I NEED HELP!!! :((

i hate to be a bother, but my girlfriend means too much to me to lose her like this.

to put it short: my girlfriend hates the fact that we cant live together, so wants to kill heself! how do i stop her!?! we dont live close, we go to the same school, but thats the only time we see each other. i need to stop ehr from doing this! please somebody tel lme what i can say or do over a stupid computer to stop her! i asked her to give me her number (amazing how i dont have it right? well we have been goin out for only like two weeks) but i have not seen any responses to my messages i sent.

please somebody tell me how i can get her to reason!!!

Note: i only posted this here instead of love and romance cuz this is serious. she really is a sad emotional person. she hangs off of me like im a crutch. she is al li have since she does not have a good home, and i love her to. please, im on my knees here, i need some sort of advice or some sort of mental comfort from this.

here are some of my suggestions
go and see her more
set up a 24 hr live link up between you and her via webcam

Sounds to me like you are still in high school, in which case, you shouldn't be here.

As for advice, you've only been going out for two weeks. You barely have a relationship as is and she's already threatening to kill herself, this does not spell a good future. If you really wanted to do something, get your own place and have her move in, though I would never live with a girl I only just met.

though I would never live with a girl I only just met.[/quote]

well we have known each other longer than two weeks, it was only recently we both realized we like each other. for a while now, we both thought that the other person only like the other as a friend, but then she finally asked me out, and i could not be happier. ive known her since last year in school, and we have ahd a steady relationship, but only recently, she started having a crappy life. basically she was already gonna kill ehrself, but she wanted to ask me out first. and i do love her, but its just that right now she is really emotionally broken cuz of the cards she has been dealt by life.

i just hope she doesnt do it, we have come too far for ehr to do it. :(

When I read your poem at the Love section, I remember you said that it was for your girlfriend who's soon to become your wife... so WTF?! How can you possibly marry her when your both still in high school? How come now you're saying that you can't live together? You've barely known each other, you don't even have her contact number...what are you really planning to do with your life or with her for that matter?

If you're really serious about wanting to be with her, you shouldn't be here wasting your time waiting for someone else's advise! Go do something about it on your own, I suggest you look for a job, find a place where you can live in together, and somewhere along that line...You decide for yourself, It's your life.

Even if they have only been going out for 2 weeks it doesn't matter you cant just abandon her it will just make her feel worse but seriously is she just saying this or has she tried? Observe her family life etc see how bad it is before you make a move, make sure her relatives know, this is all you can do at this point you need more info of her life before you make a drastic move.

well im only here asking for advice cuz i dont knwo where she lives, we have known each other for some time, i do want to marry her, her family life is shitty at best, and she has little to no friends. im literally all she has, if not me, then she would most likely be a crackwhore, no offense to her. she has tried to kill herself once at school, but i caught her in time to stop her before she went up in front of everyone and did it. i asked her why, and it was that following conversation which pretty much made us become attracted to one another. now my mom would let us live with her if i just supported her with my own money, and the rest i will figure out. it would take both of us to get jobs for it to work, but she loves me, and i love her. this can work out, but i just need to make sure she doesnt KILL herself before it does! and i should take matters into my own hands, but i mean its searching for a needle in a haystack out here in sacramento for me.

It wont be easy and will need alot of support but she needs someone to look after her, someone for advice and guidance and she needs to see a professional. This recovery process will take many years but after she gets over that first bump it gets alot easier.

First of all, there is very little that you can actually do. If she has problems, and it sounds like she does, she needs to deal with them. She needs to either work on being stronger, so a shitty life around her doesn't affect her as much, or get help from a professional. I suggest both, but if it has to be only one, I'd say go for the professional help. It's amazing just how much a psychologist or psychiatrist can help.

Second, you cannot save her. If the girl does in fact need to be "saved," you cannot do it. Even if you have a job that pays a lot and a place where you two can live together, I highly doubt you'd be able to get her out of her parents' house (or guardians' house) legally. A child (someone under eighteen, I mean) doesn't even have to be gone for twenty-four hours for there to be major trouble. And a person can only control his/her own mind. If her mind is disjointed, only she can put it back together. You can support her, but she has to do all the hard work. Otherwise, you'll end up telling her what to do, and she'll just be a subservient person clinging onto you and having you take care of you.

I honestly think the best thing to do is get in touch with a psychologist. The easier way to do this would probably be to talk to a guidance counselor at your school. Most schools have some way of helping students regarding emotional problems. Tell your girlfriend this and do it in accordance with her; do not talk to the guidance counselor or psychologist on your own. Getting help for someone without their permission is rude and may upset her even more. However, if you do happen to see cuts on her arm or something indicating that she is hurting herself or may attempt suicide, then you should talk to someone, whether she wants you to or not.

Also, if your girlfriend thinks that talking to a psychologist would be expensive and she couldn't afford it, then do some research. Usually, there is some way to get mental health help free of charge if you are a minor. Having no money is no excuse for not trying to get help.

If you are in high school, it's high school teenage drama bullshit, most likely.
But that's not really nice and if it's a real problem, not a solution.
If I were you, I would tell her something like not to be so dramatic and worrisome. If you really want to change your situation in life, there are actions you can take to change them. Most people just come up with excuses not to all the time. There are consequences to your actions, but you are in control of your life. If here situation in life is that bad, it can't get much worse, right? Death is probably the most boring part of life. So killing yourself is stupid.

well i did manage to talk her out of it, but my new problem is she wants to live with me, and thinks because we both dont know where the other one lives, that im cheating on her. this relationship cant get anymore complicated, but she just wants me to talk to her is all. but i cant do that all the time because my mom will want to use computer, and be on it for hours. she just wants that comfort of knowing i care, but she needs it every minute she wants it, and im thinking that she jsut may have to move in with me. i can pretty much get a job now, but my mom is overly dependant on my help. so if she did come to live with me, i would literally have a million things to do. i can handle it, but the only one who needs convincing is my mom. but eyah she just feels suicidal over the whole loneliness thing.

Back in the say, they had the devices called telephones. You should look into it.
Also, this seems a bit extreme for people who don't even know where the other lives.

She needs to get some self esteem. She is worrying so much because she is insecure. If you are taking time to talk and see her and aren't blowing her off and what not, then it's something she has to come to terms with. She needs to get out in her community and build some confidence. Because she's came from a shitty life she probably doesn't have much trust and people and so she wants to be with you all the time. If she doesn't have money to see a psychologist, take her around to things that will allow her to make new friends (good friends...not shitty one's). Honestly, community shit like...what the hell is that houses one...habitat for humanity, is a good way to meet people who are kind and a good way to build confidence. That seems to me that she needs that foundation first before she should ever even be in a relationship. Good luck man

That sounds like the worst advice ever.

The last thing the girl needs is to cling onto the guy. If she clings too much, she won't be able to let him go, even if he's just going to work. She'll become dependent on him, and if they ever broke up, she would probably kill herself within the first hour.

Waitta burst that guys bubble.

Relationships aren't about one person clinging to another. And if a person is depressed, they certainly don't need to desperately cling to another person. People are flawed, and anyone can have a bad day. All it takes is one bad day and one little slip of the tongue - "Stop bothering me, I'm tired! - to completely wreck the girl's mind if she depends too much on the guy.

you sir should ask the good people at 4chan for help... a good bunch of people.