in the spoiler, it's my art (well that one is a detail of a bigger piece). wuteffers =____=
I don't care for individuality, we are all the same in that we are different from each other, as cheesy as that sounds it's true.
Spoiler:
So, my answer's in the spoiler, it's my art (well that one is a detail of a bigger piece). wuteffers =____=
I don't care for individuality, we are all the same in that we are different from each other, as cheesy as that sounds it's true.
0
I set fitting in before individuality first when it comes to strangers, though it doesn't borderline from sucking up and conforming, but more of a neutral stance and as these "associates" become "friends" would I start opening up more. Just as long as your identity isn't too far off society and unique on it's own, it wouldn't often guarantee respect but you're less likely to be forgotten. Love or hate, a relationship can always turn out for the better as long as people remember each other for who they are. That's what individuality is.
0
If work requires to fit with everyone else then I'll gladly comply.
Aside from that if it doesn't affect my work my individuality comes first.
More prioritized than personal life and family. I'm the type who prefer
to do things alone without relying to others though I used to be a person
who is always surrounded by different people be it with friends or family
but I guess I grew tired of it. The more people the more obligation.
I'm tired of helping people and asking for help.
Aside from that if it doesn't affect my work my individuality comes first.
More prioritized than personal life and family. I'm the type who prefer
to do things alone without relying to others though I used to be a person
who is always surrounded by different people be it with friends or family
but I guess I grew tired of it. The more people the more obligation.
I'm tired of helping people and asking for help.