wrong idea

i'm going to a guys house tomorow (1st time at a guys house whos a friend ^^) and he's copied me some hentai movies and to thank him i'm making him lunch and desert. hes a friend and we've known each other for a couple of weeks. it'll just be us two at his.

I know its a little last minute and random, but do you think that i'll give him the wrong idea or anything?

edit: how do i kill this is thread asap? i found out he's started lurking??

edit 2: oh balls to it, he only goes on the computers and hentai sections anyway.

If he is a friend like you say he is and you only know him for a short time no. Go through with your plans, he most likely will not try anything, but he most likely will be think. Oh yes he'll think but he won't do.

yep... if you're not into him tell him; nothing worse than wasting time on a girl you can never have. You're in a bad spot but his spot is even worse, the friends zone fucking sucks.

If you drop the preemptive "Hey, i'm not sure if you like me but I think we should just be friends" he can avoid embarrassing himself but pretending that's not what his intentions were. That way you get off with minimal embarrassment (possibly none) and he gets off without any as well. Either way, i've put myself out there for girls that were friends and didn't want more and it fucking sucks because the feelings are out there and there is no way to take it back, you both know, you will both think about it every time you see each other; it will be the big fucking pink elephant in the room every time you are together. I wish I could tell more girls about this options, it really is the best way to dispel any feelings for both parties.

all i can say is don't go there alone

sorry, but i got a bad feeling about this

careful, if hes not really a social date other girls often type of guy and you tell him you're not into it right now but possibly later he may decide to wait but not actively look for other girls; if you do see a possibility somewhere down the line you should just say no and run to risk of him being with someone else when you do want something. Either way leaving any possibility open for him might just hurt him in the future.

pretty much what they all said. make ur intentions clear and all that jazz. altho i must ask something. if yuove only known him a few weeks why wuold he be copying hentai vids for you? wouldnt telling someone about something like that come a little later down the road?

Morning!

I'm setting off in an hour to his, ta for the responses, i really didnt know that it was this problematic [will think more next time]. I'll be honest, its not that i dont find him attractive, physically or personaly its just i might be moving away and i know that if we're together, it'll pretty much be a load of bollocks for both parties. I'll be blunt then, honest. But not insensitive right? sensitive but honest.

Ta for everyones responses...im in temporary shock actually, i didnt know the danger lines in this for guys. i didnt think enough i guess.

Any who, i'm off to see him!

p.s.

no worries gizmo, ive not known him long but he's really not the type to force me or anything, hes a good guy ^^

sora, i'm not 100% sure on that one, probs cause he's a nice guy?? or do you mean why i told him i'm into hentai? it was an accident, we work together and i was having a 'common sense out the window' we were talking about anime, making coffee [job] and the steamer went on [loud] so i started speaking louder, getting annoyed and as soon as the steamer [went off] i revealed to the whole of my cafe, i read most manga, even hentai and that i prefer it to porn :oops: . balls. utter utter balls.

meant why. lold at the story.

no. not lol. more. tit wank fuck shit. qui?
anyway, does all this mean i shouldnt dress attractively or anything? no skirts? no blouse? my brains gone into over drive now :shock:

We're a skirt for us here at Fakku. It's the right thing to do.

too late, im worried. usually its skirt blouse perfume, this time its jeans trainers and over sized [my brothers] star wars tee. not cute, attractive or sexy, no worries!!

wow, sorry i missed this thread arly! what there trying to say is that if your alone with this fellow, no parents or anything... its kind of the genuine circumstances for 'more then friend' activities if you catch my drift. if your going there with the incentive to enjoy some lunch and watch some hentai then i wouldnt reccomend dressing TOO attractively, therefore giving less of an incentive for him to believe otherwise. in my opinion watching hentai with another isnt exactly intimate and far from romantic... but it motivates sexual activity yknow? waars on the ball with this one, if you dont intend to have anything more then a friendship with the guy tell him straight up. it seems a little shady... but i trust your perception on the guy, so good luck and have fun!

look up!! big star wars tee, who on earth could find that even remotely sexual?

thank you again ^^ i dont know. im naive, a little. i cant ask my girlfriends on this one cos they are oblivious to my hentai likingness. i just hope that we can 1. sty friends and 2. he doesnt try anything cos i've never been put in that situation, oh well!!!we'll see!

good luck

nerds hahaha, if its relevant to their tastes then it could be another similarity they mentally acknowledge as a stronger attraction.

I don't know...I've known alot of nerds...and I've never heard one say "That girl in that baggy sweater looks really hot"

hentai+alone time with a girl= something right?

they dont think it out loud, god. lol youve got a point, but youve got to admit that if someone has a shirt with your favorite band or television show on it its going to make social connection a lot easier, and well... i dunno what im trying to imply. men are dangerous, fear us! lol please dont

I think you mean "Oh, cool she likes Star Wars too. I want to get to know her"