I am in need of help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Waar
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(>'.')>¿;= wrote...
are you sure you know these girls well enough to make an informed decision? the only thing that i can reccomend is maybe finding some free time for both of them and getting some necessary information about theyre true feelings and what they would come to rely on you for. maybe not that in particular... but showing interest for both of them can only strengthen the friendships, even if you end up with only one of them. but like everyone said dont take a month making up your mind, im only trying to make the decision process a little faster. in my opinion sara sounds like the better choice, i prefer shy girls whos deep trust you have to earn before truly getting to know them.not an interview.
just pick the one you like more, plain and simple.
you do like one more, trust me.
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Waar wrote...
not an interview.
just pick the one you like more, plain and simple.
you do like one more, trust me.
but if he had such a difficult time choosing to begin with, whats saying he does? not everythings in black and white and that includes emotions. you might be right and he could pick after contemplating... but i dont think he came to us to make up his mind.
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Waar
FAKKU Moderator
have some one ask you random questions with your eyes closed and answer with the first answer that comes to your head, have them slip the which girl do you like more question in there, thank you Friends.
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Just flat out...
Pick Ren.
8/10 it'll work out.
if it doesn't, break up. Try to stay friends. Just because you don't have an intimate relationship doesn't mean you can't be still friends.
Also, Ren's a hot name.
Pick Ren.
8/10 it'll work out.
if it doesn't, break up. Try to stay friends. Just because you don't have an intimate relationship doesn't mean you can't be still friends.
Also, Ren's a hot name.
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Temcor wrote...
lost12 wrote...
The Jesus wrote...
Uzumaki101 wrote...
lost12 wrote...
2ndgirl. Name:Ren
Ren is the kind of girl who you just want to be around because she is fun and happy. I have known Ren for five years, going back all the way to high school. Before I had a crush on her and even ask her out but she coldly rejected me :cry: but still we stayed friends. She has most of the same class as me so we see each other a lot and sometimes we hung out too.
Wait. She coldly rejected you first. But now, she loves you? How and when did she suddenly developed feelings for you?
Feelings change over time.
She said that in the past all her boyfriends were her close friends and when they broke up they would not keep in touch. So she was worry that if me and her were to go out,We would not keep in touch after we broke up because she did not want to lose a close friend like me. But now she said that she loves me.
Then go with Ren since she already expresses her feelings to you and you feel the same way towards her. I don't think you should wait....Go for it!
If he picks Ren, what will he say to Sara? Damn, you really can't avoid someone getting hurt, huh. Still, I hope everything works out smoothly for you.
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They're girls, not fragile glass plates. If one gets hurt (which probs will happen) then they will deal with it and move on. Just concentrate on what it is that you want.
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Waar wrote...
have some one ask you random questions with your eyes closed and answer with the first answer that comes to your head, have them slip the which girl do you like more question in there, thank you Friends.what if he says bob? then what, huh mr. spontaneous?
arly wrote...
They're girls, not fragile glass plates. If one gets hurt (which probs will happen) then they will deal with it and move on. Just concentrate on what it is that you want.
to an extent most men treat (and should treat!) woman as fragile objects simply because well... they arent, but they have a weaker constitution to emotional situations, and usually! theyre smaller and just... i dunno. its a womens beauty and figure that make them seem delicate, and i think that a proper gentleman would treat them as such... or at least delicately, i like that word.
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(>'.')>¿;= wrote...
Waar wrote...
have some one ask you random questions with your eyes closed and answer with the first answer that comes to your head, have them slip the which girl do you like more question in there, thank you Friends.what if he says bob? then what, huh mr. spontaneous?
arly wrote...
They're girls, not fragile glass plates. If one gets hurt (which probs will happen) then they will deal with it and move on. Just concentrate on what it is that you want.
to an extent most men treat (and should treat!) woman as fragile objects simply because well... they arent, but they have a weaker constitution to emotional situations, and usually! theyre smaller and just... i dunno. its a womens beauty and figure that make them seem delicate, and i think that a proper gentleman would treat them as such... or at least delicately, i like that word.
I'd like to preface this next bit with the fact that when I was young, I used to think the same way you currently do about women, because that's what I was raised to. You can be a gentleman without being a sexist idiot. Women are typically much better than men at processing their emotions. They get hurt, they get it out of their system, they move on.
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scarlet_aryles wrote...
They're girls, not fragile glass plates. If one gets hurt (which probs will happen) then they will deal with it and move on. Just concentrate on what it is that you want.Really? I guess i'm just too caring huh? Well, you can't blame a guy for thinking they're fragile. I apologize. :idea:
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Well to sum things up is that, you still don't have enough information yet to make a decision and you will have to floor the pedal and gather it all up in one gulp, spending time with them is a good way to find out, just be creative with words and plans things out ahead that way u might be able to get all the info in one go... yeah is hurting your head but hey we're talking about having a more intimate relationship here don't you think is worth all the effort and time ?
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After reading a number of these responses I asked myself, "What's with all this information crap?" Yes, its good to know the situation and have an idea of what may come of it with each choice, but that isn't what love is about. Love is something that goes even deeper than emotion. In my case, I've never been able to describe love any better than as a deep connection between two individuals. Its quite vague, but if you think about it, that's what it is. I know there are a few people on here that have boyfriends, girlfriends, or significant others in whatever way. The first person I think about, obviously, is onee-chan. I'd like to hear a little of her outlook on love because from what I can tell she has a beautiful relationship with her fiancé.
In the end, what it boils down to is the feeling that you have deep inside about the person you truly feel you should be with. Even if it doesn't work out, that feeling is something that can't be ignored. I see a deeper connection between you and Ren. Not to say there is nothing there between you and Sara, but it just doesn't seem to have the same depth and vigor, for lack of a better term, as the one you share with Ren.
Its not going to be easy letting one girl down, but all hope is not lost. It may take some time, but given the situation you are in, its only natural that someone is going to get hurt and if she is true about her feelings, its not as if she won't understand.
In the end, what it boils down to is the feeling that you have deep inside about the person you truly feel you should be with. Even if it doesn't work out, that feeling is something that can't be ignored. I see a deeper connection between you and Ren. Not to say there is nothing there between you and Sara, but it just doesn't seem to have the same depth and vigor, for lack of a better term, as the one you share with Ren.
Its not going to be easy letting one girl down, but all hope is not lost. It may take some time, but given the situation you are in, its only natural that someone is going to get hurt and if she is true about her feelings, its not as if she won't understand.
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Waar
FAKKU Moderator
TJ is right; both girls like you, both girls have confessed; PICK ONE.
If you guys really think girls will wait half a week while you decide then many of you have never really been with a woman; or at least regular women (i mean no offense with this statement).
If you guys really think girls will wait half a week while you decide then many of you have never really been with a woman; or at least regular women (i mean no offense with this statement).
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Our opinions do not matter as much as what your heart feels. Go with the one whom you like... or at least more than the other.
All of us have our own preference for the opposite sex; our preferences may not reflect yours.
Good luck dood!
All of us have our own preference for the opposite sex; our preferences may not reflect yours.
Good luck dood!
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Thank you everyone for your opinion which help me very much with my decision :)
In the end, I just pick Ren :wink: because I guess I still have feeling for her. I told Sara my decision and she was very well with it and told me good Luck with Ren but if you guys ever break up, I come back to try to win you back. So I think Sara still has feelings for me, I just hope i didn't hurt her too much. When I told Ren that I pick her she was jumping for joy and hugging me and kissing me :oops: . After that we went a date and then the next day when I woke up, I found myself sleeping next to Ren in her Bed. I SO KNEW THIS WAS COMING. :roll:
In the end, I just pick Ren :wink: because I guess I still have feeling for her. I told Sara my decision and she was very well with it and told me good Luck with Ren but if you guys ever break up, I come back to try to win you back. So I think Sara still has feelings for me, I just hope i didn't hurt her too much. When I told Ren that I pick her she was jumping for joy and hugging me and kissing me :oops: . After that we went a date and then the next day when I woke up, I found myself sleeping next to Ren in her Bed. I SO KNEW THIS WAS COMING. :roll:
