Striking Up a Conversation with Strangers

If i had a hen-tai shirt a random girl came up to me and was like "YOU GO TO FAKKU TOO" i would say something along the lines of "FUCK YEAH" and proceed to conversate about loli's and tentacles.

...but i suppose thats just me. On a more serious note, i'm a pretty easy to get along with person

Well, to a guy - if a girl came up to him and did that, that would be fucking awesome.

I don't really know how to explain it. lol. I'd just be awkward if a guy came up to me and was all you go to fakku too??

I mean, if it was someone I knew on here, a regular forum member - sure that'd be great. But if it was just a random lurker, then the awkwardness would settle in.

It can be daunting to be able to do so sometimes, but then you just have to do it,just say something non Chantilly, and let it go from there. I've polished this skill because of work, I can start a convo about anything anymore it would seem. You just have to observe and react, or improvise when there is nothing to react on.

Well I can understand from a girl's point of view at how awkward it would be if some guy just came up to you saying how cool it is that he also goes to Fakku and is into hentai lol. But it might not be as bad if you ran into someone who had other interests besides just the porn, plus it might be someone whom you might know on the forums which in my opinion would be pretty cool.

I never talk to people. Often I just I just act like the world around me doesn't exist. OR I DO NOT EXIST! Unluckily when tripping and falling in public happens I do then and there exist.... or is it the world that comes crashing to me?

Fine then. Mistake, okay?


I'll mention some turn offs. I got some experience where few cute girls offering me a drink or something, they kinda draggy although their facial expression is nice, I decline because it's bad to talk to strangers and if they tail me, I will be labeled as playboy. I meet this young girl in highschool uniform from the same school I go to, she's dragging me somewhere, she's unusually flirty, maybe she's a underage whore, she's so nice T_T, she's has dark skin and firm. I will not tell about what a group of out of school girls in their late teen is offering me something petty but I can't mention it. Pretty much, this are turn offs that made to me by good looking girls, also because of my immaturity.


One of the greatest fear inducing on approaching a girl is when rivals are near, probably gives instinct that they won't give you a break. Do you think that it would be as hard to approach if you and the girl alone? I guess this is where trying to look innocent comes handy so after they're letting you be with her. You can get chances where you and the girl can get to a situation will have no disturbers, that's when you can flirt a bit. But anyway, you have to be likable in the first place.

Looks like somebody parties hard.

I decide if it's worth having the conversation in the first place and if it is, what would we talk about? If short conversations only happen then it gets pretty awkward and both people would feel uncomfortable and then I just feel like I should have never said anything in the first place. I could see a successful conversation when I find that she likes something that I like, for example anime.

I disagree, short converstations are best, especially when your not in an ideal setting to have a long conversation. It gives you less time to say something stupid, and people might already have things on their mind.
For example, if ziggyotaku was on a bus, and I wanted comment or talk to her, I would point out to her something of interest on the street, or maybe ask about something she has like a phone, mp3 player, or something she is wearing. Then after her reply, I'd have a small inclination as to whether or not she is up to talking. If she was, I would say something funny (I would already know what this is before I even started talking in the first place because I knew what we would be talking about), but if she wasn't, I'd wrap up the conversation in a pleasent manner.
Even if we, or any two people, were in a setting were you thought to yourself "okay, I want to talk to that person", that person might not feel like it. So the best thing to do is to always just go in with the expectation that this conversation is going to be short, so as you don't become a jerk that doesn't know when to shut up.

Rbz, Who the fuck is that? But he looks like a pedo. What I wrote happened to me 10+ years ago, they're other youngsters, today I'm in early 20's so I'm around 14 when they happened, some of them actually are onee-chan fetish to me.

I had thought of another time I was on the bus and somebody was mortifying me.
After i get out of the small 'city' area, and head closer to my home I have to pick up another bus that's amaller. Basically a short bus - but it was still the public transit busses. So there was no standing on those buses, just normal sitting enough for 2 on either side. (normal school bus seats)

The school semester just started and there was this -really- attractive guy in my math class. I don't get girl crazy over guys, but once in a while I'll see a guy that just catches my eye and you just think 'good god' - they don't even have to be hot, it's just something about them that draws them to you.

But anyway, I was shocked when I saw him get on the bus with me but was too shy to say anything to him. So I sat down and he sat down in a seat behind me. The bus gets full enough that there was 1 person to every seat (not too many people head towards my area) This older guy comes in, probably late 30's early 40's and asks of all people to sit next to me. I didn't care, I had headphones on so I said sure while getting situated and getting them ready.

He said 'don't worry, I won't bite - but since you're so cute I might be tempted' That was enough for me to fall over and die. I absolutely hate it when older men are going through a mid-life crises and think they can just pick up and 18 year old (I was 18 at the time) That and they're desperate if they're trying to pick up -me-. It's nice to know I attract OLD guys ~.~

So I made it obvious I didn't like the comment by scootching towards the window more and just went 'oh, well - don't do that' He laughed and said sorry, bad joke.

He had asked the bus driver if he went past a certain point, and I knew where that area was, I put my headphones in and just leaned against the window.

The motherfucker fell asleep. I swear I didn't even know this happened in real life - if I remember correctly I made a thread about this ranting because I was so annoyed. He kept leaning on me and trying to use my shoulder as a pillow.

I'd keep scooting and scooting until I couldn't anymore and he was on me again. I'd poke his shoulder reluctantly to wake him up and he'd wake up and 5 minutes later repeat.

After like the 5th time, he did move up a seat since people had been getting off slowly - fell back asleep.

I saw his stop coming up, but I was too annoyed to care and let him miss it. He got off like a block late, so it was no big deal.

So I had an annoying pervert next to me embarrassing me while the guy I found attractive was right behind me. I wasn't embarrassed at all.

Oh, fyi about that guy in my class. My best friend knew him as a friend, and it turns out he thought I was weird because I was always so quiet.
He wasn't my type - but sometimes opposites just attract. Obviously one way though.

Me saying this might not help, but I wouldn't let that get in your way too much. I think you'll always find some people who don't base their willingness to have a chit-chat with a stranger on how attractive you are.
Anecdotal Evidence:



People at that age who need to prove to themselves they "still got it" are fucking tiresome.
Anecdotal Evidence:

First, she establishes dominance over her younger male colleagues. The next time you're nearby she drops her eraser and she will ask you to kindly assist her in the retrieval of said eraser. Then, when you least expect it she will pull out her strap on and the rest will be history. Hard to converse with these sex maniacs at work.

More drama maniacs than sex maniacs, as indicated by the whole "waaah my massively older husband whom I married only for status and cash found himself a new, much younger trophy wife and divorced me! must prove to self that I'm better than her!" routine.

Argh, ziggy your bus stories make me cringe. You should of turned around to the dude behind you an said, "Do you see this!? Muthafucka is trying to sleep on me!"

Meh, I personally find that simply giving them a push with my shoulder works just fine whereupon they usually fall out of their seat onto the floor, as they are very often also drunk. One of the few cases where my ᛏ appearance works in my favour :p

Talking to third parties wouldn't work out here, as the cityfolk around these parts have grown so accustomed to weirdos on public transport that they won't even blink if you talk to them.

I cannot see an instance where pushing a drunk man out of his seat onto the floor will not result in violence.

The instance where he is drunk and will simply continue to nap right on the floor.

Yea. I'm a 5 foot flat female. There's no way I'm gonna cause trouble with a grown man.