One Night Stands

Ever since I've been in with the dating thing I've been a strong believer of "hitting it and quitting it" or basically relationships bent on lust. Now I'm sure when I become mid aged like 40 or so my attitude will change but for all the men and or women out there. Do you think you could just have sex with a man or woman and then never speak to the person again?

[size=10]I could only have a one night stand if I was seriously turned on or if I seriously hated the person. It's hard to explain.

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[size=10]But Moving on, I normally wouldn't have a relationship based on just sex. I feel as if you shouldn't have a relationship with someone just for sex. However, these days it seems that most relationships are all about sex or money. One person, or both, seem to want either money or sex; sometimes both. Then... there are decent relationships based on intimacy and love.

But um to be simple, I don't think relationships should be based completely on lust or sex. Unless.. of course it's a relationship like the one in that one Hentai Series. "Sex Friends" That was okay..

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Honestly I've never had such a deep reply to this question, you must be really good with relationships I assume.

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Lol, I've been called a charmer, however I've never really been into any relationships that lasted long. I fear that sometimes I'm too nice to the girl or too boring. But anyway that's of no importance to me... Thank you though. I appreciate your words.[/h]

Unfaithful, A Perfect Murder, The Quickie... all copyrighted artistic works that say one night stands should not be your cup of tea. In any case, rather than a one night stand, "sexfriends" or "fuck buddies" would be a better alternative, though I personally don't support that either. (It implies a drop in morals and a lack of principle/fidelity.)

Personally I've no problem with a one night stand. The way I see it is that 99.9% of the time these feeling we have for someone are feelings of pure raw lust. That other .1% that true love that people do feel it becomes a different story.

The idea that one night stands are evil is based off of one assumption: "Women hate sex"

That is a fallacy right there.

Anybody that has played the game long enough will tell you that love and sex are two different things. Two VERY VERY VERY VERY DIFFERENT THINGS.

One night stands are necessary for the very reason that you shouldn't fool yourself. Do not EVER confuse lust and love. That will only fuck you up in the worst way.

One night stands, fuck buddies, and sex gatherings are all good! In fact I recommend them if you can find some!

You need to be able to distinguish between lust and attraction, and realize that friendship is the true basis for a good long lasting relationship.


AND WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT EVER EVER EVER MARRY FOR SEX!

Great Sex is a Plus though.

WHEN YOU MARRY SOMEONE YOU ARE STUCK WITH THEM FOR A VERY FUCKING LONG TIME

What will you do when you are NOT fucking exactly? Talk about Family Guy for 20 years?

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Family Guy sounds nice.
Plus, there's always will and grace.
Ha ha, but on a serious note. I agree.
Marrying someone just for sex is retarded.
I'd list several reasons why I think it's retarded but I think any normal adult, elder or young adult, should have a level of maturity and intelligence to realize how silly it is to marry someone just for sex.

Edit: but uh, maybe he was just making a joke about it. I doubt he was serious.[/h]

Really, it seems like you should marry someone you can be around a lot and not start to hate, but would also enjoy fucking them.
So, sort of like your best friend, only sexually atractive to you.

One night stands are only really interesting for the anonimity and general dirty feeling of them, that can be exciting, however, I don't think it's any way to live.
The friends with benifits thing, that usually complicates itself. It can work sometimes, though, and when it does, it can be a good thing. I mean, you do it with the same person enough, and you learn what eachother really likes and the best way to do things, so that can be a plus. But it almost always fails. People are emotional beings, and sex, although many folks may not realise, does often carry a lot of emotions with it. And emotions make everything complicated.

Haha!
I like this guy.

I'm pretty good with relationships so not much goes wrong. It can start out as what we thought was going to be a one night stand, then 2 then 3 and so on and so forth. I'm not exactly used to being rejected but then again it's happened. once. in High School This girl I actually cared about (a lot for once) said no because it's "too much of a hassle to have a boyfriend" so repeated one night stands it was.

I think my high school thing was probably closer to "friends with benefits".

I like crazy girls... normal chicks just seem boring to me, I guess.

I wouldn't be able to do it. Not because I find it oh so immoral, but because I wouldn't be capable of trusting a guy that much just meeting him for one night and one night only. I have a wall built up and I only put it down if I can trust the person.

If I'm dating someone it may not take long for me to take my pants off, but that's me knowing I'm in a relationship with the guy. That'd also depend how close the guy was with me. There's too many open variables in the situations, but never would I ever allow some stranger to have sex with me.

I picked the second option, but I don't think it's immoral. It's just something that would never work for me. Love and intimacy are to important to me, so one night stands are kind of out. Still, whatever works for you is fine, but personally I don't think that kind of thing will benefit you much in the long run.

For me personal, I can't do the whole one night stand thing. I'd feel incredibly guilty. Like 'I can't believe I just did that with a total stranger, what kind of morals do I have?!?!' So in short, I'd beat myself up about it.

The whole friends with benefits thing I just don't get. Many of my friends have sex friends, but I just can't do it because if I like someone enough to have sex with them, then I would want a relationship.
I can't really seperate feelings like that so I'd rather not do casual sex with friends if I can't have them.

This question is confusing.

If you're asking how I feel about one-night stands, I'm all for them. Sex feels good. Just take the proper precautions.

If you're asking if I think that a relationship should be based solely on lust, I'm gonna have to disagree. Relationships that only involve sex or a sexual attraction are bound to fail, and there's no point in staying in a doomed relationship. (Unless she's paying for your rent or food or something, but in that case, you're not in a relationship; you're just using somebody.)

As for fuck buddies, friends with benefits, those sorts of things, they're bad. Not immoral or anything, just a great way to cause trouble. When you have a one-night stand, it's a one-time thing. Neither party has any intention of doing it again, nor any hope of doing it again. But when you have a fuck buddy, it's sex that happens repeatedly. One person will probably get attached to the other, and that will either lead to a dysfunctional relationship or a person in tears repeatedly saying, "Why doesn't he/she love me?"

One last thing:


What? Where does this come from?

One-night stands are seen as bad because it's casual sex, usually with a stranger. It irks people who see sex as an expression of love to see it used solely for physical pleasure. I have never, ever, in my life heard of the theory that one-night stands are bad because women hate sex. It sounds like some weird feminist shit that a woman who's never had a one-night stand came up with.