[Locked] Why Is Being a Sex Object A Bad Thing?

Recently I'm been reading a lot of gaming articles on sites like The Escapist and Extra Credits. Particularly articles about sex and sexism in games. One thing that is presented as a problem over and over is that women in games are oversexualized and women need to be depicted more realistically. I've often heard this said of other mediums such a movies and television, that the women on tv and movies are sex objects and this is a bad thing.

But I don't understand why.

I would think that being an object of sexual desire would be good thing, its easier to find people to have sex with that way. Yet to hear to hear these opponents of sexual game, tv and movie characters talk you would think its something to be ashamed of. Like you can't view someone as a sex symbol and respect them at the same time, or be a sex symbol and be respectable at the same time. Is it some sort of old Puritan influence at work?

I personally want to be a sex object, in my more desperate moments I say to myself that I would kill to be one. I'm in the middle of changing how I eat and am going though what will probably be months of painful exercise so that women will perceive me as one.

Awhile ago I was upset that I had to do this, that women could not just accept me for who I am, but it was pointed out that I too have certain standards in reguards to looks. Not out of malice or shallowness or anything its just that that's what I find sexually appealing. Women are the same way and so I cannot fault them for it.
Well I could but it would not get me any closer to my goal of attracting a woman, so I might as just take the pain of transforming myself and become what they find sexy.

Because until one ELECTS to be one, it's making a PERSON into an OBJECT.

Thus, dehumanizing the subject and suggesting they not be allowed human dignity and rights.


Lishy, feminism isn't the issue here. ANY person can be made into a sex object, gender/sex regardless.

Well Gizzy nailed it, people want to be treated like people, not like an inanimate object.

'sex object' is usually a negative.

A more positive arrangement of words would be 'sex symbol'. This can show what the majority of a generation is attracted to/wants to be. So yea, you mean to say you want to be something the majority of women want, a sex symbol.

I deleted my post. Will save the rant for the next thread with feminazi! :P

If women looked at me and saw a fucktoy I wouldn't have any strong objection. ^^

Both are right in theyr opinion.

But this takes the cake.

Hairdresser turns robber into sex slave

Mind at that time: Like WTF?!?!?

I'm not really sure, but probably because, aside from the obvious objectification, it makes people, teenagers or whatever have much much higher standards that possible, thus leaving everyone single as the girls are depressed because they're not game/movie/model/barbie/whatever perfect, while all the guys are fantasizing about size ZZZ tits and 'perfect' asses and legs. Think how this would affect populating the planet in the future.

Being seen as a person who is sexually desirable and being seen as a object are 2 different things.

Yeah I posted this thread on four different forums and the wave of rage that came crashing at me made me realize that people thought I was advocating seeing people as inanimate objects.

When I hear the term Sex Object I think it means that someone is the object of another person's sexual desire. In other words a person who is sexually desireable like you said and is currently the focus of someone else's sexual desires.

Apparently to most other people it means a person who's only purpose is sex and is nothing more than a living onna cup/dildo.

Though I got the most temperate response from this site, which feels like a much needed balm after all the rage. :)

To me the issue has two base platforms - Religion, and issues regarding human rights. The Religious aspect is obvious, so I won't be going into it. The issue regarding human rights at it's simplest is that people will attempt to defend themselves by making a perceived threat seem more likely to affect other people. These people will, in turn, do the same, leading to Groupthink and Group Polarization which enforces the fear. It isn't so much that people think it's wrong as it is that they fear that if one willingly submits themselves to something then they may be forcibly submitted to it. What starts as an individual not liking what they are seeing becomes an irrational (or rational, depending on your viewpoint) fear shared by a group which attempts to eliminate the perceived cause of their distress. I would think that the greatest opponents to the idea of a sex object would be women's rights activists. Not because they think it's wrong, but because they feel that their rights are threatened by another women submitting herself in a fashion similar to the past sexist views held by the majority of the society they live in. The perceived threat is even more dangerous in the fact that it was not so long ago that the rights being "threatened" were not held by them, and they become even more afraid that they might loose them.

Imagine? Isn't how things really are now? That's why I'm trying to build muscle so women will look at me.

This makes a lot of sense. Come to think of it, this may explain why I have a feeling of unease in reguards to the feminist movement. Like I read a lot of articles about how sexy characters in games and movies are bad, and I start to worry that there is some sort of conspiracy that's trying to control my sexuality.

Or the other day I was watching an episode of that FeministFrequency thing on Youtube and she was going on about how current Lego sets teach boys that conflict and battles are cool and this is a bad thing. Then advocating that Lego should go back to being completely gender neuteral. This makes me worried that there is some sort of plot to keep men from being masculine.

I think its more a lot of women feel like a disproportionate amount of female characters are created for the purpose of being sexy in comparison to male characters.

If there is an imbalance wouldn't the best solution be to just create more sexy male characters?

I would argue that male characters are often the meat head, testosterone emitting, sex driven assholes who would perpetuate such things. And tell me you can't look at most graphic driven games today and see that they attempt to make any central characters into sex symbols in some way. On of the things I love about hentai, especially on this site, is that there are many pieces of work that have women exploiting the man's insatiable hunger for sex which dulls his wits and allows the feminist bitch to make a Sex Slave out of him. I understand the majority will present a scenario that will keep issues like this going, however, the stigma is present on both sides.

I think what most reasonable feminists want is more female characters given the same depth/complexity as male characters. Personally as someone who wants to be a filmmaker i want to create a mix of interesting male and female characters.

I would like that as well, I like interesting characters male or female. But the ones I've read or watched seem to be more interested in getting rid of characters they don't like rather than creating ones they do. They seem to have devoted their energy to tearing down the work of others rather than raising up their own.

Let me tell you I've watched many pornos and pushed fetish boundaries to sedate the human sexual appetite without a partner. My porn is usually highly cultivated only with the most beautiful and cum drenched queens, yet I would still love to see the satisfied look of a chubby, or less than pretty girl.
For anyone that is affected negatively by attractive women in entertainment, they should feel free to stay away from it.