House wives

I thought I'd make this topic since it seems to be current in my life (minus the wife part)
How do you guys feel about house work? If you were living on your own with a female, would you want to do housework or would it be expected that the female do it?

Now, I'm not talking about female rights, and all that other bullshit, I'm just talking about social norms and what would you want.

Currently I do all the house work and cooking, but I feel like it's the least I can do since I'm currently not earning any income.

Do you feel that it's expected that females work around the house, or do you feel you're just as competent in helping with house work?

If you could afford it and support a whole household, would you still expect your girlfriend/wife to also work or would you prefer her to stay home and tend to the house (maybe kids)?

Would you expect both?

I dislike housework too much to be a stay at home house wife, but I have that 'I need to do it my way' complex when it comes to house work as well, so I feel like I need to do that as well.

I've been taking care of housework all my life, so doing it is natural to me. I get a bit upset when others try to do it and it's not up to my standards. Women don't belong in the kitchen!

I would have to say if I had a girlfriend I wouldn't expect her to do it but I would hope she would because i'm terrible at housework. but that's just my opinion

With the exception of cooking, I've been doing housework all my life. If I were to get married I would except that we would do equal work. However, if like only one of us had a job I would expect the other one to clean the house in their spare time. I don't think that it too much to expect. I certainly don't believe that the woman has to stay home though. I think we should both have a job and both of us have to maintain the house.

Currently, girlfriend's working as a JHO (junior house officer); what the linked article says is basically true in every way, from the workhours to being at the bottom of the feeding chain. Within the first three months of her JHO duties, we immediately noticed that sharing duties during these 12 months wasn't going to fly; she'd always have to work nightshifts and it would be a good day already if she came home and didn't have crying fits from the stress.

So I decided to take a one year sabbatical from work, finish my PhD thesis, and basically be the housewife for the duration of her JHO internship. It doesn't bother me at all (it'll be over in august!). It has its rosy sides too, have a lot of time to piss away, which is why I'm being active here in the first place :p

Normally though, we share duties (did so for the first 5 years), and I expect us to after her duties end. She can't cook worth a tuppence, so I do it - in turn she does the dishes. I do the housecleaning (hoover every day, wet every 2nd day) - she does the ironing. And so on. We're not nitpicking about sharing exactly 50:50, but it feels to both of us like we've got a pretty good balance. We're both extremely lazy, so if there really was some grave imbalance, that would be brought up immediately.

I frankly couldn't stand it if someone did all the housework for me. I grew to be very independent at an early age, and it makes me feel like a fucking idiot if I'm not looking after myself on my own. I could never employ a housemaid, it would make me feel exploitative as well as spoiled. Add to that the fact that I'm really into (no-nonsense) male-female equality, and it becomes understandable that I wouldn't want her to be a housewife.

In my own home, social norms can go fuck themselves. I don't let any bullshit "male pride" get in the way of things. I've worked far more demeaning jobs than doing housework, so I can't really understand how some men bitch about helping out around the house because it's supposedly "unmanly".

Edit: Even if I could afford it to let one part stay at home, I'd rather we both reduce to part-time and continue to share duties at home.

Wow, kudo's to your girlfriend. I heard about that before but I didn't know it was true.

I would have to say I'd be upset if I was expected to not work and stay at home. Mostly because I have my own goals, and I wouldn't want my life to be serving someone else. I enjoy education too much and I'm excited for July 7th to start again. When I'm out of school I don't know what to do with myself since I'm not constantly worrying or having to do some paper/research project/studying for test.

So now that I'm out of school, and no longer have a job. I feel like my mind is melting.

I'm actively looking for a job and trying to keep a positive mind about it. Until then, all I really can do to compensate no money flow is to clean and cook.

I am for equality between men and women, and this means I'm not at all in machism nor in feminism, a fair and respectable equality.
If I were to live with a female, the housework share will be done depending some aspects. First, it'll be up to her, I won't impose anything on my own. If she don't ask me to do all the chores, while I got a work, then it'll probably fine. Second thing, depends on work, if she or I got one or not. The more spare time you got, the more you can do, it's obvious. And then, it also depends on what you like, dislike to do. I kinda enjoy doing the dishes, ironing and some other little things, as well as I hate hunting the dust.

This make me wonder if the little boys in their young years will ever dream of becoming a "housewive" when they grow up, or will this dream go away from little girl's mind. But this is a different subject, and just a man, an adolescent wishing for real parity's thought.

I'd expect my wife to take care of most of the housework like cooking, cleaning, laundry, and shopping I'd leave it to her. Things like the garbage, house maintenance, and yardwork I'd expect myself to do. I think I have a more traditional view on the hosuewife because it adds to the charm of a "housewife". I'd also clean the dishes since I do it almost everyday. I don't expect my wife to stay home though. The world isn't so nice where income from one person is enough to live on anymore. We both have jobs, and we each do our own parts. If I could, I would and leave child-rearing to her and live off of my income, and that's a big IF.

[color=darkblue]edit: I'm also learning how to cook from my mom, so that's something that could be shared.[/color]

The way I see it, I'll worry about it when I get there. Im not gonna go into a relationship saying "Hey, when we get married, I expect YOU to do all the chores" Or anything like that. We'll just do whatever works for out schedule.

OR, we just wont do our chores at all. that works for me!

thanks!

Personally, I love to cook, so I'd want to do a large share of that regardless. In fact, none of the girls I have dated in the past have been cooks at all. We don't generally ship people off to finishing school anymore after all. Most of the girls I know and those I have dated have been interested in their studies and their future careers more than homemaking.

Either way, my plan would be to look at the schedules my wife and I have and base it on that. In general, split the duties, though if one person has to spend more time on work, the other should be able to take on a little extra housework without being bitter.

I would try to do most of the cooking. The other stuff, depends. I would try to work out some sort of plan or something that doesn't make either of us is doing all the work

Considering my gf is a math major and good a programming while I'm good at...uh nothing, I'd prefer to be a house husband since if I get a real job I'll just be miserable all the time.

I used to think I'd prefer equal division of the work but the more I interact with girls, the more I find I'd probably end up treating a wife like a princess and doing all the house work on my own. Well, except for cooking, I don't have any confidence in my cooking.

Also, I wouldn't really expect my wife to stay home and be a house wife even if I could provide for the family on my own. But then again, I see myself ending up with a girl with enough ambition to cover the both of us. ^,^

I wanna learn how to cook but, she won't let me in the kitchen. Things seem to catch fire around me. I thought that happened to everyone but, apparently it's just me.

I always pull my own weight so in house work I think it would be split between the two. I can cook some good dishes since my dad used to be a chef so I'd like to cook.

Well, catching fire? That is admittedly a new one.
She has however worked the wonder of putting a frozen pizza in the oven, and upon taking it out, it tasted like petrol. Which is not even supposed to be possible, right?
Ever since, I don't let her in the kitchen anymore.

I'm not all that good of a cook. So when I have person in the kitchen, it makes me nervous because I have to act in front of another person. I'd just prefer to cook alone and hope it comes out okay. <__<;

Sorry Fpod.

I probably wouldn't mind doing all the house work as long
as my wife helps out with some of it. So whoever has the
time and see's there's something housework to be done should do
it.

Not even near an open flame. just "Fwosh!" fire.

In all seriousness I only have recipes that I have never used. I am basically "from a box" type of cook. Though I can make some fucking awesome mashed potatoes if I do say so myself.