between love and family......
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mnx wrote...
yessssss!!!!i call her earlier and she agreed with my plan!
anyway @ g-money since my scholarship have a 5-year research contract in in i'll be livin' in japan for the next 8-10 years.and now that she agree with the plan to graduate>economic stability>marriage>movin to japan>deal w/ parents.
it seems that i need to acclimate her to some jap culture and encourage her to learn the language.
she is not against my plan of moving to japan.....
i cried when she said:i'm with you as long as you are happy that i'm in your side.....
call me crybaby or whatever,but how can i not cried after hearing that?
thx god.thx you all for your posts.
it seems that i'm set for another 5 years,but any suggestion etc. is much appreciated.REALLY APPRECIATED.
Keep a cool head, my man, and I'm glad to be of help of some way, and even happier that you took my advice. Thumbs up for success and to your future. Any other problems/progress, feel free to post and share and quibble. (envy factor is rising while I type this.)
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Looks like all the advice has already been given out. But let me just say always follow your heart, it will bring you the most happiness.
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yeah.
the problem's solved.
for now.
if i happens to encounter more prob about this,i'll be counting on you guys again.
so,until then,this case is closed.
thx :D
the problem's solved.
for now.
if i happens to encounter more prob about this,i'll be counting on you guys again.
so,until then,this case is closed.
thx :D
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By the time I noticed this everything important had already been said but I still want to wish you luck.
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Wow, sounds pretty good. I guess since you guys are doing it for love it might not be a problem, but as g-money said, the cultral change is going to be quite difficult. But hey, maybe you might even like it there. Hopefully you meet nice people there to help you through the beginning of your stay in Japan.
Oh, and congradulations on your problem being solved. It's a difficult desicion and if you feel it's right, no one should be telling you otherwise. :)
Wow, sounds pretty good. I guess since you guys are doing it for love it might not be a problem, but as g-money said, the cultral change is going to be quite difficult. But hey, maybe you might even like it there. Hopefully you meet nice people there to help you through the beginning of your stay in Japan.
Oh, and congradulations on your problem being solved. It's a difficult desicion and if you feel it's right, no one should be telling you otherwise. :)
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You are only cousins so the mutations shouldn't be too bad right? Right? I'm only kidding, I have no idea on how to respond to this really, other than if it is honest-to-god true love, then let love be the boss, as it should be.
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firstly i apologise for any repeated points.
well there's not much left for me to say but do i know that marriage between cousins is widely accepted in japan. however i do see some flaws in your move-to-japan plan. i'm still fairly young (but i think i'm also pretty mature) so i'll just say that u need to have things planned out before you go (ie appartment etc.) although i'm sure that u've already thought long and hard (trying very hard not to giggle) about this, as it's such a big issue. there is also an issue of how close ur parents are to ur cousin ie. will they know if she moves to japan, because if they do then they might become suspicious (although that depends on if u've or ur cousin have acted strangely about moving).
im happy that u've found love but also sad that the person u've fallen in love with is your cousin becasue of the issues that comes with it, but i think that you should not let go of your love without a fight.
i'm sorry i couldn't help more (but it seems that other fakku-ers have already done that [yay for the fakku community!]) and i wish you the best of luck and hope that you will find happiness whatever the outcome.
well there's not much left for me to say but do i know that marriage between cousins is widely accepted in japan. however i do see some flaws in your move-to-japan plan. i'm still fairly young (but i think i'm also pretty mature) so i'll just say that u need to have things planned out before you go (ie appartment etc.) although i'm sure that u've already thought long and hard (trying very hard not to giggle) about this, as it's such a big issue. there is also an issue of how close ur parents are to ur cousin ie. will they know if she moves to japan, because if they do then they might become suspicious (although that depends on if u've or ur cousin have acted strangely about moving).
im happy that u've found love but also sad that the person u've fallen in love with is your cousin becasue of the issues that comes with it, but i think that you should not let go of your love without a fight.
i'm sorry i couldn't help more (but it seems that other fakku-ers have already done that [yay for the fakku community!]) and i wish you the best of luck and hope that you will find happiness whatever the outcome.
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i just saw the 'case closed' part! sorry! but i the last bit still applies. hope it works out for u, i really do.
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honestly if you want my advice ill give you this search your heart and sort out what is really important and after that you'll know the answer. dnt worry you can solve that dilemma of yours
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timmo72 wrote...
firstly i apologise for any repeated points.well there's not much left for me to say but do i know that marriage between cousins is widely accepted in japan. however i do see some flaws in your move-to-japan plan. i'm still fairly young (but i think i'm also pretty mature) so i'll just say that u need to have things planned out before you go (ie appartment etc.) although i'm sure that u've already thought long and hard (trying very hard not to giggle) about this, as it's such a big issue. there is also an issue of how close ur parents are to ur cousin ie. will they know if she moves to japan, because if they do then they might become suspicious (although that depends on if u've or ur cousin have acted strangely about moving).
im happy that u've found love but also sad that the person u've fallen in love with is your cousin becasue of the issues that comes with it, but i think that you should not let go of your love without a fight.
i'm sorry i couldn't help more (but it seems that other fakku-ers have already done that [yay for the fakku community!]) and i wish you the best of luck and hope that you will find happiness whatever the outcome.
your concern about the possiblities of my parent's suspicion is much appreciated.
yes,there's a possibility of our family knowing our relationship(although they seem to think that we're just travel partner/cousins that's really close together)
we're trying to hide it,but when it comes to that,i already decided that i'll stick with her.
and about us moving in the same time,no worries.
we won't move together.
i'll move to japan first(because i'm all set)
we're still planning to get a reason to move her to japan(and when to),but considering the fact that she's smart,a scholarship or two wouldn't be a long shot.
actually a private hospital in japan is scouting her to work temporarily there now.
we just need to figure out how to get the hospital to let her work permanently.
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Hm...... every advice that is needed and i can think of were given already so i guess there is no more point in me saying anything now except good luck and be happy. In whatever you do always have no regrets...Live your life as you want as C.C. said "Humans exist to pursue happiness" so go ahead and pursue YOUR own happiness!! You and your cousin have the support of the FAKKU FAMILY!!!!!!!
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Damienthedevil wrote...
Hm...... every advice that is needed and i can think of were given already so i guess there is no more point in me saying anything now except good luck and be happy. In whatever you do always have no regrets...Live your life as you want as C.C. said "Humans exist to pursue happiness" so go ahead and pursue YOUR own happiness!! You and your cousin have the support of the FAKKU FAMILY!!!!!!!hmm. this assumes that mnx is human and as we all know any1 with elite status or above connot definately be classed as human
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timmo72 wrote...
Damienthedevil wrote...
Hm...... every advice that is needed and i can think of were given already so i guess there is no more point in me saying anything now except good luck and be happy. In whatever you do always have no regrets...Live your life as you want as C.C. said "Humans exist to pursue happiness" so go ahead and pursue YOUR own happiness!! You and your cousin have the support of the FAKKU FAMILY!!!!!!!hmm. this assumes that mnx is human and as we all know any1 with elite status or above connot definately be classed as human
hahaha yeah i'm still human
i'm still 20 and truthfully,i'm still childish
so yeah seeking 2nd or 3rd even 4th opinion and listening to what people say is always good.
thx.
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mnx wrote...
the answers for your Qs:1.Indonesia. cousin love is death sentenced by my religion,not by my country.but it is frowned by the society.but i am moving to japan this october.japan is fine with this ,i think.
2.i am still in college,but i do have some sidejobs(i am a part-time cook at a diner) to cover my everyday expenses.my parents are not sending me allowance anymore,afterall.
oh,and a proper thank you is in order.
Well, this is quite a situation you are in. There are pros and cons to revealing your relationship. Is your girlfriend/cousin going to reveal it herself if you do not? And when you first had sex hopefully you were of age in your country, because that may also influence your parents/families views.
As for Japan, I believe that they allow marriage between first cousins or any relations farther apart.
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RaiArashi wrote...
mnx wrote...
the answers for your Qs:1.Indonesia. cousin love is death sentenced by my religion,not by my country.but it is frowned by the society.but i am moving to japan this october.japan is fine with this ,i think.
2.i am still in college,but i do have some sidejobs(i am a part-time cook at a diner) to cover my everyday expenses.my parents are not sending me allowance anymore,afterall.
oh,and a proper thank you is in order.
Well, this is quite a situation you are in. There are pros and cons to revealing your relationship. Is your girlfriend/cousin going to reveal it herself if you do not? And when you first had sex hopefully you were of age in your country, because that may also influence your parents/families views.
As for Japan, I believe that they allow marriage between first cousins or any relations farther apart.
see,we heve a commitment,when our parents found out,we'll stand against them.
but we have no intention of leeting my parents know about our relationship before we have some kind of stabilizing matters in our life like money,home,work etc2.
when we got that stability,we'll tell our family.but if they found out earlier,we'll stand against them anyways.
the power of love,you see.....
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mnx wrote...
RaiArashi wrote...
mnx wrote...
the answers for your Qs:1.Indonesia. cousin love is death sentenced by my religion,not by my country.but it is frowned by the society.but i am moving to japan this october.japan is fine with this ,i think.
2.i am still in college,but i do have some sidejobs(i am a part-time cook at a diner) to cover my everyday expenses.my parents are not sending me allowance anymore,afterall.
oh,and a proper thank you is in order.
Well, this is quite a situation you are in. There are pros and cons to revealing your relationship. Is your girlfriend/cousin going to reveal it herself if you do not? And when you first had sex hopefully you were of age in your country, because that may also influence your parents/families views.
It sounds like you have a definite resolve. It is probably a good idea to wait, but I really can't speak from experience considering I spend my life on a computer.
As for Japan, I believe that they allow marriage between first cousins or any relations farther apart.
see,we heve a commitment,when our parents found out,we'll stand against them.
but we have no intention of leeting my parents know about our relationship before we have some kind of stabilizing matters in our life like money,home,work etc2.
when we got that stability,we'll tell our family.but if they found out earlier,we'll stand against them anyways.
the power of love,you see.....
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mnx wrote...
RaiArashi wrote...
mnx wrote...
the answers for your Qs:1.Indonesia. cousin love is death sentenced by my religion,not by my country.but it is frowned by the society.but i am moving to japan this october.japan is fine with this ,i think.
2.i am still in college,but i do have some sidejobs(i am a part-time cook at a diner) to cover my everyday expenses.my parents are not sending me allowance anymore,afterall.
oh,and a proper thank you is in order.
Well, this is quite a situation you are in. There are pros and cons to revealing your relationship. Is your girlfriend/cousin going to reveal it herself if you do not? And when you first had sex hopefully you were of age in your country, because that may also influence your parents/families views.
As for Japan, I believe that they allow marriage between first cousins or any relations farther apart.
see,we heve a commitment,when our parents found out,we'll stand against them.
but we have no intention of leeting my parents know about our relationship before we have some kind of stabilizing matters in our life like money,home,work etc2.
when we got that stability,we'll tell our family.but if they found out earlier,we'll stand against them anyways.
the power of love,you see.....
Ah...... how touching lol....but i will be hoping for the best for you and your GF/Cousin