Mothers

"You may abuse a tragedy, though you cannot write one. You may scold a carpenter who has made you a bad table, though you cannot make a table. It is not your trade to make tables."
--JOHNSON



I fail to see the convincing part of this tired, dead-beat appeal to emotion. So a person decide they want a miniature issue of themselves as a pet-human. Big deal. You don't owe them anything for that. Didn't ask to be "let" born, not me.



Let's look at the other side:
The countless abusive, or simply terrible mothers; given o'er to hydroxyl compounds or simply wretched character, who do beat the shit out of their offspring, or mistreat it otherwise, or simply don't give a shit, or most commonly just wanted a little human plaything to bend to their whim, which now is getting out of hand...


See what I did there? Appeals to emotion work both ways, and they're rarely sanitary, or helpful.

I love my Mum as my Mother, but hate her as a person.She gave up the best years of her life in order to raise me, and I respect her for that. Though I do realize that it was her choice to bring me into this world, her choice to give up those years, her choice to look after the screeching, shitting, whiney, asswipe I was as a kid. And I plainly just don't like her as a person. She thinks she's better than people, and thinks WAY to much of me. She wanted/wants me to go to Oxford just so she could brag about it. Fuck if I'm doin' that.

I was always much more close with the rest of my family than with my Mother, mainly with my Gran and uncles. She was twenty-one when she had me and the oldest of seven, so I spent most of my young years growing up around adults/late-teens since she still lived in the same house as her parents. I've grown to repect and love the rest of my family much more than my Mother, and since I never knew my Father growing up (I met him for the first time like a year and a half ago) I never had two families that I was shuffled between, so I have greater bonds with my family. And she was still at University during my young years, and was away a lot so I didn't get to bond with her a lot, another reason I'm closer to others in my family.

I'm more or less cool with my mother, she pretty much leaves me be and do my thing as long as I take the consequences for all my action. She only interferes in my life on occasion.
Well, after all I'm a fourth child so both my parents have gotten the hand on the entire raising kids-thing, they mostly let me be, but when they do something they do it for, mostly, good reasons.

My mom is fine...sometimes, she can be annoying sometimes, but I got no problem with that...I'm like the guy who she talks to about lots of things...I feel being trusted, which makes me happy...

My dad however is a control freak and doesn't really have any control over is emotion...(like a 4 years old throwing tantrum if he gets angry, which is usually for some super stupid reason). He's like a guy who wanted to be a king, but was born in a wrong time...

i dont hate my mother or my family (other then my uncle) but i think they are all idiots and i have no respect for them. Love and respect is not the same thing but people say that they are one and the same (people in my family). You can not tell other people they are wrong for not repsecting or blah blah blah, its not your situation so dont run your mouth.

but just raising the child or that saying that they "let" you be born doesnt mean you should or have to respect them, you dont know everyones situation. Some moms are comeplete shit and never should be allowed to raise a child.

Some that hsve the child and say they are raising them but are actually going out and doing other crap and shit like that. and other shit and blah blah blah

and fathers get shit right? I mean real fathers who work and pay the bills.

My mom does work around the house like 1-3 times a week and will only sometimes cook dinner, and my dad works every day and mom goes and tells him "you cant do shit without me" all she does is watch tv and does her "twilight" scrapbooking... she complains about every little thing. Well that is now... but she also complains about having to feed her children...

well i could go on forever... but then that would only highlight the bad...

Wrong, love isn't written into our genetic code. We're free to hate anyone we want and contrary to popular belief we have no responsibility to care for our family. Not to say I hate my mom, I just can't stand being around her or talking to her. She's so fucking annoying.

what the person meant was that since its the thing seen in culture as the right thing to do that means we have to

I feel awkward about my parents, theyre seperated since my dad works on states so im alone with my mom, shes nagging, annoying and just plain too guillible but shes the one that brought me up and sure she nags but she does it out of care, i cant really hate my parents for all theyve done for me up till now, wish i can show how much i appriciate them but heck i just cant. (--,)

You should appriciate what youre parents have done, sure they can be annoying but thats just it theyre your parents they live so they can make you better, hey when you get kids(if you ever plan to) your kids will prolly say the same things you said =P

as for other family probs well uh good luck with that i guess.

And my point is that nothing, genetic or cultural, makes us have to love our family. It's all a matter of personal choice.

i know what your saying and i agree but im just saying that in others veiws its not so

Lots of people have suffered with their parents here...:(
My mom and I get along pretty well, but we do have the usual fights about boyfriends, studies and so on.
For the anecdote : I have a friend, a girl, who completely idolizes her mother, she never ever had fights with her, is always talking about her, doing everything her mother does...It's like the opposite of what most of you posted...I don't think it's really healthy for both the mother and the daughter though...

My mother's pretty accepting. Rather than pushing the baby birds out of the nest, she'll nurse them a bit longer. That's the reason for why all my siblings, including myself, end up leaving the nest ourselves. She tried to pull the discipline string a bit too late, so she's never really controlled us, but we have our own self-discipline to make up for it. She's crazy and sometimes quite irritating but I love her.

My mother is awesome. She's better than any anger management test I know of. She taught me what patience means. She is my mother. ^^

I love my mother dearly, and get along with her just fine.

Uh, yeah...
It seems I'm the odd one in this thread...

I really love my mom, she does her best to bring me and my siblings happiness. She DOES sometimes gets on my nerve, but hey, no one's perfect! Just like mibuuchiha, she taught me how to be patient and not give in to anger.

She encourages me on following my dream, whatever it is, she always gives me her full support. She always tells me directly when there are things that I shouldn't be doing or shouldn't do and puts me right back on the track right away.

The only problem I have with my mom is that she always mentions
what my shitty ass, Gangsta wannabe little brother is doing and
I could care less what he does because he has always been a dick
to me the second he learned how to talk and now he never shuts
up and my parents wonder why so many people at his school hate him,
its because he has a small brain and a big mouth. But my mom and me
are cool I just wish she'd stop that I hate hearing about him.

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The strange positive aura in this scared the hell outta me.