Do you sometimes see yourself as a burden?

[size=12]In this BIG, BIG world there are lots of opportunities and chances, but sometimes it isn't for you, which is not really a good thing since you need it otherwise you would only be a burden to yourself and other people.

Things like Bad grades, not doing well at something, or things that don't go your way is usually the source for this feeling.

There are people who are not Smart, Athletic or a Social, so sometimes they always feel that they are a burden and this could lead to awful things if not controlled, like doing something you should not or worse....suicide while thinking "Why am I born in this world if I am only a burden to it and mess up anyway".

There are some people who rises to the occasion, but this does not remain forever since there is always a chance to fall and makes your life utterly miserable.

So tell me.....What's your Opinion?[/h]

I don't like this train of thought. We're human, so at some point, we're going to be a burden to someone else. That's just the nature of our species. The best anyone can do is live and hope that, eventually, we find our place. Failure is a natural aspect of life.

I wasn't dealt the best hand in life. Everyday I have to deal with depression and an anxiety disorder that prevents me from doing anything I really want to do, unless I'm drunk or high. The only way I can go to a job interview without having panic attacks is if I'm medicated.

I'm a burden to everyone around me, especially myself. I have doubts that I am psychologically capable of "rising to the occasion" or doing anything of value with my life, but I still have my pride. Being pitied makes me sick and suicide is the ultimate sign of weakness.

Life is a constant barrage of pain and suffering. All you can do is endure.

Well, everyone in a sense had or has been a burden. The child is an economic burden to his parents. We all carry vestiges of emotional baggage that may impair our ability to form bonds with others. To be a burden is to be human. But that's not all. We can move on. We can change. We can improve. The quote below by Paulo Coelho best summarizes my point. Hope you guys can appreciate it.

"Every Warrior of the Light has felt afraid of going into battle. Every Warrior of the Light has, at some time in the past, lied or betrayed someone. Every Warrior of the Light has trodden a path that was not his. Every Warrior of the Light has suffered for the most trivial of reasons. Every Warrior of the Light has, at least once, believed he was not a Warrior of the Light. Every Warrior of the Light has failed in his spiritual duties. Every Warrior of the Light has said 'yes' when he wanted to say 'no.' Every Warrior of the Light has hurt someone he loved. That is why he is a Warrior of the Light, because he has been through all this and yet has never lost hope of being better than he is." -Paulo Coelho.

I do, from time to time. Then I think "Then cut it off die" and shrug it off when I realize how much of a waste thinking about something as stupid as that and do something productive. Or I read and/or play a game.

1) Keep in mind that it is logically impossible for everyone to be exceptional.

Let's take 10 different people. One or two will be the shakers and leaders of the world. One or two will be the NEETs.

If you take out the NEETs, you'll end up with 8 people. However, within those 8 people, likely there will still be underarchievers compared to the rest.

If you remove the bottom 10% of a population, you'll still end up with a bottom 10%. Keep on removing the underachievers and you end up with no one.

2) Human beings are the dominant species in the planet. We ended up this way because of our inteliigence plus the fact that we work together.

WORK. TOGETHER.

This means we bring up the weakest amongst us rather than leaving them to the wolves. We take care of our sick and invalid. We support each other, and that has given our species the strength to become dominant.

Heck, look at babies. Unlike other animals which are capable of living on their own as long as food is available, a human baby will die without someone taking care of it. And we don't take care of babies because "someday, they will contribute to society."

Does the mighty mosquito see itself as a burden? does the noble tick, or the clever tape worm? No! to be a parasite takes great skill. i'm proud of my ability to have others support me and like it(or at least not notice).

for some some reason, yes i do, whenever I rely on friends or family it always seems that i'm wasting their time even though my friends tell me i'm a good, trustworthy guy.

Actually you could kill yourself instead of enduring.


I do see myself as a burden to my mother seeing as I can't seem to get a job and I'm 19 years old, but being a burden is not enough to make me kill myself but being worthless is....which is why I'm considering suicide now.

5 years of my life since I got this Muscular Dystrophy, I feel like a burden to my family. But I know that I would be an even bigger burden if I killed kill myself.

All the time. Now that I finally have a part time job, I feel a little less so, but I'm still not on my own.
Even the cost of my education weighed heavy on me as a kid and young adult (private schooling all my life until last years of college). Also, my learning disability and severe periods of depression just made me feel like a complete dead weight to all around me, sometimes worsening it.

I often take blame that's really not intended for me to feel, in terms of responsibility for my family/friends. But I'm trying to see rationally now.

I'm not really good for anything and with my friends I don't stand out at all-- I hate it but at the same time these people must keep me around for a reason so there must be something I can't see in myself that makes the burden worth it? I may feel like a screw up, but I'm not the most unbiased opinion, so no sense dwelling on it.

I'm gonna say this because I think you missed my point. I'm a burden, especially to my mother, but regardless of how fucked up I am, my family is there for me because, if for nothing else, they don't want me to give up and commit suicide. Before my grandma died, she asked me about my situation and why I haven't gotten a job, so I explained my situation to her, and she basically said, "don't give up, you'll find your way." We all have our skills, it's a matter of finding the appropriate way to apply them

You're 19. Unless you're a genius, you're fresh out of high school. Go to college. Even if you're stupid, you can get into community college and learn shit. At 19 you have no right to say you're worthless. Everyone has potential and you shouldn't even consider the idea of worthlessness until you're 30.

Burdens, myself included, are a wondrous thing. Here's my reasoning:
1) Necessity for change
a) in a stagnant world where nobody is a burden to anyone else progress socially, artistically, scientifically etc
would no longer be a necessary. We'd stagnate as a species.
b) brilliance emerges when it is necessary, someone somewhere will have am idea to improve things and
alleviate the strain. (hopefully we don't run out of burdens bearing point a in mind)
2) Motivation
a) without the feeling of guilt for "being a burden" (ambition aside) we would never strive to be better than we
are.
b) a contrast, without the feeling of worthlessness pride, when it's earned, is all the sweeter
3) Societal implications
a) (prefacing, this isn't to be taken seriously) haves and have-nots are necessary for the global economy
i) in crowd and out-crowd mentality causes the political unrest necessary for war, which keeps the
population down allowing there to be another generation
ii) how else could corporations exploit our insecurities without them?

That's my humble opinion in a nutshell, albeit a bit warped...

Most of the time I do, I feel like a big failure but it's not something that I can easily get out of either, you learn to live with it.

[color=blue][font=Verdana]Oh. Self pity.

Yeah. I see it sometimes, especially at times when I'm being relied upon and I seem not to do things the way it is meant to be done. This happens especially at my workplace.

Also, when my friends supports me without asking anything in return. To be honest, I'm really not that sociable. For me, the friends that I have are important to me since they're the only few I have.

So, whenever I do feel like a burden, I just tell myself that it's perfectly normal for it to happen and try to make up for it next time. Then I shrug the thought of self-pity out of my system.[/font][/color]

[font=Tahoma]Yes from time to time and then I realize that my family and friends love me even if it doesn't look like it sometimes.[/font]

Bro this quote literally hit me where I live dude. Thank you for this quote.

On to the question. When I was younger I always thought I was a burden and that was mostly due to the classmates in school and my father. I went to an all African-American school a.k.a. black school, and I've been bullied a lot because (and I'm assuming) I was the only Mexican in EVERY class plus I was the quiet type and I felt if I told my father then he'll kick my ass or just get so pissed and say shit like "You're not my son!" or "You'll never be a man!" etc. I could've told my mother but I didn't want to cause a scene or keep her from her job. Ya know I was also caring...well too caring.

And this thing with my dad I just don't know, felt like he didn't like me or he only saw me as a tool etc. So that's where the burden thing came from. Not just that, his opinion on raising a child was unnecessary. Dude will always yell at me for fucking up a lot or if I didn't do things fast enough. I remembered when he told me this he said "The reason why I yelled at you all those times was so that no one else would do it, because if they yelled at you then you would be afraid of them." I started thinking...The fuck is wrong with you? I felt like I was a dog. I'm gonna be a little psychological to let you know. Everybody knows or should know that babies or toddlers are easy to catch up on things. Ex. kid sees dog and parent says STOP. Kid cries and tries to do it again and parent says STOP again. Then every time a kid sees a dog the kid knows the parent is going to yell at him/her and not even that, the kid is also expecting someone to yell STOP. It's common fucking sense. What I'm trying to get at (of course) is, my father's opinion was...stupid. I was freaking kid ya know but yeah.

I have thought of suicide because of being a burden but I thought REAL hard about it like how are they going to pay for the coffin or who's going to ask for a day off etc. Lol I felt like even in death I was still a burden so I didn't. I have thought about who will miss me if I died (because some people would ask me how many people would cry over me) and not thinking at the time I felt like a dumb ass because I never thought about who would miss me.

But time flew by where I just didn't care if I was a burden because...one should not tread (spelling?) on the past. Then before I knew I got a job, helped pay some bill, helped with groceries etc. So I pretty much made myself to not be a burden by doing things that will make me appear as helping hand or reliable person. So yeah. I do think that everyone shouldn't be a burden or even feel like it because I believe that everyone has a place on this earth...everyone has a purpose.

Two cents given!

It's unavoidable to be exceptional and excel in everything.
The least I can do to not be a burden is to live independently, so I am not depending on someone else.
But I too still depend on my parents greatly, mainly because I still live with them, but I am not sure if they see me as a burden.
I don't think I'll see my child as a burden though if I have one, I wanna see them as someone I'm really proud of.