Pet peeves about being in a relationship
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fallenwing13 wrote...
You deserve someone who either shares your interests or is willing to try them and respect them.That's why I'd hope, yes.
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fallenwing13 wrote...
arisadelle wrote...
fallenwing13 wrote...
arisadelle wrote...
fallenwing13 wrote...
arisadelle wrote...
I wish my boyfriend had more kinks. I'm always the freakier one.I feel you. It's the same with my girlfriend, and I hate the feeling I get sometimes that I might be indirectly forcing her to do stuff just to please me and my kinks...
Yeah! I worry about that too. But I'm sure she likes to please you, though. That's definitely a big fantasy.
Thanks, I know. What worries me is she thinks someday maybe I'll want something that she cannot give me, and that that will make me stop loving her. Like, I don't know, maybe I tell her I want to see how she is fucked by other guys, and she doesn't want to (Just to be clear, I don't have that fantasy, not yet anyways).
I have that fear too. But I think consistently reassuring her helps.
Probably. I don't think there's anything else I could do besides suppressing my own desires, and I don't think that's ok.
Definitely not! And I don't think she would like that too. If you love her, i'd just try to be as honest as possible while reassuring her you don't want to pressure her but you just want her to know more about you.
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arisadelle wrote...
Definitely not! And I don't think she would like that too. If you love her, i'd just try to be as honest as possible while reassuring her you don't want to pressure her but you just want her to know more about you.Thanks, we actually talked about it a bit, and I'd say we are both more confident now.
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fallenwing13 wrote...
You deserve someone who either shares your interests or is willing to try them and respect them.Totally agree. Respect is the foundation for a relationship. If your partner is mocking your hobbies (or vice versa) that ship will sink (relationship that is). I know couples that only have a few hobbies overlapping, but they respect each other, and make sure they both have time for themselves.
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My current partner is rather socially anxious and has issues with self worth (tends to blow the negative parts of herself out of proportion) but even that is endearing in a way. No real complaints besides that.
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I am single, and non-monogamous with multiple partners. I am not ready for a relationship yet, and just having fun exploring my sexuality. Figuring out what I want. I enjoy dating, and it's nice not having the pressures and expectations that come with a serious relationship. All of my partners are single, and know I am seeing multiple men.
My relationship fears: I don't want to be abandoned, left alone, and forgotten. No one does. I worry about being too clingy and needy, and not useful enough. I need to know I am loved despite my flaws.
I'm working on self improvement, which will help decrease my relationship fears.
My relationship fears: I don't want to be abandoned, left alone, and forgotten. No one does. I worry about being too clingy and needy, and not useful enough. I need to know I am loved despite my flaws.
I'm working on self improvement, which will help decrease my relationship fears.