Is love worth it?

I was with my ex for 2 years and never said "I love you" I suppose I wasn't comfortable saying it because he wasn't the type to say it either. I often expressed it though while hugging him, just nuzzling his neck, or simple cute things like randomly kissing his cheek. Maybe deep down inside I knew we wouldn't last forever, which is why I didn't say it.

I think in America the phrase lost its meaning. I see girls all the time when they start dating someone within 2 weeks they throw the "I love you" out there. I just don't think that's what love is. I think love is when you mentally decide you want to spend the rest of your life with someone and commit yourself to them.

I think love is worth it though if you can find it. I often see married couples very unhappy together and I worry that I'll commit myself to someone but they'll lose interest. I'm quite afraid of marriage.
I see it as a very large opening for you to get hurt as well, though it works both ways I suppose. It takes a long time for the bond you share with someone to build, but it doesn't take much to knock it all down. That's very scary to me, especially after my first break up.

But, I still wouldn't give up on love. Because if you can find that person you want to sit down and eat dinner with every night and share your thoughts and opinions you can't ask for much more. In my opinion anyway.

I recall one of my relationships ending because my partner said I love you WAY too early. I remember replying,"don't throw that word around so easily", when she said it, and I did it in a very cold tone.

Meh, love could be worth it, but frequently it seems like a dog chasing its tail, catching it every once in a while but failing most of the time.

@ZiggyOtaku That is exactly what I think, the word love has lost it's true meaning to most people. I've had people tell me that they love me, and I hardly knew that person, let alone thought that I could spend a long period of time with them. It's almost become the same with getting married, everyone seems to think that if something goes wrong, they can just get a divorce. (And they all call it sacred...)

I personally have had almost no luck in the relationship department, but I think that if you can find that special person, nothing should stop you for going for it, even if it ends up hurting you someday.

it depends, true love is worth it, but then again true love is a miracle, and it's called a miracle because it never happens, at least i never saw it.

In my opinion, love is worth it. ^^ I'm not sure how to describe why, but... being in love and having that feeling reciprocated is the most wonderful feeling in the world. When he takes me into his arms, and I look into his eyes and see nothing but love...

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To me, when you're in love, you'll know it. And when you know it, I think it would also be instinctive to know when to say it. I think both guys and girls need that assurance from time to time, whether spoken or through small actions. I would no doubt find it hard to say "I love you" until I was more sure than uncertain, then everything else follows.

This question seems odd to me.
Love doesn't even exist, it's just an abstract ideal produced by the human mind as part of a larger atempt to grasp to some meaning and to justify under light of emotion the biochemical reactions responsible for relating to other creatures and mating, and is inflated and imbelished by other humans who probably have something to sell.
Any personal sacrafice for it's sake seems like a poor investment to me.

Hey man, that's how humans believe that they're part of this society, that our lives have meaning to it, and that we live for these concepts imposed upon ourselves. If not, society would fall apart and this paradigm we live in would shatter in an instant.

Agree'd


That means that one has to redefine what love is.

Love to me is little more than a deep friendship with intimacy. That is all that it really is.

No angels with trumpets
No bullshit weddings
No awkward dates

It is just a deep emotional connection that can happen between anyone.

Under that definition, the only difference between being in love and being in a romantic relationship is the sex.

Agree'd.

I suppose while love may not actually be real, it doesn't stop people from beleiving they feel it.

And, g-money, I don't particulary care for or about society, but I do understand to some degree that people need to beleive in things to keep from killing themselves. Probably why religion is so popular.
If you think about life entirely logically, it's only real point is to procreate and die, and procreation is futile because you only create another life that is intended to end. So really, there is no reason for life, and to continue on any longer is a waste of time, so we should all collectively die as soon as possible.
But I don't really feel like dieing, so I guess I'm not entirely unemotional, despite not putting beleive in anything that gives a point to life. But really, because I reason this, despite being mostly apathetic, I have a better reason to kill myself than most people who are filled with disphoria.
Maybe I should try beleiving in something.

... you are totally contradicting yourself. You believe that there's no real meaning in living since we all die anyways, but yet you don't want to die yourself. You say you have a better reason to die than others - why in the world should you have a better reason to die? Wtf?

I know I was contradicting myself, I sortof made that point, but I guess not clearly.
What I meant was, because I don't have any particular emotion in the way of reason, and reason would dictate that we should all be dead as soon as possible, then that is the highest reason to die, isn't it?
But at the same time, I don't really want to die, even though I don't have anything to believe in like most people do to justify continuing to live, things like religion or love. The contradiction is between I know and what I feel.
More or less like all humans. I just feel a little less than most people.

Or just be really really sad.
Emotion is a powerful motivator, wether in staying alive, or in ending your life.

For some people, its definitely worth it.

I'm not one of those people. Anyone who says "its better to have love and lost than not to have loved at all" has had relationships that at least offer some bit of happiness. I'd sooner not fall in love ever again.

I would like to to think so. I don't believe in a God per se, but I do believe in philosophy. I think science can't prove everything, and that knowledge is eventually just going to corrupt our species, and make people power hungry demigods that will eventually tear the fabric of our civilization. I think that there are things to be left untold, and mysteries to remain unknown. But that's for one to decide themselves, most of you may disagree with me but oh well. If there is someone out there in the world I could actually connect with at a mental and emotional state, and live with that till I die; that's love baby.

That does not make sense to me... there is a great amount unknown, and not everyone should know everything, but to persue knowladge and logic can be a noble thing.
And noone can know more than they are capable of knowing. Which is a stupidly obvious statement, but in the face of the philisophical idea that man will know too much, it means that you can't possibly know too much.