My Anger Management Issues
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It was supposed to be another normal day at work, sit down. Set up my computer and my tools, do chats with customers. Today however I have never felt so angry , that I wanted to find anything I could get my hands on bash a woman head with it
Nothing happened of course which leads us here.
Cellphones weren't allowed in the office(something about data protection) and so when you wanted to call on your friend to do lunch together you ask them personally. A supervisor of another team, asked me to get my supervisor and ask him why he hasn't joined him in lunch.
I didn't care, I was my way back to where he was so. Why not right?
I saw my supervisor talking to some woman, it was no ordinary woman. I met her once before being a complete b*tch to me making jokes, asking stupid questions and doubting my manhood because I wasn't like most men(probably dumbf*cks she sleeps with) I shrugged it off and was glad I was assigned no where near her schedule so I wouldn't have to see her at work
Back to the present, I was talking to my supervisor(for the lunch invitation thing). My voice wasn't the most manly or powerful and I happen to respect my superiors so
I asked him in a calm and respectful voice that the other supervisor was looking for him.
When she happened to notice my malfunctioning zipper, halfway open then in a childish voice(apparently mocking my voice) that my zipper was open
repeatedly and mockingly to her hearts content and everyone present was laughing at me
Right then and there I wanted to jam anything I can down her throat so she would shut up but out of restraint I just asked her "Do I know you?" repeatedly in my own native tounge
so she would hopefully get the message. Eventually I stormed of once the supervisor got the invitation, then I over hear her justifying her actions to her gay friend near my damn station.
I rarely get pissed off but that was a huge one, even up to know I'd like to slam her head across a wall. I won't do anything to get me trouble, I'm smart enough to know that.
The question is should I get angrier in life? I was bullied a lot in high school and I left most of my rage there and learned to be calmer in college(since it was over).
Maybe I'm not used to people like that, because I rarely meet any these days. Even my room mates at this dorm I'm staying at turn out to be cool guys.
Everyone at my work is older than me(no really)
Could that be it?
If I ever see her again I'd like to at least flip her off, but she would probably take it to HR if I do that. I need a damn drink..
Any words or encouragement or criticism would be welcome.. i find people on the internet could either be really nuts, or possibly brilliant. Thanks FAKKU!
*Oh and I'm new, sorry so If I have to move the thread, I will.
Nothing happened of course which leads us here.
Cellphones weren't allowed in the office(something about data protection) and so when you wanted to call on your friend to do lunch together you ask them personally. A supervisor of another team, asked me to get my supervisor and ask him why he hasn't joined him in lunch.
I didn't care, I was my way back to where he was so. Why not right?
I saw my supervisor talking to some woman, it was no ordinary woman. I met her once before being a complete b*tch to me making jokes, asking stupid questions and doubting my manhood because I wasn't like most men(probably dumbf*cks she sleeps with) I shrugged it off and was glad I was assigned no where near her schedule so I wouldn't have to see her at work
Back to the present, I was talking to my supervisor(for the lunch invitation thing). My voice wasn't the most manly or powerful and I happen to respect my superiors so
I asked him in a calm and respectful voice that the other supervisor was looking for him.
When she happened to notice my malfunctioning zipper, halfway open then in a childish voice(apparently mocking my voice) that my zipper was open
repeatedly and mockingly to her hearts content and everyone present was laughing at me
Right then and there I wanted to jam anything I can down her throat so she would shut up but out of restraint I just asked her "Do I know you?" repeatedly in my own native tounge
so she would hopefully get the message. Eventually I stormed of once the supervisor got the invitation, then I over hear her justifying her actions to her gay friend near my damn station.
I rarely get pissed off but that was a huge one, even up to know I'd like to slam her head across a wall. I won't do anything to get me trouble, I'm smart enough to know that.
The question is should I get angrier in life? I was bullied a lot in high school and I left most of my rage there and learned to be calmer in college(since it was over).
Maybe I'm not used to people like that, because I rarely meet any these days. Even my room mates at this dorm I'm staying at turn out to be cool guys.
Everyone at my work is older than me(no really)
Could that be it?
If I ever see her again I'd like to at least flip her off, but she would probably take it to HR if I do that. I need a damn drink..
Any words or encouragement or criticism would be welcome.. i find people on the internet could either be really nuts, or possibly brilliant. Thanks FAKKU!
*Oh and I'm new, sorry so If I have to move the thread, I will.
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Misaki_Chi
Fakku Nurse
SpaceCrash wrote...
The question is should I get angrier in life? I was bullied a lot in high school and I left most of my rage there and learned to be calmer in college(since it was over).Maybe I'm not used to people like that, because I rarely meet any these days.
I wouldn't get any angrier, because anger won't solve your problems. People such as this woman you describe are quite common irl so you'll just have to learn how to deal with it. You can either ignore it and focus on your work or if it get's to be too bad, you confront her about her about these things and ask her to stop.
Honestly though I've dealt with people in my line of work that are just plain nasty, but you have to keep in mind that you are at work to do a job to provide for yourself (and maybe other's) financially. Even if people are giving you a hard time, you just have to deal with it and do your best at your job. I know this can be frustrating, but punching her or even if you decide to blow a gasket and just yell at her will make you look bad and could reflect poorly on your job.
I would also learn to vent out your anger in better ways, such as working out, cooking, cleaning, masturbate/intercourse, or even writing them down in a diary. Finding healthier outlets for your anger and stress will help with your feelings at work some.
If it truly becomes that much of an issue then you may have to consider your options at that point. Do you feel like you can continue working in that environment or do you think you need change how you react to certain things, etc.
SpaceCrash wrote...
Everyone at my work is older than me(no really)Could that be it?
An asshole is an asshole at any age, so age isn't the main issue. If you're younger/fresh meat joining the shark tank then they may pick on you more depending. Just sounds like your typical co-workers that have nothing better to do, but be dramatic. You just keep your nose out of it and mind your own business. Take things a day at a time, work hard, and find things that are enjoyable outside of work to take your mind off of things when you're done for the day.
Other then that, not much else you can really do. Talking to a supervisor is one of the last things I would do, because most supervisors don't really care about these things and will tell you to work out your own problems with this person first. Usually makes you look whiny.
