What's holding you back?

I'd like to think everyone has a certain goal or dream they would like to reach in their lifetime, or even just in that particular day or week. Whether it would be something in their personal life, financial situation, and so on.
So I'm just curious in your own situation.
What's holding you back from achieving your goal, whatever the goal may be?

Is it mental, physical, spiritual? Is someone else holding you back? Is it because of things in the past or in the present?

What is it that you believe is making life more difficult for you, as your own individual, and holding you back from getting by day after day?

Be as detailed as you'd like.

I wanna be a Original Gangsta n' bust a cap up in Pimp Emeritus n' his Dogg Street gang n' also mah playaz ludd FAKKU so I just want Pimp Emeritus ta be dead as possible

*Shy, shy, shy, shy, shy,, blushes, takes a deep breath*, ok, telling.

Moderately lack of freedom because my chronic illness (I'm dependent of someone taking care of me, in this case my mom). Moderately lack of cash (family investing a way too much in the future, thus not cash for the present). Problems looking for job (if you aren't a social super start like me and you lack even high school assistance because illness, it's extremely hard someone takes you seriously for a work you can do only from home). On average my health hitting me bad from time at time, so I have to hold back until recovering (just for worsening again later and the cycles repeats). Homophobia makes things harder on average as I need to be extra carefully with who I am (got a few nasty episodes because I'm lesbian, so, yeah).

Spiritually I'm fine, maybe holding back a bit from light relationships/dating as I believe it's only worth if aimed seriously (I don't like to fool around with people, I got hurt and I do hurt easily in that way), but aside a four years abstinence it's fine. Abstinence isn't hitting me badly or anything anyway. Maybe the fact that I refuse to ever lie again since I can't recall years ago is holding me back from accomplishing more, I've found that people accomplishes a lot more when they lie, but I refuse to take that path, or I success with the truth, or I fail with the truth. The fact that I badly refuse to ever taste alcohol and so make me excluded from countless things, events, possible friends (who pushed me badly toward it, refused, friendship got hurt) and so. I refuse to relevantly alter my mind with outside agents (aside anesthesia and other important medical reasons that may arise).

Mentally I'm not really holding back, maybe a bit of laziness and lack of motivation from time at time (as everyone tells me to desist or doesn't take me seriously, that affects you a bit). A few years ago I'd badly hold back as I was deeply depressed for so much stuff, but now I'm fine with myself and everything~

Dreams? A private one. Making a videogame company where freelancers from all the Hispanic and English world would work together, or at least participate in some videogames project of that fashion. Neither marry, adopt a child and be a housewife or go to live with a close friend who would take care of me and see a way I would work with kids. Helping to fight against global warming, poverty and other issues in a more proactive way with more impact, when I die a day that it will be when I'm still young, I want to leave a better world for my contemporaries and future generations.

So you gots yo' problems, biatch? why not smoke da sticky-icky-icky like me n' mah playaz is always bustin. Well shiiiit, it will sooth yo' problems away n' if you ain't dirty enough ta evade yo' problems, why not suicide?

I wanted (and still want) to do a lot of things, mainly art-related things, but whenever I start doing something a lot of things come (time, studies, jobs, money) and eventually the motivation just disappears. Sometimes it's frustrating, I confess.

Thank you for sharing. I can kind of understand the lack of people taking you seriously just because you're ill. I feel like people underestimate the minds of those with weaker bodies or some type of disadvantage when we could have things in our mind no one else could think of. They don't even want to really see how hardworking we really are...

I'm sorry to hear about the Homophobia. Being straight, I don't know how bad it can really get and hearing you already experienced some nasty episodes.. it must have been kind of traumatic and its understandable to see your hesitation.

Your view on relationships is very admirable. I would think if people had such an honest view; more people would find happiness and it wouldn't be so cruel for those around them, especially to the children from couples who built their relationships on lies.

About refusing to put outside agents into your mind.. I commend you. I made that mistake with different medications and drugs in general and it really is damaging. It changes you and sometimes, in my case, you regret it, and I'm just glad I'm never got caught up in addiction.

I'm glad to see you're doing a lot better than before because depression is certainly a darkness that can be so numbing and can put you at a standstill. I do know I went through depression myself for a couple of years and I was only able to get out of it after figuring out that putting drugs in me wasn't the right choice and it wasn't something wrong with me internally but something that was affecting me externally.

Once you become more aware of your surroundings, you open your eyes to more of your problems and are able to let yourself go from those demons of your past.

I admire your dream and believe you can achieve anything even if things right now seem like a slow start. We have so many years ahead of our lives, and so many possible ways we can help the cause we believe in.. The world may make us think we are weak and can't do anything but it really takes determination to continue to believe in your dream even if things get tougher or slower. Even if you find yourself juggling so many problems, I believe anyone can do anything. No if, and's, or but's.

I wish you luck with everything and it was nice to hear someone else's story. I wish you luck with everything and I hope we find more opportunities to be friends and talk. Maybe, hopefully :)

It's a never ending cycle for some people who aren't always as motivated..
I always seem to have trouble with motivation myself and it's like a barrier from reaching what we wish to do, from our passions to our goals to meeting our financial needs.
I read a few things about the brain and how motivation comes from a "hard work = reward." If we don't practice it enough growing up, our brains don't connect that working hard through that barrier goes to a reward. Anyway, that may just be my own problem.
Because I can see how it's harder for people to do what they want to do, due to the harder financial situations and everything seems to have a "pre-requisite" for everything.

Good luck with everything and I hope you find skills and tricks to boost motivation because I've been trying to find some myself and I know the internet helps a lot with their suggestions.

Aww, t-thanks for your support! ❤. I also believe you can archive anything (physically possible, of course) if you try hard enough and in the correct way, that's why I'm not giving up! Too bad to hear you passed such bad times though.. While I consider drug-altering-mind have a place and a time, I always trough they are used a way too much and for a lot of stuff where they aren't helpful.

Luckily in my case I have not found severe homophobia, but I've passed for some things that are really scary, so I prefer to be careful. I mean, I'm not gonna hide or lie about my sexuality anymore, I got bored of doing so since long ago, so I prefer to be sure I'm in good company, like I avoid some of my family that's aggressive about it.

Oh, yes, I'm glad you aren't depressed anymore neither! You're welcome, too~ I posted my story if it were useful or interesting for someone (though I must admit I-I'm still shy about it). And yees~ I hope we find more opportunities to be friends and talk, too. =)



Learn to focus and organize your time a bit better. If you really want to do something, then you should make some compromises like learn to live with less money so you can pass less time working, or make a more efficient use of your time as 14 hours a day is still a lot of time. Anyway, I know that feel... I mean, I got interrupted all the time in my artistic work *sighs*, but it's about enduring it at the end and keep doing so more efficiently (not losing time)!

This probably sounds cliché but I'm holding myself back. I was blessed with a great family, great neighborhood to grow up in, my school district was the best in Jungdo, my health couldn't be better, and I've been told I look decent. With all of this, I had opportunity, but I was an arrogant shithead and I just pissed it all away.

Such a shame that people like me are given all those things but don't appreciate it, while others are given close to nothing, but are still so thankful.

So my dream had all the chance in the world, but I didn't utilize the resources I was given.

If I may add, now it's very different all thanks to my English teacher. She really helped me out and now I may have that chance again.

It happens, don't worry, sometimes when you're receiving everything... it matters little if you're lacking the morale to do something. Lacking morale is the same as having nothing to practical effects.

Good thing your teacher was able to help you. =)

I think you're pretty wise for being self aware and knowing what your situation is compared to others.

Not a lot of people even have the guts to admit that they are holding themselves bask and I think that was admirable, because you know you need to change and seen to be pursuing a change with help from people around you, along with some of the things you didn't utilize before.

It's good you can realize you are given that chance when you could easily continue to be ignorant. I hope everything works out for you and I'm glad your English teacher helped make things different.

I'm not an aggressive person and I could use a little help in the confidence department.

Whats holding me back? Is it laziness, am i uninspired, hate dealing with people in a world where you pretty much have too? Well i guess its just because its who i am. I hold myself back. I live the same days over and over, nothing exciting or good really ever happens. It kills my motivation to care about things. Without motivation, why would you aspire to do anything?
Now i still have dreams, but thats all they really are, dreams. Again im not motivated to care. I do have a health problem that i have come to accept, and maybe that may be a reason i am unmotivated. I wish it was as simple as someone else holding me back, or just a small barrier. The only thing that keeps me moving (as cliche as it is) is my friends and family. Not that they motivate me to do the impossible, but to accept me the parts of me that do hold me back.
The only thing i do make sure of, is that i dont regret things. if something happens, i make sure i dont regret doing it. I will only regret NOT doing something.

WTF AM I reading?

Perhaps I am at the bottom of the barrel because the risk of failure isn't too high. As I climb higher and higher up the ladder of success, the worse the fall will be when a mistake is made.

Music can also be a good motivation. Everytime I start something is because I got motivated while listening to music. Art is beautiful.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OI3C9qQlb1U



That's the very first thing we all try to do, and it's also the very first thing to get all the weight down. It's hard having a schedule when you have a lot of responsibilities and a lot of things on your shoulder. But thanks.



Procrastination is a bitch that always comes back when you dump her.

Normal English text:

Your reading about my language back in the streets and I hope you understand it completely. It's the way we talk and I just applied here to look legit

Gangsta English text:

Yo crazy-ass readin bout mah language back up in tha hood n' I hope you KNOW it straight-up. Itz tha way we rap n' I just applied here ta look legit

Combination of a few things. First one is my genetic illness, I have a form of immune deficiency that basically results in my immune system almost shutting down completely for a random amount of time, plus it leaves me with a lower than normal white-blood cell count so where it would take someone a couple of days to recover from a cold it can take me weeks. Last year I spent somewhere between a month to 2 months in hospital from illness so I didn't so so well in exams.

Another is my social anxiety, I can't talk to new people well, I stammer, sweat and on the odd occasion will completely break down and have a panic attack. This means when it comes to interviews and stuff I can't deal with it very well and don't come off as impressive. So that doesn't help.

I'm also super lazy. I spend more time asleep than awake when I can (another effect of my illness, I don't have much energy since my body uses a lot of energy to keep going).

So yeah, those things basically result in holding me back from achieving what I want to achieve.

I would be lying if I said I didn't have mental limitation, such as myself being shy or being not determined, but the thing that holds me back the most is my inability to walk.

I can walk normally for about 5-15 minutes, and after that I start getting nauseous and my heart rate sky rockets. If I keep going after that point, I either throw up or faint.

This holds me back from doing a lot of things, anything from achieving my dream to everyday things that I do daily. My dream is to open my own cafe one day, but obviously I will have to walk to school, walk to my cafe if I do open one, and just be able to walk in general to do most things in life. Another example would be going shopping. It sucks that I have to rest 2-3 times every time I go to a supermarket that is 20 minutes away from my house by walking.

To be honest though, I don't mind all that. There are plenty of people that have it far worse than me. People without limbs, people with a severe heart condition that may lose their life if they push themselves too hard, etc. Not to mention there are plenty of ways to make up for it, such as riding a car. What makes me angry and depressed at times is the fact that there are very little people around me that understands and accept me for who I am. I am not asking for pity, but I really wished that more people would understand that my condition is not something that is within my control, and I am putting my efforts into trying to improve it. This is why I lose hope and strength frequently when I come across situations when I have to interact with others, such as going to school, trying to get a girlfriend, meeting new friends, and so on. I know the world isn't as bad as I think it is, but it doesn't change the fact that there will always be people that talk hella trash in front of me and behind me wherever I go.

They say the first step is always the hardest, and that's certainly been true for me at least. I always felt hesitant to try new things and new ways, which is why I stuck to my guns for the most part as I lived my whole life being constantly uprooted. But then I kind of realized that I was getting nowhere and my whole life was lying before me, hence why I adopted this mentality where I decided that if I have been in an environment for at least 5 minutes, it'll become a new comfort zone to operate in. Thinking like this really helps the whole taking the first step thing. If I did it once, I can do it again.