Do you sometimes see yourself as a burden?
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That quote about the warrior of light explained this quite well; you cannot become great without first suffering great failure and such. There will always be a price to pay. At least, that's how I've always witnessed it.
I agree with The Jesus though, especially the part about suicide.
I agree with The Jesus though, especially the part about suicide.
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I do sometimes think i'm one for my mother since i still live with her. Although i help a lot around the petshop my family owns, it seems like if i could move away from there things would be easier for her and my sister. But anytime i touch the subject of me moving out someday my mother says she would be very sad if i turned out to live away from her since she loves me and wants me and my sister to take care of the petshop when she's gone. It's not actually the future i want but, every time my mom says it i stop feeling like this and get all happy again. Maybe she's already used to it.
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A hero with a thousand faces, by Joseph Campbell
The journey into the unknown is something that the hero must face, even if he is afraid, it is only from discovering and wandering in the unknown that he will become something totally different to save itself from the dangers....
I still have to finish reading it, and its a sumarizing, not a quote....
The journey into the unknown is something that the hero must face, even if he is afraid, it is only from discovering and wandering in the unknown that he will become something totally different to save itself from the dangers....
I still have to finish reading it, and its a sumarizing, not a quote....
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lupface wrote...
axeltrinity wrote...
"Every Warrior of the Light has felt afraid of going into battle. Every Warrior of the Light has, at some time in the past, lied or betrayed someone. Every Warrior of the Light has trodden a path that was not his. Every Warrior of the Light has suffered for the most trivial of reasons. Every Warrior of the Light has, at least once, believed he was not a Warrior of the Light. Every Warrior of the Light has failed in his spiritual duties. Every Warrior of the Light has said 'yes' when he wanted to say 'no.' Every Warrior of the Light has hurt someone he loved. That is why he is a Warrior of the Light, because he has been through all this and yet has never lost hope of being better than he is." -Paulo Coelho.Bro this quote literally hit me where I live dude. Thank you for this quote.
On to the question. When I was younger I always thought I was a burden and that was mostly due to the classmates in school and my father. I went to an all African-American school a.k.a. black school, and I've been bullied a lot because (and I'm assuming) I was the only Mexican in EVERY class plus I was the quiet type and I felt if I told my father then he'll kick my ass or just get so pissed and say shit like "You're not my son!" or "You'll never be a man!" etc. I could've told my mother but I didn't want to cause a scene or keep her from her job. Ya know I was also caring...well too caring.
And this thing with my dad I just don't know, felt like he didn't like me or he only saw me as a tool etc. So that's where the burden thing came from. Not just that, his opinion on raising a child was unnecessary. Dude will always yell at me for fucking up a lot or if I didn't do things fast enough. I remembered when he told me this he said "The reason why I yelled at you all those times was so that no one else would do it, because if they yelled at you then you would be afraid of them." I started thinking...The fuck is wrong with you? I felt like I was a dog. I'm gonna be a little psychological to let you know. Everybody knows or should know that babies or toddlers are easy to catch up on things. Ex. kid sees dog and parent says STOP. Kid cries and tries to do it again and parent says STOP again. Then every time a kid sees a dog the kid knows the parent is going to yell at him/her and not even that, the kid is also expecting someone to yell STOP. It's common fucking sense. What I'm trying to get at (of course) is, my father's opinion was...stupid. I was freaking kid ya know but yeah.
I have thought of suicide because of being a burden but I thought REAL hard about it like how are they going to pay for the coffin or who's going to ask for a day off etc. Lol I felt like even in death I was still a burden so I didn't. I have thought about who will miss me if I died (because some people would ask me how many people would cry over me) and not thinking at the time I felt like a dumb ass because I never thought about who would miss me.
But time flew by where I just didn't care if I was a burden because...one should not tread (spelling?) on the past. Then before I knew I got a job, helped pay some bill, helped with groceries etc. So I pretty much made myself to not be a burden by doing things that will make me appear as helping hand or reliable person. So yeah. I do think that everyone shouldn't be a burden or even feel like it because I believe that everyone has a place on this earth...everyone has a purpose.
Two cents given!
No one is perfect and never will be, that is what makes us as humans such revolutionary creatures. To look at our flaws yet want to each and everyday be better by changing ourselves, evolving to a new person makes us such beautiful creatures. Yes we are sometimes flawed and hold hideous scars, but yet when we want to, we wish to be better so that we can stand with those we call our true friends. It takes time, patience and will to overcome the crushing power of despair, yes. But if you can do so, and finally find the place you want to be, you may be surprised when you open your eyes and gaze upon the people who have always, truly been there for you.
I myself will never take this path though. Till my last breath, I will stand in despair and guide those drowning in it to the place they want to be, their solid ground, the place with their friends. And I will push those who fall into despair from their safe havens back onto their Edens. I have vowed to use this one life to that purpose, to ensure that everyone stands high and together… even if I must drown in the end as retribution for the despair's loss of it's prey, then so be it.
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"People tell me that I should kill myself for being a worthless shit, I tell them 'Fuck you, God sent me here to piss the world off.'"
- Eminem
- Eminem
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Short answer: No. I could say, 'Of course not, no one who's attempting to do well in life can truly be a burden.' But I realize there are times when you feel like this, when it happens and you feel like a little child with no control. But life is not about how well and easily you get through it, it is how you get through those burdens and still live your life fully.
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i have thought of myself as a burden before. i was very depress for like a whole year, i had lost interest in anything because i thought whats the point on trying. but now things are different, i have changed for the better. i took a good look at myself in the mirror and just asked myself what needs to be changed. wasn't easy but nothing ever is. now i have a different mentality. never say the words i "can't do this"!, only say "will do and can do it"! you never know what you can do until you try.! i think you shouldn't let people discourage you or bring yourself down. when your at the breaking point the last thing you need is to be worried about is what others think of you. you need to invest a lot of time in yourself and rediscover who you are and who you want to be. get motivated, do something if you just sit by and let another day go by you'll never achieve anything or change the reality of your sad depressing life.
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All the time. When I look at my life back then until right now, I can't help that my life was not that great. I always see someone better than me and living a better life than me. Those people usually have more than me. I can't help but feel down and it always gets me depressed. The only thing I can do is rest my head on my bed for a while, cry a little if I need to, then get up to live my live and do my best to make it better little by little while not trying to be a burden to everyone. I know I can't change the way I live overnight, so in the end when I die I might live a life that is no different from my life now. Will I be happy in the long run, I don't know. But there's one thing I know for sure. I'm not happy now being who I am.
But don't get me wrong I'm not depressed or anything like that. I laugh , cry and dream and wonder and strive for a better life if you laugh at me then ill just laugh at you when I catch you with your pants down. If you look down on me ill just keep pissing you off until you acknowledge me. If you kill me, I'll just haunt you just to laugh at your scared face.
In the end I probably used this tread to vent my thoughts but I know that I am a burden to everyone, but everyone is a burden to me sine I have done tasks for them that they could not accomplish alone.
But don't get me wrong I'm not depressed or anything like that. I laugh , cry and dream and wonder and strive for a better life if you laugh at me then ill just laugh at you when I catch you with your pants down. If you look down on me ill just keep pissing you off until you acknowledge me. If you kill me, I'll just haunt you just to laugh at your scared face.
In the end I probably used this tread to vent my thoughts but I know that I am a burden to everyone, but everyone is a burden to me sine I have done tasks for them that they could not accomplish alone.
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I often get the feeling that I am a burden/bother/annoyance to other people a I have a tendency for taking an abnormally long time to articulate a thought. However every time I have asked someone if that is the case they have given me there assurance that is not the case and I trust the individual in question to answer me honestly. loading self-esteem.exe 23%.
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what i tell you that everytime i see myself as a burden. there is only one thing that changes that, its when during an activity im leader, thats because im good at leading people, thought not good at motivating.
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FinalBoss
#levelupyourgrind
The only times I felt like I was a burden was when I was not working or in school. Other than that, I try to be useful to my family.
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If you feel like a burden, then something needs to change. Get a new job, volunteer at a shelter, donate to charity, move to somewhere new. Cease the part of you that makes you feel like a burden, and move on.
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From age 22-32 I felt I was a burden on friends and family because I couldn't seem to get any traction in Life regardless of what I tried. A remarkable friend threw a "Archon1995: This Is Your Life" on my 33rd birthday and opened my eyes to how lucky I actually was.
You're not a burden if people *want* to carry you through the rough spots.
You're not a burden if people *want* to carry you through the rough spots.
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I don't see myself as such, but I have at least one friend who does. I have found that it is really difficult to try and convince someone who believes that they are a burden otherwise
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Mr. Mir
The Techforcer
I'm going through major bouts of anxiety and depression right now. There are people I talk to at work, but I don't talk to them about my problems because I feel like a buzzkill when I do. One coworker is going through the time of his life now, he's getting his bachelor's degree, been married for a year, and is a first time homeowner. I don't talk to him because I feel like when I do, I'm placing a burden on him to help me though my problems.
I mean, I feel like it is depressing talking to a guy who graduated with a bachelor's degree in 2007 and has been unable to do anything career wise since then. Now I drive a tug at UPS and am starting to go back to school because UPS pays for it, but still I feel like talking to others about my problems places a burden on them. I am going to start seeing a psychiatrist tomorrow, I hope it will work out.
To answer the OP's question, yes, I do feel like a burden on others sometimes.
I mean, I feel like it is depressing talking to a guy who graduated with a bachelor's degree in 2007 and has been unable to do anything career wise since then. Now I drive a tug at UPS and am starting to go back to school because UPS pays for it, but still I feel like talking to others about my problems places a burden on them. I am going to start seeing a psychiatrist tomorrow, I hope it will work out.
To answer the OP's question, yes, I do feel like a burden on others sometimes.
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FAKKU QA
Such an emo thread.
OT: Admittedly, when I was still living with with my parents I really wanted out. I think part of it was not to be a burden, but mostly I wanted independence and to get on with my life. So no, I don't see myself as a burden "anymore" I guess.
OT: Admittedly, when I was still living with with my parents I really wanted out. I think part of it was not to be a burden, but mostly I wanted independence and to get on with my life. So no, I don't see myself as a burden "anymore" I guess.
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Sgt.broski
Where's the futa Jacob
My grandmother and mother was in the hospital recently. I hate having to depend on those two when I am in a need of something.
Tried getting a job for years and still can't find one so yea, I do consider myself a burden.
Have asthma since I was born and now my dreams of joining the marines have been forever crushed. That's a burden my doctors and coach have. A burden on myself as well.
Tried getting a job for years and still can't find one so yea, I do consider myself a burden.
Have asthma since I was born and now my dreams of joining the marines have been forever crushed. That's a burden my doctors and coach have. A burden on myself as well.
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Well I don't really feel like that. well if i become a burden to someone. i feel like there gonna talk something bad at me at the back when they get mad at me or something. that's why i always pay or give back my dept to that person. I worked when i was 19 while doing school because my dad said to me that she wants me to live in the USA so i decided to live on my own buy an apartment. it did work but sometimes our driver mang robert always drives me to work. i'm still working for like 2 years now they begged me to go back again to our house when i was gone for 6months and now i'm still working. but what make me do suicide literally is the never ending cycle that i always do this days. when i quit work i was always on the house no one is there just our gardener lito and our 2 maid elpie and christina. i started to get bored always going with my highschool and college friends it just like i don't feel like happy with them it's like im sad by something i don't now. so i started to work again and even i'm earning money and buying all the things like i want i feel so.. i don't know. it's just i believe this world is just sad..
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I often consider myself a burden, a lot of the time I don't like talking to people because I feel like they don't want me around, even if I know that's not true.
I find myself apologising a lot more then I should be too.
I frequently say "I have no friends" as a joke, but deep down I know that it is pretty much true, there is always a point where people either stop talking to me or start hating me, it has happened more times then I can count and I don';t trust people to stick around anymore...
I find myself apologising a lot more then I should be too.
I frequently say "I have no friends" as a joke, but deep down I know that it is pretty much true, there is always a point where people either stop talking to me or start hating me, it has happened more times then I can count and I don';t trust people to stick around anymore...