Striking Up a Conversation with Strangers

I talk to strangers a lot but if someones watchin a show its best to let them be and about the awkward moments I sometimes induce them I find it hilarious but that's just me

No, I wouldn't talk to a stranger (woman or man) even if we were the only two people on the whole train (or anywhere else.) I don't like talking to people I don't know and I'm not to fond of talking to people I do know. I'm with Ziggy on this one, If I have to be in a public place I've headphones on and the volume up so I don't have to talk.

I'm a case, I usually walk up, gesture animatedly, and am entirely okay with rejection.
Sometimes they find it funny, sometimes I scare the small children.

It tends to work better with practice.

The golden rule?
Make a clever observation.
Everyone likes her....eyes.... but if you come with an actual excuse to talk to her (she works at the library you're "trying" to join, you need to capture her hairstyle-eyes-hands for a character design, you are looking for "directions" to 6th street, etc) then she starts in a less hostile context. After the first exchange, you can compliment her/ask where she's going/make bad jokes all you want.

I wouldn't have talked to the busty chick, but probably would've been like "Lucky Star, nice choice"

If that didn't start a conversation, I'd just go on my way.
If she does say something and starts a coversation, then its all good.

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If you don't have confidence, don't hit on attractive women. Apparently, women like men with confidence to speak up. Or you can be like "hey babe, they call me Dirty Sanchez"

I know exactly how you feel, I find it so hard to talk to people because of my shyness, but like you said overcoming that shyness and talking to someone you don't know can pay off sometimes...even at the risk of feeling awkward. Lol I wish I found someone who likes anime/manga where i live, if I did I might even try to talk to said person.

I would say yes, but it would depend on what it is that would strike up the conversation. For instance anyone who I see with Steelers or Penguins paraphernalia I will immediately give them props for cheering for the correct team, and if they commit have a conversation. :smile: I will also give props to anyone wearing anime paraphernalia (excluding one specific anime), if they commit to the conversation then I will talk at least for a little while. Something like that must start the conversation otherwise I will just sit there quietly.

Example


So I let the other person decide if we are carrying on the conversation, this is because I know how annoying it is to have someone talking to you and you not want to talk to them. So I will acknowledge that I want to talk, and leave the decision up to them.

I've done that a few times in college and something that I've noticed in conversations is that if they don't say anything to continue the convo then I don't really feel like talking to them at all or that they don't really want to converse, but that's just common sense, right? But, when it comes to people I already know who I have tried starting convos with but they just don't say shit or won't talk about topics on their own then I just think of them as fucking boring motherfuckers.

I would have said something simple and short. Like Oh great anime. Something that if they dont want to respond to they dont have to and I know they want to be left alone otherswise theres that awkward silence.

Hmm I would but I guess it'll also kind of depend on the person too like if it was some hawt girl who seemed to have the same interests that I do I could maybe try to get with her in the process when having a conversation with her. If it was some guy we could maybe talk and later become friends, but if it's some ugly or fat girl/boy otaku then I'd just stay away. Starting up a conversation is pretty much the hard part but once you can find common ground or similar interests then it's easy sailing from there, it mostly starts with small talk. I'm a pretty shy guy so I don't approach people all the time, but once something happens people generally turn out to like me.

@ZiggyOtaku: Lol you seem to attract the weirdest guys.

It's not that I attract weird guys <_< It's just, where I lived, public transportation wasn't the norm. If I had lived in New York or something with the subway - then it would be more normal to take public transit.

The people who rode the buses where I used to live were bums, people who lost their licenses, people who couldn't afford their own cars (my reason at the time), or old people.

Very rarely did a nice looking/well dressed guy ever come on the transit, same goes with the women. People who don't have teeth and shit. I was probably a target, because when I rode it, I had to be well groomed and nice looking due to work and school. My job was at the admissions at my college so I always had to have office attire and my hair well done. That makes me stick out like a sore thumb when riding on a bus full of weirdos.

I resent that comment.

Anyways, I never strike up a conversation with others in public unless I know them. I blame my anti-social tendencies. I have also never had somebody try to strike up a conversation with me (outside of "how are you" when I'm at the grocery store). I guess I'm scary in public.

I have a major shyness problem. There is one super random occasion I was on the MAX. (It's kinda like a train only it runs on electricity. Yeah...we're green like that.)
Anywho, I was just waiting for my stop when I heard randomly, "One of them is called Strawberry Panic. I think you'd like that one." My head snapped at the mention of Strawberry Panic as it is easily one of my favorite shows...ever. It was a girl talking but I didn't care;
I walked right up and said "Did you say Strawberry Panic?"
Her: Yeeeaaaahh...
Me: Have you watched the whole thing or just seen bits and pieces?
Her: I've seen the whole thing.
Me: How did you like the ending? Nakedness aside, hah.
Guy she was talking to: Wait I thought you said it wasn't a porn...
Me: It's more...rated R than porn. It can just show a little bit more since it's animated.
Her: The ending was great. I bawled my eyes out.

We continued talking until I was well past my stop and I had to hop the next one back. Never did get any contact information though. >.>

On a side note the MAX is the usual mode of transportation for community college goers because parking lots are hell. I ride because it's "free" Meaning I don't pay if I don't get caught, and the times I ride it's way to crowded to check everyone. lol

When I make conversation to strangers, it happens like magic. I'll politely ask the name so I don't have to call them "hey" for a long time. Then talk about something easily gets interesting to the person, .



This one's compliments. I should've mentioned it. The Konata thing I've mention is, "if they liked to talk".



You will know if they like to talk if they at least look or smile. In order not to be a nuisance, you got should be polite, pick up lines and Johnny Bravo stuff is probably a trap or it requires alot.



Starting conversation without a reason can be for meeting new people that could feed your mind, unlike books, they can also give relation. You have to be look alright and mannered in the first place and not some big fat guy that suddenly ask for a date, he's pretty much hopeless. I mentioned feigned innocence and get re-contact so you can have time to check if you got hope or you should give up. There's really need for manners and looks.

When I was highschool, it's 10 years ago, when I'm walking home, around 6 times, I'm meeting a beautiful college girl that I'll meet on the way who will modestly ask my name, with a sweet voice and smile which that looks natural, but I'm always leaving her with no answer but secretly like it. I discommunicate because It's bad to talk to strangers, but because of it, I just wasted my luck. I would've known a nice girl.

The subway girl, she's bored and she watches in an uncomfortable place, she'll probably like to converse instead. But it has requirements.



Your right, I'm about to make a flirty message to you, but I'll respect instead ^^. I notice that I raised my head a bit and have a confident little smile when I'm hittin(of course modestly like a gentlepervert would be). Now, the Johnny Bravo thing is the 1st thing that you'll get tempted to do and but should avoid.



Amen. Though, if I'd really like to talk, I will change the topic, if leaves me instead, I will still act like a funny poor guy, then after you give up, put cute smile like you're sorry, forgives and still like her despite what she did.






So far, just your name is what you're going to tell, and with Friendster or Facebook. If she don't leave you be, then it's amazing luck, if it's not about doing crime to you.



Well, let's see getting to a common ground a very uncompatible person. Make sure, the person is in a talkable situation, if it's a police that just comes by, I would say, "what are you working at" while showing signs of curiosity, he might like to arrogantly talk about it and you should listen, comment, then he'll give you right to talk about your stuff due to the attention you offered him, if he doesn't like it, be sure to apologize casually.

I'm attracted to Ziggy, does she had a child and sex outside marriage? I think that would be evidence that she's hot. But I don't entertain it.

edit: I haven't read her first post T_T fuck!


Basics of talking to strangers is good manners, looks, subterfuge and sincerity. But I don't follow it strictly, there are tons of way, but not like you're having contact to a superior, there's tons of detail but I can't. I choose whom I talk and when I end it(a bit rude but important).

I usually don't talk to too ugly no names unless they're local celebrity because they can use our contact for claiming fame because a normal looking guy have talked to them, I'd just get exploited despite having kindness not to make a disgusted face at them.

I will keep complete secrecy of my experience with recontactable girls for morality. Though I don't go for girlfriends since it's very monogamous here, I look vulnerable that they will drag me and people will side to her since women seems to have more privilege here.

There's tons of shitfaces here that's doing better than me actually but I think it's just due to the folk wisdom.

About Kuroneko 1/2, for now, I can only say to feign innocence and be good mannered but close to your natural. When it's public, use feigned innocence, although I'm doin it naturally before, but I'd like to know other ways to get safe, but now I do it purposely, I proved that it's essential when you're going for lovin so people can't accuse being playboy because of your cutesy behaviour, they will be labeled "who judge" which is a strong religious bad stuff.

What about children and sex outside of marriage?

Is your child topic isn't about you? Please point out.

I'm not sure on whether or not you're implying I have a child. No, I don't have any kids. Yes, I made a thread asking how other people would raise their child if they had one. I spoke how I would raise a child, not how I'm raising a child currently. It was all hypothetical.

This exact scenario happened to me once, except not on a public transport but in my school. I went up and talked to her and had a nice convo regarding anime.

Then again, it's really much easier if you're in the same school isn't it? I never take public transport so I don't really know what it would be like.

I'm (Not necessarily.) cursed with a somewhat shady appearance. Really long and dark hair which might hide my face, pale skin and really weird ways to sit and behave due to a mental disorder which affects my motor skills. Not many people walk up to me and feel like conversations since I learned not to try to suppress it or having the feeling of uneasiness because of it around other people, heh.

In your situation gambler, I'd have observed a bit first to see the actual reactions she gave when watching the anime. Can tell you a lot about the character, really. Might've just started a conversation, but gotta try hard to make clear that you're not just another creep going for her ass when walking up to her - which is one of the main factors which determines the response you're getting.

But generally, I'm not really the conversational type which approaches people. Not because I'm shy or anything, but it's really rare that people catch my interest. If they do, however, then it's yo what's up without problems.