Would you want to get married?

It's every little girls dream to get married. Saying that... I want to get married to a nice guy... I wouldn't want to get divorced. Of course, I have to make sure, for certain, that they are someone I want to spend the rest of my life with. I think having cute kids would help. Ah hah...

I want a boy and two girls. xD Or maybe just a girl. Iono. =p x.x

I eventually want to get married. But there are things I think should be done first. Dating for more than a year then living with each other for more than two years... both of which me and my man have accomplished but still...it's just not on the agenda right now.

I want a girl so we can play dress up!

Yes, absolutely. To have someone who is always there for you, someone who cares deeply about you, someone you can always share with, someone you can always have fun with...
I don't necessarily adhere to the convention that quick marriages should fall apart, but I do agree that 6 months is a bit of a rush. Everything would have to be -perfect- if I were to marry someone after knowing them for less than a year, though.
As for religious issues, I'm not too bothered. I view marriage less as a 'sacred union' and more of a 'lifetime commitment to your partner'. And no, you can't just 'change your mind' twenty years later, unless 1.) there were issues to begin with and/or 2.) you or your spouse's personality changed due to an external event.
Concerning proposal... he can do that. ;D

Also, I should mention that I would not a completely one-sided 'pampered' relationship. My partner should have their quirks and oddities, and have problems that they let me help out with. Love is a mutual exchange.

I have to say I would want to get married if I found a women I really loved but other then that no

[quote="ZiggyOtaku"]...

Even though they are a small minority, some people do a very good job out of it despite the adversities that they have to go through. I admire these couples.


Looks like that old saying "once bitten, twice shy" won't have any effect on me. I don't know why, I just don't learn my lesson. God and love willing, I want to be married to my beloved. When that happens, it'll be my second marriage. Won't that be grand? *lol*



Same here. Ideally they shouldn't, but I know from experience that sometimes it doesn't work that way; if the other party doesn't wish to stay in the marriage. Sometimes, it is best to dissolve it. I knew my ex-hubby for 7 years and was married to him for a year and a half, yet it didn't work out. I held onto a failing marriage for a year in the hopes that things might change for us. It came to a point where I realised that it would just be pointless. It turned out to be a blessing in disguise.

Ultimately, when it comes to marriage, listen to your gutfeel and weigh it against the qualities of the prospective suitor. You're a discerning young woman and I believe that you'll know when that time comes. All the best, my lovely.

a part of me wants to, the other says its afraid of that level of commitment.

im just not sure if i want it yet.

only if it was to you, ziggyotaku.

Totally.

The Law of Diminishing Marginality says :

"If we doing/eating/drinking the same thing for a long time, we'll get bored"

It same like if we have the same wife for a long time we'll get bored right?

That's why we need polygamy

I am an athiest, and I do want to marry my girlfriend. I love her with all my heart and soul and would give up everything in my life to be able to make her happy. I look at marriage more as a declaration of love than a religious act.

I wouldn't mind getting married, but i would be scared if they would want to divorce me. Marriage isn't as sacred as it used to be. Divorces here and there fuck up the "eternal bond" as some people i know put it, and a lot of people got it in their mind "if it doesn't work out, divorce."

well, marriage isn't religious unless you want it to be. I'm athiest, but I still want to get married and start a family (one boy, one girl, I hope. ^^;), I just need to specify that I don't want any churches or bible readings. I'm still going to get married, but to someone I've dated for a few years and know is right for me. If it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. I'll move on eventually.

aww. that's sweet. ^_^ I feel the same way. too many people see it as a religious act, but that's not even how it started. here's a link to a site with an article on the history of marriage for anyone that's interested:

http://www.islandmix.com/backchat/f9/origin-marriage-50901/

Statements like this boggle my mind.


Answering the question: Yes, I want to get married. Have two kids. Have a house with a white picket fence. A family dog. I want the whole package. Eventually...

And 6 months is way to fast to propose. That's like saying "I love you" on the first date.(Saying it after a week of dating reminds me of high school relationships *Oh, we'll never break up. I love you so much. ect ect.*)

Why is that?

Sorry, I fail. Mis-read it as "do not want" instead of "do want"


*shakes head in shame* for shame myself, for shame...

Ahh. That would explain it. xD I was quite confused. :P

Since most of my families' marriages are complete failures, it has made me a bit cautious on making that commitment.

If you spend 5+ years with someone and you don't marry them - what's the true difference between you and a couple that's been married for 5+ years also? The title? The benefits? The changing of last names?

I don't need the title or to pledge my 'eternal love' for someone. If I'm in love with someone and I've been with them for a long time, I won't need him to pledge his love for me because I'll already know he does.