Why I don't do well in relationships.

ZiggyOtaku, Rukia92, Rayne, Pasithea, and a few others to name some.

If only my problem was as simple as Angelus. Too bad my romantic interest is a tomboyish girl who is busy concentrating on college and has a pretty wrong idea of who I am.

CON-FESS!

biggest solution to your problem, but the biggest obstacle in your case as well.

You're a romantic, and you like your current situation with the girls you happen to be with, despite your fumbling and bumbling.

Normally, I'd suggest you to be more forward with the girl, but since your problem happens to be that you get flustered near a girl you like, and I can't tell you to simply change your personality, confession really is the only way.

Think of confession like Star Power on Guitar Hero. Failing red area = Friendzone, green passing area = establishing an intent of a intimate relationship.

There in lies the problem, I'm a romantic, I just can't walk up to them and say I really like you do you wan to go out some time. No I'd have to do something along the lines get them alone for a few seconds, give them a flower of some sort, and hen pour my heart and soul out. By saying something like, "*Insert girls name here*, I don't know how to say this so I'll get straight to the point. Will you go out with me?"

You wanna do something romantic?

Buy or borrow a book titled,"*insert number* ways to say 'I love you'/'will you go out with me'", read it in front of her while burying your face in the book to hide your embarrassment.

That's how I got my first love/soulmate.

No offense man, but that seems like it would work basicly beccause of how akwardly indearing such a wierd thing would be. But, since it worked one way or another, I guess I can't really put it down.

Anyway, confidance is the high road, but you can seem confidant just by being a dick. Most girls under the age of 30 can't tell the difference, mostly because they don't want to. Women tend to say things like all they want is a nice guy who will take care of them and not be a dick, but they don't mean right now. They mean they want that man to take care of them after they have all their fun with the most useless bastards they can find, so that they don't end up living in a trailer park with 14 kids and 2 teeth at the age of 32.
Anyway, just think of yourself as awesome. It might be easier if you are like a doctor or something, you know, saving lives. That seems like it would make it easy to have a strong sense of self-importance.

Whell, the key to being confident is not caring, from my experience.

You can be self important, but that doesn't really do much besides inflate the ego to asshole-like qualities.

It is not having the fear of rejection in you. If you fear rejection it will happen. So if you don't care about it, it probably won't happen.

It is quite a feat to do to be honest though. :P

I'm honest. AND I'm awesome.
I mean, I graduated grade school in America. I'm obviously the shit.

Women seem to like assholes. I don't pretend to know why, I'm just telling you what I see.

Well - as a female I have the same problem with guys I like. I have a hard time with eye contact and I sorta get quiet because I don't know what to say or how to act. I'm also pretty clumsy.
My first boyfriend, our first 'date' was spending time at the farm I worked at part time painting a fence together. I liked it because it was relaxing and we had plenty of privacy to talk and laugh about different things. Also showed off how clumsy I was, he had to help me with paint thinner to get paint off me later. ._.

My problem is sometimes I want to talk to a person I like, but don't actually have anything to say. I get chased away easily if they come across as a short tempered person. I'm pretty sensitive to raised voices.

But with everyone who mentioned guys who have to trick girls into getting into bed with them - ugh. I wouldn't ever just sleep with a person, because I figure if they don't want to be committed in a relationship with me, they don't need me in their bed, find somebody else.

Guys who are assholes I tend to be rude to. I'm more fond of quiet guys who have more intelligence then brute strength.

Advice? -shrugs- finding a person who understands how you are. When you say idiot though, what do you mean? When I think of an idiot, I think of someone who neglects a person or just says something mean, but then later regrets it - and always does that.

Getting flustered with words is pretty normal, to most girls that even comes off as cute. Despite what guys think, girls (who are worth anything) don't like pent up emotionless manly mans.

When I describe myself as a blithering idiot One or more of the following things happen:

1. I get tongue tied
2. I say something completely off topic and random
3. I just clam up and walk away with out another word
4. I become an asshole(Though I am an asshole to some people n a regular basis)

The answer is quite simple actually.
Putting it into effect, is not.

You need to expand your league. In other words.
You need to get sexier.

Women love the Heman body

I'm going to put a shock collar on you. When you make a mistake when talking to a girl. I'll shock the fuck out of you. Think of the proverbial pissing on the third rail. You won't make that mistake again. I won't kill you but, you'll remember to not make the same mistake.

Eventually, you'll get it right, or die. Whichever.

Ah - I see he did list his examples of being an idiot, my bad.

I'm an advent boxing and Tennis Player on the Wii, and I work out roughly 2 hours once a week and get plenty of exercise a work. I monitor my diet. Ive lost weight and I'm working on loosing more, bu I'm genetically built like this, so it's an up hill battle.



Uh I can't remember the name of the movie(It has Jason Biggs and Jack Black) but I don't think electro shock is a good idea.

I don't care if it's a good idea. I'll do it just to put a shock collar on you.

Nah, I would seriously do that. I'd leave something like that up to Gourmetprice.

I believe this shock-collar tactic will work.

ZiggyOtaku raised a good point, I think. Just as much as there are nice guys, there are nice girls. Not many, I'm sure, but you don't neccessarily need to be a bastard, sir, you could just have patence. Or figure something else out.
I don't know, I'm just some dude.

i do it like this

YES! I do!

happens to me.......often......but anyway.....all i do is keep silent....reply to the girl if she ask you.....say your a little nervious.....she'l understand it.....and will try to calm you.....(atleast thats what happens to me)..........

edit: hey wait!..........its an old thread?......