ShaggyJebus wrote...
Zeronum2 wrote...
ShaggyJebus wrote...
Pessimistic - You say that stealing is wrong because you don't want people to steal from you. Selfish.
Optimistic - You say that stealing is wrong because you don't want to see people get their stuff stolen. Loving.
It is important to remember that just because something benefits you, that does not make it selfish. If I help my friend move because I don't want to feel guilty about not helping a friend, then I'm not being selfish, am I? If I save someone's life simply because I don't want to see people die, is that selfish?
I'm not thinking very well, damn insomnia. Anyway, I'm a very cynical person so I suppose I was thinking pessimistically . About the second paragraph in quotation, heres what a prick would view it as. "Helping my friend does not benefit me. It just makes me waste my energy." Of course helping your friend is not selfish. But in no way does that seem to benefit a person other than "not feeling guilty".
It is possible to feel happiness simply from seeing your friends and loved ones happy. Many times, I have done something that did not benefit me in any way, but I was happy to do so because it made a person I cared about happy. This is going to sound corny as hell, but I can't find a better way of saying it right now - sometimes, seeing another person's smile is enough to make you feel good about doing something.
Too often, I think, people view morality and selfishness as a black and white issue, when it's really more of a yin and yang thing. There's selfishness with a bit of altruism and altruism with a bit of selfishness.
Quite a few psychologists actually believe that there is no such thing as altruism. In your own words, "Many times, I have done something that did not benefit me in any way, but I was happy to do so because it made a person I cared about happy."
But then it did benefit you, didn't it? It made you feel good about yourself to do this "selfless deed, thus you benefited. Sacrificing your life for another can also be seen as selfish, if one presumes that the person who sacrifices him or herself only does so because he or she wouldn't be able to live with themselves if they didn't.
Or maybe it is the primal need to do something that benefits the tribe(your family & friends nowadays), though you, the individual, may suffer.
Anyway, that's a very pessimistic world view, but it does kind of make sense from an evolutionary, survival of the fittest perspective.