Regarding abuse against men

In the past two decades effort to reduce the rate of Children and Women abuse are steadily gaining ground, creating new laws to address it (even more so in Southeast Asia) and creating more awareness to act or protest against it - which is good for the abused children and women but what about abuse against men?

the abuse of grown men, particularly husbands or brothers or cousins, is mainly used for comedic effect in modern entertainment such as sitcoms and anime shows. Like how common is it for a men to get beaten hard, humiliated, have things thrown at him for...somehow the general public just laughed it off - maybe a little offended but that's it...

The thing that we all KNOW that if it was a husband giving his wife a smack - OR even the slightest display of aggression against a woman or a child, everyone would immediately be up in arms. Screaming for for him to be condemned into prison but what about if the tables are turned? Most just treat it like a simple quarrel even when the men is hospitalized.

I was around 18's - in my place our friend (18) has just got beaten by his step father because he dropped an expensive vase with a genuine whip (no, not that fake one - this one is about 2m long) when we report that to the police we couldn't even get the police to process the abuse since they just f-kin laughed at us...and called him a fag...told him to grow some 'balls'...and take it like a man...different when some little girl reported it...boy that would be a local newspaper headline...

What are your thoughts about this?

I do think that it is unfair for some men that their harsh treatment/abuse is laughed upon or ignored, but hey, men are generally looked upon as the stronger sex by both the media and the public. Men who are abused are either seen as wusses or just cowards while women can scream abuse if someone fingers them in the wrong way.

Anyhow, I see this as a sexual stereotype that has been blown out of proportion. Not all men are strong enough to take a beating and not all women are weak to the point that they need protection.

Yeah i do think there is a bit of a double standard. I think people generally have a hard time seeing men as victims, especially if its done by a woman. I mean it can be argued men are usually physically stronger, but with every pattern there are exceptions(and if the women has a weapon physical strength becomes less of a factor), which i think people forget about sometimes. Heck, my oldest brothers baby mama can lift up him and 2 babies at the same time. And on divorce court i've seen a few cases where the judge called out the women for being abusive.

And in the media i rarely see a serious depiction of female on male violence.

Edit-Also men aren't expected to be emotionally vulnerable, and thus sometimes people have a hard tim seeing them as victims of verbal/emotional abuse. I personally think abuse is wrong no matter the genders involved

I forgot about the sexual stereotype issue - hits the spot...

Men getting abused from women?

I had that in the past, and believe me, it was depressing.

The cops sure are dumbasses for laughing you off and telling you such "off-duty" things.

It is true that the world doesn't see it so dangerous when a man gets abused because the world has already portrayed us as superior gender with strength, and that we could handle things on our own. Although I hate seeing men getting abused, and also women getting abused, both genders should understand if it is the right thing to do to beat their partners or show aggression towards the opposite sex.

What effects will it have on men/women if the newer generations come and see this as a normal thing?

How will society look like today if such behaviors existed way back when?

Funny you brought this up, my neighbor whupped her own husband's ass with a slipper and shown enough aggression and he just stood there laughing, not because he was an idiot, but he knew that if he started she would get hurt.

If new generations of men came along and show "weakness" from the start and let themselves get beaten up from females, then that is their problem because I would let a female slap me once in a while just to let her know that she can act herself around me.

However, I don't believe the world will evolve into that kind of society where females will be overall superior and men just weak dogs, it's all about how you treat them and to let her know that you have limits and rules as well that other people should follow, and if they don't, just leave them be and find a new road to walk, they'll come soon to realize what they done and be more gentle with you.


Um I don't wanna be straightforward, but do you have problems with females beating you up?

It can be very subtle, and not always violence, but psycological too. not all injuries show on the skin.


it's become very mainstream to shit on men, and for them to sit there and take it. consider many family sitcoms. the father figure is often portayed as a buffoon. never mind all he does to support or defend his family, the focus is mostly on his screw ups. the most obvious example is al bundy(married with children). almost the entirety of every episode is dedicated to mocking his short comings, but he often goes out and fights to protect them.


while it is true that men have been dominating everyone else through out history, it's hipocritical to demand equality, then enforce a double standard that benefits your own perspective. in the space of ten minutes, i once saw a woman first flirt to get what she wanted from one man, then flip out on a different man about how she deserved to be treated as an equal. i've also seen this hipocricy expressed with other subjects, like age or race.

Well, those kinds of men are generally perceived as wuss.

Well try to experience it yourself and feel it when someone just disregard your existance and all you had gone trough with a simple sentence such as that.



We DO have privileges specifically for men, but so do females - and in extension children. The topic is for discussing male abuse - both physical and psychological as a type of abuse society tends to ignore specifically because of prejudices associated with the male sex.

Calling abused men as "wuss", "pussies", "sissies", etc is also a type of abuse. Have you consider their position before they're abused by an individual or a group that have leverage against him such as guardian/family or someone physically/financially dominant against him?

Be constructive - there's always IB for non-constructive talks (I admit, sometimes they are!)

I don't think I've ever reaped the benefits of straight male privilege.

That being said sometimes guys do get the bitter end of the deal. I'm not sure men are completely ignored, but most of the times most men are expected to "toughen up" and deal with it.

http://news.ninemsn.com.au/world/8473750/nfl-star-forgives-girl-who-made-up-rape-story
Seeing stories like that make me dislike the system.

HAH. Woman about getting raped put in random but when its a topic of a male being victimized it goes into the serious discussion and gets all serious responses. Regarding the issue, I recall a tv series (I cant remember the name of) where they did tests to see how people would react in public situations for certain actions like race,abuse and rights. Such as a lesbian couple [with kids] getting kicked out of a restaurant or white kids vandalizing a car [and not many take action] but someone calls the police on a black male sleeping in a car.
So, they did do a test on male to female abuse where a guy stepped in or in another place they did it in a restaurant where some females stepped in to help the girl. Now when they reversed the roles and made the female dominant no one stepped in. A woman walking by seeing the female shoving her boyfriend to sit down even started fist pumping and saying yah! So yes its wrong but there's still alot of shit being done to woman for them to even care that there's men being abused. It's my opinion on what I think personally I just find whatever is "wrong" WRONG.

Here's the gigantic, overshadowing difference - females had to suffer abuse, be treated as property and made slaves to male desire for thousands of years. They were not granted their privileges until only a little while ago; even then only in a few places throughout the entire world. Still in western society females do not have the kind of privileges males do. There is absolutely no question as to which gender has been granted the better end of the stick throughout history, so of course society will look less harshly upon female - male abuse than male - female abuse. To me, it is entirely understandable and I cannot say it isn't warranted. I'm not a feminist by any means, but I will not shrug off the past like it never happened and shouldn't be taken into consideration.



Except everyone isn't up in arms when that happens, I know of many relationships past and present where the female is constantly abused, but out of fear for her safety from physical harm and her own emotional confusion, she can do nothing about it. The saddest part is most people around the girl know what's happening, but they won't do anything about it either. They do not scream for him to be condemned to prison, they are not up in arms at all. I also know, just from being alive and talking to people, that most cases of absue aren't reported, be it male or female.

I think abuse regardless of gender is wrong, but I do not lean towards whether abuse of one gender specifically is worse. It is solely up to the individual being abused to either seek help or stop the abuse themselves. Society does tend to look less harshly upon male abuse, but there is absolutely not as massive a contrast as you have implied.

Maybe the show was called, "What would you do?" on ABC.

As for the whole women's issues only being in the "random" section...That isn't true, and if you use the forums search function, you would see otherwise. If you don't feel there is enough topics, the right one, or not enough discussion, make your own.

Well there was this one case a while back(i dont remember the exact details since my friend told me) where this man filed for divorce because his wife abused him(true story).Her solution? She cuts his John off and throws in the garbage disposal......
It was featured on the Talk a while back.

Their was also a case in Moscow where a man attempts to rob a women, she stops him and beats the crap outta him. After she hand his @%$! to him, she then goes to lock him up in her basement and then rapes him for at least a few days. The reaction? She was praised for standing up for women and the guy was thrown in prison....
Since im from Moscow i thought "heh only in Russia" but apparently that's not the cause anymore.

Sexism is so bias on both side though...
That being said i couldnt stop laughing at the pic with the dude that the OP posted lol.

I know what it is. I know it exist. I was taking from a personal standpoint.

You act as if I've never taken a serious look at my own life, and how others perceive me.



Oh but what do I know, I'm just CIS scum.

I'm not jumping to that conclusion, so I'm sorry you feel that way.
I realize now that I said I would not come back to this thread, so clearly I made a mistake in posting.

I will be deleting my posts in here as they are continually misinterpreted as somehow being attacks on all men.

I can't speak for the people who -repped you but I don't see it that way.

Maybe if you stuck with "all abuse is bad" then maybe you wouldn't have gotten all that backlash.

I found this to be rather insightful when i first saw it, and feel it has a place in this discussion. Sorry that the print is so small.

I use this on rants against feminists, I treat everyone alike, so if it was happening near me I would stop it, im not an irrational person so im not going to say that I would go like raving on the streets in anger over this.

I think these whole problem comes from the public mindset itself. Woman themselves always complain that they are treated equal like all the males however when problems comes, they will always use their gender as the main reason to protect themselves.(I don't want to carry that as it is too heavy. I am a girl u know?*facepalm*)

In the end, man rarely wins here. Any abuse done by woman is okay while if it done by males is not okay. Not to forget some of the females while not physically abuse the males, their words is as sharp as blade piercing ur heart.