[Question] What do guys want in a girl?

My ex and I had different types of friends, I couldn't connect with his friends and he couldn't connect with mine. Well we had a few friends who were friends with both of us.

But the point is a lot of times he would go out and I wouldn't fuss. He asked me about it once and I told him I wanted to be his girlfriend, not his mother - that as long as he didn't do anything to ruin the trust that I gave him I had no problem with him going out and having fun with his friends, so long as he respected the same thing with my friends.

It worked out pretty well.

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The only time I got upset, and it happened a few times, was when we made plans for sure, and then when I'd get off of work, either I'd call before showing up and find out he wasn't home, or show up at his house and he wasn't home - then I'd get really irritated. There was only one time he had a good reason, but the other times he didn't have an excuse, one was to play rock band with his friends after telling me to come over after work.

In all honesty, I think you're being a bit hard on the woman with this theoretical situation... at least I assume it's theoretical? It doesn't take much to understand why she's doing what she is, especially in this example. It's New Year's Eve, so she wants to spend it with you. It's a special night and no one wants to be alone when it's a new year.

She sees that you're unhappy and bored, so she makes what she feels is a kind gesture. She compromises by giving in and going to the party with you even though she doesn't really feel like it. Maybe this way you'll be happier during the holiday that she wants to be a nice memory for you both. She stays with you because, like I've said, she wants to be with YOU.

Subconsciously she may hope that you'll see that SHE'S not having a great time and want to do something nice for HER; compromise like she did. After all, she's given in and done what you wanted to do. She's not bitching and complaining, she's standing with you and assures you that she's having fun, even though she isn't. Deep down maybe she hopes you'll say something like, "sorry you're not having a great time, hon. We'll go home a little bit after midnight, OK?". Compromise.

I'm not saying this because I'm siding with the woman over you, I'm just trying to get you to think about what her REAL motivation may be. She hasn't done anything that's unkind. In fact it seems as though she's gone out of her way to give you what you want. It wouldn't be too much of a sacrifice to do something nice for her in return, you know. You've already confessed that you understand what she's feeling, but I think you're unjustly assuming that she's doing it out of spite. You've won! You're at the party! Sure, you may WANT her to WANT to be at the party, but she doesn't. Isn't it a bit unrealistic to expect her to force herself to have fun for your sake as well?

None of this is an accusation against you, or even ShaggyJebus, who is The Man. I'm just putting it out there to make you stop and think about motivation. It's about wanting to BE TOGETHER. She may be trying to force it, but that's what it's really all about. In reference to what SJ said, most women WANT to be in a relationship. They have romanticized ideas about what a relationship means. It's hurtful to them if you don't want to spend time with them, especially on special occasions. Yes, even if this New Years is exactly like the last 20. Yes, it's a bit unreasonable to want to spend every last minute with one another. But isn't being in love all about wanting to spend time with another person?

All I'm really saying in the end is, you should think and TALK about what you want out of a relationship. Chances are, if you're in a relationship and you're bored out of your skull because you're always together but have nothing to say, you may want to break up. Even if neither of you have done anything wrong, it's obvious that you're not really compatible, you're just comfortable. That's not fair to either of you.

If you're with someone and you're trying to spend time away from them... it may be time to reevaluate why you're with them in the first place.

while i understand what you're getting at, the above part still annoys me. i get what compromising means, but being not sincere is one of the thing that i loathe the most. dunno how to say it, but i think it's worse than lying.

and...the only thing she wanted to do is restrict my freedom? ugh...hard girl to deal with. i'm in no way saying that i want to get away from her, i love her alright, but still, everyone needs that personal space. all the more if we've spent the past few years just like that! naturally i'll need some change of pace.

but of course, i can try to understand about this special days thing. in that case i'll just propose that i go there alone, and will be coming back and whatever reasonable time that both of us agree to. that'll be much better that having her go to the party and ruin my mood. if she can't agree to that, i don't see any part of that her compromising anymore. it'll be just some disgusting seemingly kind gesture. to that kind of people i'll just say "don't lie just to make yourselves look good".

Dear SunQuan,
Marry me.
Love,
Sarene

P.S.
+rep'd <3

well when i am with a girl, i like to give her a lot of things. like respect her, and im an all around nice guy. so what my girl has to have this:

loves me for me
honest
loyal
likes video games
likes hanging out with me
does not dislike (a lot) of what i like
is ok with me fapping
(and if its not too much to ask for) willing to have sex
and likes to be with me, and likes it when i want to be with her

i see where you two are coming from. i see your logic loud and clear. maybe thats why my uncle and auntie got divorced.

Yeah, too mcuh of a good thing is a bad thing afterall.

That's why I look for complete obediance and servitude in my women. (JK)

In all seriousness, women are expensive, thats all i have to say.

doesnt mind marijuana
will suck my dick at will
will consent to sex at my command

Tsundere
Pink / Silver / Light Blue / Orange hair
Short Hair (Look at my waifu)
Long Straight Hair (Still prefer short though)
Love to kiss anywhere anytime (I love kissing)
Medium size of breasts. Not too big, not too small.
Soft lips.
She likes to wearing Yukata
She likes to cosplay
She don't mind if I looking at hentai
She agree if I want to polygamy

Those aren't as amazing as you'd think it'd be.
Think about it, you may have two+ women, but that means odds are against you. Then human nature arises and you get jealousy. You spend more time with this girl then that girl and it's not fair yadda yadda.

Mmmm, true misery. Being surrounded by miserable bitches.

Definitely true.

I was in a relationship (sort of) where I was with a girl, and the girl was with another girl as well as a guy. I was the last to the party, actually. Anyways, people didn't mess around with each other, we all just messed around with the girl in the middle, at different times, and things often got pretty tense. The girl's boyfriend (I was more of a friend with benefits) would get jealous of me and jealous of the girlfriend, and often, he would say that he didn't like the setup and want it abolished, while all of us stayed friends. The girl would agree, and after a week, the guy would feel guilty for making the girl limit her love (or some such bullshit) and say that it was back on. It was crazy, it was stressful, and you never knew how things were going to turn out.

I enjoyed it because I got some minor action and didn't have any other prospects at the time, but I never considered myself to be high up on the totem pole of the polyamorous relationship, nor did I care about a relationship. I just enjoyed being friends with the girl and also getting some action. But there's no way I'd go through that shit again, unless the action was really good. Polygamy doesn't work 99% of the time.



I really don't think you'll find any girls with those hair colors. Plus, they don't look that great in real life.

....what do i want in a girl??

hmm....
just be together with me and make my life interesting.

My thoughts exactly. "Accepting" is a key for my ideal girl. One who will not change you, but love you for you are and what you do. For example, she finds out you are an otaku and is okay with it.

Ditto. But it seems finding it is a pain in the ass. Well, nearly impossible except the girlfriend is somekind of an otaku too (have similiar hobby). Like my friend that broke his gf cause she complains too much about going out with her. Eventhough he wants to play game more. Hahahaha

I want the world and then some :P A mirror of my own personality. Someone who I can love and hate at the same time.

Passionate
Intelligent
Dark sense of humor
Social conscience
Selfless
Not materialistic
Tolerant
Thirst for knowledge
Great deal of integrity and or self-esteem (I may try to destroy her)
A tendency toward misanthropy buried beneath the skin.
In the case of this one person then monogamy would be preferable, I'd rather not have her at all than share her with someone who is unworthy.

In terms of looks: I'd have to go with short; like 5 feet 2 or shorter, short hair (purple), glasses are a plus because they add to the cuteness. Beautiful enthralling eyes, an amazing - albeit rare: smile. Pale skin, B is a nice size for breasts. I like big eyes.....maybe I have watched too much amine.

*crosses arms and leans against a wall*

Just make sure, when you find this girl... don't fuck it up.
You'll never have another chance...

dunno i guess just someone who is not too nasty or something intresting to be around (and mabye short hair (i think i may have a short hair fetish >_<))

My personal list
Otaku (gameing and anime preflibly)
Great sense of humor (i act like an idiot all the time so ya)
A nice personality