Well... Love triangle eh?
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Well i read this from my school paper and made me amused... If this would happen to you, what would you do?
I'll summarize it because his column is damn long...
the guy and girl are childhood friends
from elementary to highschool they knew each other
the guy introduces the girl to his best friend
three of them have fun in the days
boy realizes that he have feelings for the girl
he was about to confess to the girl but was approached
by his best friend
the both of them talked until best friend says he likes the girl
both of them were closer than brethren and it was tried and true
girl was no bf since birth
best friend doesnt know guy's feelings toward her
guy is afraid to lose best friend to girl and vice versa
guy is confused....
Well it was posted in the student columns so i dunno... never experience this...
What would you do if YOU were that guy?
I'll summarize it because his column is damn long...
the guy and girl are childhood friends
from elementary to highschool they knew each other
the guy introduces the girl to his best friend
three of them have fun in the days
boy realizes that he have feelings for the girl
he was about to confess to the girl but was approached
by his best friend
the both of them talked until best friend says he likes the girl
both of them were closer than brethren and it was tried and true
girl was no bf since birth
best friend doesnt know guy's feelings toward her
guy is afraid to lose best friend to girl and vice versa
guy is confused....
Well it was posted in the student columns so i dunno... never experience this...
What would you do if YOU were that guy?
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well I will tell my best friend that I like that girl as well but I don't want our friendship to end because of her... then I follow up with us both ask the girl who he likes and respect who she chooses and remain friends...
from what I observed on my two best friends who almost killed each other over a girl, the longer they keep hiding what they feel, the worse the situations becomes... and if things get grave enough one may end up regretting what he may do...
from what I observed on my two best friends who almost killed each other over a girl, the longer they keep hiding what they feel, the worse the situations becomes... and if things get grave enough one may end up regretting what he may do...
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So the best friend is a guy right? Whenever i think of love trianges, its usually with 2 girls and a guy. Manga and hentai do things to you dont they...
Well, i think he should tell his best friend he likes her. They will either
1.Be rivals, but still be friends
2.Be rivals, and lost friendship
3.Both give up
4.Have a threesome (which in my opinion is never going to happen and it shouldnt)
5.One of them wins.
Well, i think he should tell his best friend he likes her. They will either
1.Be rivals, but still be friends
2.Be rivals, and lost friendship
3.Both give up
4.Have a threesome (which in my opinion is never going to happen and it shouldnt)
5.One of them wins.
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Symeria wrote...
well I will tell my best friend that I like that girl as well but I don't want our friendship to end because of her... then I follow up with us both ask the girl who he likes and respect who she chooses and remain friends...from what I observed on my two best friends who almost killed each other over a girl, the longer they keep hiding what they feel, the worse the situations becomes... and if things get grave enough one may end up regretting what he may do...
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try and get da girl, and tell him about it, that way they can prepare each other for the outome
sure they may hate each other for a while but they'll get over it
sure they may hate each other for a while but they'll get over it
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If I was in that position I would try and talk it over with my best friend, after all he's my best friend so he'd at least want to straighten things out. However this is not an easy situation, I can't really predict the outcome.
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Symeria wrote...
well I will tell my best friend that I like that girl as well but I don't want our friendship to end because of her... then I follow up with us both ask the girl who he likes and respect who she chooses and remain friends...from what I observed on my two best friends who almost killed each other over a girl, the longer they keep hiding what they feel, the worse the situations becomes... and if things get grave enough one may end up regretting what he may
do...
Yeah, things can get pretty ugly when it involves relationships. like my two of friends who were childhood friends turned swore enemy because of a girl. damn fools.
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Symeria wrote...
Yeah, things can get pretty ugly when it involves relationships. like my two of friends who were childhood friends turned swore enemy because of a girl. damn fools.how stupid is that?!!
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Love triangles are pointy and sharp. They often hurt you before you can even notice. >.>
The best thing to be done is to talk it over early on, but even then it is not guaranteed that the two friends will ever look at each other the same way. If this is the case with you, best of luck.
The best thing to be done is to talk it over early on, but even then it is not guaranteed that the two friends will ever look at each other the same way. If this is the case with you, best of luck.
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Never stand still, if he really loves her than it's only fair that he confesses, both of them have that right and neither has any obligation to the other, in the way i think, only the fast and the smart could win this.
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mantisprime1250 wrote...
Symeria wrote...
Yeah, things can get pretty ugly when it involves relationships. like my two of friends who were childhood friends turned swore enemy because of a girl. damn fools.how stupid is that?!!
1.) I never wrote that..
2.) I think those are orpheus's words
3.) That's reality. they were stupid but also blinded by both rage and love... In the situation of my best friends, if I dint Step in and knocked some sense into their heads I would be grieving over the grave of two of my best friends...
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I suppose I can chime in with my pseudo-experience on this one.
Fall sophomore year, one girl seems to be the object of a lot of guys affections- not mine though. She forbade me from ever developing feelings for her. I laugh and say no problem.
A few months later a large group of friends were watching tv in a friend's room. 4 of us are on a queen size bed. Previously mentioned girl is getting really snuggly with me. I say to her, "It's funny we're together like this when you told me never to get get feelings for you." Her response was, "I wish I had never said that." I still wasn't all that interested in her, but opted to go with the flow. It's not often that a girl flat out says, "I want you!" and i had nothing against her.
Fall senior year, I've been dating the girl in question for nearly 2 years. My feelings for her are quite strong and we've said we'll be together forever (and we've been having sex for a while now.) She get's a love letter from one of our friends that we've know for all through high school, and takes it way too seriously. She's troubled by the dilemma because she has feeling for both of us.
My opinion was that she should just blow it off- she was already involved with me, and the two of them could deal with a little tension for the few months left in high school. Her thought was she wished we were in a matriarchal polygamous society so she needn't choose. After a few weeks of deliberation, she chose the other guy. Worst Christmas ever.
After that, her relationship with the other guy was very short lived- like 2 months- my rebound girlfriend lasted longer than that, and only ended because I saw opportunity to get back with the original girl, which didn't pan out. Also, my relationship with the other guy was mended a whole lot faster than my relationship with her. He invited me to a barbecue like a year later and we were totally cool- he was just being true to himself, she was the one who had betrayed me. It wasn't until another two years after that (so like 3 years after the breakup) that I was able to forgive her, mostly because she has just given birth and I was really thankful it wasn't mine.
So where am I going with all this? I tried the traditional, "Make her choose the one she loves most" option, and it didn't work out well for anyone. I have some important memories from the ordeal, but they're probably fairly standard- not a whole lot more wisdom than I've gained since for other experiences. If I had the option to try again, I would go the extra-monogamous route. It probably wouldn't have worked out, but it would have been some serious experience that I doubt I'll have opportunity to get anywhere again... and I probably would have gotten to have sex with a few more times as well.
Fall sophomore year, one girl seems to be the object of a lot of guys affections- not mine though. She forbade me from ever developing feelings for her. I laugh and say no problem.
A few months later a large group of friends were watching tv in a friend's room. 4 of us are on a queen size bed. Previously mentioned girl is getting really snuggly with me. I say to her, "It's funny we're together like this when you told me never to get get feelings for you." Her response was, "I wish I had never said that." I still wasn't all that interested in her, but opted to go with the flow. It's not often that a girl flat out says, "I want you!" and i had nothing against her.
Fall senior year, I've been dating the girl in question for nearly 2 years. My feelings for her are quite strong and we've said we'll be together forever (and we've been having sex for a while now.) She get's a love letter from one of our friends that we've know for all through high school, and takes it way too seriously. She's troubled by the dilemma because she has feeling for both of us.
My opinion was that she should just blow it off- she was already involved with me, and the two of them could deal with a little tension for the few months left in high school. Her thought was she wished we were in a matriarchal polygamous society so she needn't choose. After a few weeks of deliberation, she chose the other guy. Worst Christmas ever.
After that, her relationship with the other guy was very short lived- like 2 months- my rebound girlfriend lasted longer than that, and only ended because I saw opportunity to get back with the original girl, which didn't pan out. Also, my relationship with the other guy was mended a whole lot faster than my relationship with her. He invited me to a barbecue like a year later and we were totally cool- he was just being true to himself, she was the one who had betrayed me. It wasn't until another two years after that (so like 3 years after the breakup) that I was able to forgive her, mostly because she has just given birth and I was really thankful it wasn't mine.
So where am I going with all this? I tried the traditional, "Make her choose the one she loves most" option, and it didn't work out well for anyone. I have some important memories from the ordeal, but they're probably fairly standard- not a whole lot more wisdom than I've gained since for other experiences. If I had the option to try again, I would go the extra-monogamous route. It probably wouldn't have worked out, but it would have been some serious experience that I doubt I'll have opportunity to get anywhere again... and I probably would have gotten to have sex with a few more times as well.
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sifian_ wrote...
I suppose I can chime in with my pseudo-experience on this one.Fall sophomore year, one girl seems to be the object of a lot of guys affections- not mine though. She forbade me from ever developing feelings for her. I laugh and say no problem.
A few months later a large group of friends were watching tv in a friend's room. 4 of us are on a queen size bed. Previously mentioned girl is getting really snuggly with me. I say to her, "It's funny we're together like this when you told me never to get get feelings for you." Her response was, "I wish I had never said that." I still wasn't all that interested in her, but opted to go with the flow. It's not often that a girl flat out says, "I want you!" and i had nothing against her.
Fall senior year, I've been dating the girl in question for nearly 2 years. My feelings for her are quite strong and we've said we'll be together forever (and we've been having sex for a while now.) She get's a love letter from one of our friends that we've know for all through high school, and takes it way too seriously. She's troubled by the dilemma because she has feeling for both of us.
My opinion was that she should just blow it off- she was already involved with me, and the two of them could deal with a little tension for the few months left in high school. Her thought was she wished we were in a matriarchal polygamous society so she needn't choose. After a few weeks of deliberation, she chose the other guy. Worst Christmas ever.
After that, her relationship with the other guy was very short lived- like 2 months- my rebound girlfriend lasted longer than that, and only ended because I saw opportunity to get back with the original girl, which didn't pan out. Also, my relationship with the other guy was mended a whole lot faster than my relationship with her. He invited me to a barbecue like a year later and we were totally cool- he was just being true to himself, she was the one who had betrayed me. It wasn't until another two years after that (so like 3 years after the breakup) that I was able to forgive her, mostly because she has just given birth and I was really thankful it wasn't mine.
So where am I going with all this? I tried the traditional, "Make her choose the one she loves most" option, and it didn't work out well for anyone. I have some important memories from the ordeal, but they're probably fairly standard- not a whole lot more wisdom than I've gained since for other experiences. If I had the option to try again, I would go the extra-monogamous route. It probably wouldn't have worked out, but it would have been some serious experience that I doubt I'll have opportunity to get anywhere again... and I probably would have gotten to have sex with a few more times as well.
I remember a shirt stating the 'GOALS OF A BITCH' when i read this
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Declare Celibacy.
Or ditch both of them, and go for the other 'fish in the sea'.
'We can still friends, right?'
Or ditch both of them, and go for the other 'fish in the sea'.
'We can still friends, right?'
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Well I'm sort of in the same situation only difference is that I didn't know the girl since I was a child and the friend is nothing more than a good friend. Anyways I'd agree with Skoodlez and just go with the flow and wait for the right time, but apparently that failed... Now she likes another guy. BOOYAH!
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Reverse the gender of the characters in the scenario... and I would just give up in that case.
I value friendship a lot more.
I value friendship a lot more.
