Have you ever been afraid of the future?

As the title says, have you ever been afraid of the future? I know that most people wanted independence to be free ( i am at my 3rd year of college education) to find jobs most people are happy that they are growing up. But for me, i am afraid. Afraid at the expectations, the responsibilities, and a lot more. After finding out that it sucks to be an adult, the harshness of this world, i became disappointed and scared.

I'm a coward. I'm always scared, far more than I appear to be. I'm terrified of making people dislike me, afraid of people being disappointed in me, and petrified that I'll be hurt. I strive to let out an air of confidence when I'm around people, because of my fear.

But the fear isn't necessarily a bad thing. If I am scared that something may go wrong, I try to spot anything that can go wrong, creating contingency plans for various scenarios. Thus, I protect myself further from failure. And my fear has also driven me to improve my ability to think quickly, for when things go in a way I didn't plan for.

And being afraid of the future doesn't mean you can't be happy in the present. Just take some time out to do something you enjoy, that will distract you from thinking about the future. For me, Fakku is one place I go for this. I can fap, chat to friends and partake in interesting discussions like this one. Just an hour or two of enjoyment everyday refreshes me and allows me to handle the fear without succumbing to stress.

Sometimes I can, just depends on my mood and what I need to acomplish at a certain point in time. I usually think too far into the future and worry about things that shouldn't matter at the present moment in time. When it happens, I just think to myself, "okay what do I need to get done today or this weekend?" Other then that, all I really want for myself is to be happy and to be the best person I can be. I don't know what to expect in the future so I've learned to think shorter term and to keep positive/optimistic about things when I can. The mindset of, "everything happens for a reason" helps as well.

I've never really been afraid about the future, the only thing I am potentially afraid of is interviews if I go get a job because of my Social Anxiety Disorder and I feel that may hinder me in the future in some way (That and I'm terrified of talking with people face-to-face).

I don't think I really ever been afraid of much and not the future. I always looked at it as if I was scared of what comes tomorrow then the progress I want to make with each day will be stunted. I might be anxious when an interview or something big is going to happen, but to be afraid I will feel like that would just paralyze me.

As for me, I have always been afraid of the future. I don't believe there is a single person out there who doesn't worry about the infinite possibilities that might happen. It's unpredictable and can either keep you on course or drastically change you in ways you never imagined.

I have expectations and yet the future completely destroys that by giving me results I never thought would come into existence. Sure, I am afraid of the future, but I learned by accepting it as part of my life, since everybody goes through that same like me.

I've been afraid of things i knew were going to happen, like when my grandpa died, but just afraid of the future? no, not really. Ive heard that the future tends to set itself as it should.

Rather than be afraid, i am agitated that i am forced to earn money to have food on the table rather than enjoy myself.

Other than that no, not afraid.

I've never really been afraid of the future. I'm more afraid of what will happen if I don't get control of myself or make some of the wrong choices, though. What I mean to say is, I'm not afraid of the future, just some of the possibilities.

Never! Adult life isn't shitty- only shitty people complain about their shitty lives being shitty. Being grown up is like everything else in life, where those who have it rough want to tell the whole world, while the rest of us just enjoy life in silence.
Are there responsibilities as you get older? Sure. But that is hardly new, right?


About the biggest source of stress and unhappiness in the lives of miserable adults is work. Work work work. Spend all day there, stressed out, lots of pressure, feel useless, etc.
Here's some common sense that is 100% true, but everyone who doesn't follow it will BITCH ME THE FUCK OUT because they would rather not try and pursue it...
Find work that you like. Hold a job that you can enjoy or find interest in. When the time comes that it sucks and you don't like it, move on to another one you like. Terribly simple choice, no?

Now, this is where people will often say, "but I can't." There are always responsibilities, or a tighter job market, or your budget can't afford a new job, etc... but these are, honestly, just excuses.

If finding a new job is tough, then don't be an idiot and quit before you search; find a job you want, land/secure it, then jump off the shit-ship you're currently riding.
If you have responsibilities and a tight budget, then simply live within your means. People often trap themselves in a situation where they hate their current, paying-higher-than-average job, so they spend the excess money on a more expensive lifestyle to compensate for their crappy job. They spend more money to combat the stress, which really only traps them in their current situation. It's like wanting to quit smoking, but to avoid the stressful cravings, you smoke even more.

Despite what people will tell you in highschool and university, life is actually more affordable than you would think. The basics and simple comforts are easily obtained, but its the unnecessary spending and greed/want which causes most folks to be caught in the "we need more" web.


Hmm, back to the fear-the-future-less topic. My previous point is that if you try and lead a life of "what do i want to do," rather than what you "have to do," you'll be able to remove a lot of unnecessary stress and worries from your daily life. As far as responsibilities go, don't worry about it. When they start to build up, they work less as a stresser and more as a motivator.

The important thing, above all, which you should try to take from this semi-rambling post is that life isn't as shitty and stressful as people tell you. Other people you meet and the media LOVE to spread fear and panic. If someone's having a shitty time of things, damn straight they'll try and share the ugly feels.
The people who are enjoying themselves are doing just that; enjoying life. They don't need to stop and tell the world that things are going good. People do enjoy their work, feel empowered by the responsibilities that they carry, and have time to enjoy life to the fullest. Its only the angry/negative minority who bitch and complain with the loudest voice.

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I fear for the future. And I am afraid of it. Up to now we haven't been making the best decisions as a species. I mean, sure, we've come through a lot. But we've barely, barely taken a step further than our front porch. And the house is still a mess. We haven't been tidy. There are cracks in the walls and we are fighting among ourselves for who gets the shower first.

The future looks like its from a song.

About a house, in a field, on the side of a cliff, and the waves crashing below.

The future looks like a storm. A storm we can't evade, that we'll have to pull through. And frankly, I don't know if we can pull through unscathed as a species. We have hope sure. But what is a man, but a miserable, miserable collection of hopes, of wants and of never-agains.

So I do fear the future. for what we will do to it. And what it will do to us.

Oh yes.

I've always been a stoic regarding the future. Most of my life, that is to say the twelve years of school, I was always gliding, going where the wind took me, never giving it much thought because, well, it hurts to think about it. I remember I decided what area I'd take for tenth to twelveth grade in about five minutes and I decided what college course I'd take along with that.

So, I've been a stoic but even the ancient stoics said there are no true stoics. That is to say, after graduating I literally had no idea what to do with my life and spent my gap year completely miserable. It is a really terrifying thing not to have a clue what you are supposed to do in this world, where to go, how to take the next thing. After a while the dangerous question «why bother» comes up.

The up side is that I realized I'm an idiot. In other words, as long as I have an objective goal, I can have some emotional comfort even though the future is still obscure at times. I've lost count of how may times I slowly walked home through the longest path in a futile attempt to postpone the following day.

Once I turned 18 I didn't stop worrying about the future. Pretty much everything from here on scares me shitless.
Most people are out there just enjoying themselves and I get scared I'm gonna go crazy wasting all my time worrying about stuff that's probably gonna happen in 10 years. Moving away from home, responsibilities, relationships, getting a job and figuring out where I'm gonna end up making my home when I start to look for a job to settle down... It's all really stressful. So I try to just think about other things when these thoughts come to mind. There's no point worrying about these things now, it's easier taking it one day at a time.

I used to worry about it constantly, but I don't really worry about my future
It's tempting, but it's also frustrating and it doesn't really improve anything
Life doesn't come with an instruction manual, just ride the waves and do what makes you happy.

I am both excited and afraid of the future. Excited because I have confidence in myself that I'll persevere through the strains of adult life, because of the new experiences that will await me throughout and because I can do stuff I otherwise couldn't have younger.

What I'm afraid of is what the rest of the world will turn out to be. Because from what I've seen its just been getting worse as the days pass. I have serious concerns sometimes whether the future is a place worth living in, whether it's gonna be full of assholes or the like. Nothing much I can do to stop the world being full of assholes, the least I can do is stop those around me from becoming one.

That being said, I find it almost sad that my most prospective future is that in an apocalypse. I would find it sad if I didn't already think how awesome it is.

Sometimes i get scared that life wont go as i want it to, but things always seem to work out for me.

Same.

As a kid I was too dumb to be afraid of the future (socially, financially, etc.), now I'm trying to step up and find my own path - being unenployed for seven years and counting is not exactly worthy of praise, even if there were issues.

Still, I too have been thinking for years that the 'future' after school is kind of meh: as someone else in another forum said, 'f*ck, smoke, go to work' and that's it for us puny mortals.

There is nothing wrong with being unemployed, as long as your needs are met.

My needs are met thanks to my parents' continuous support (then again, I'm not that expensive to maintain, if you know what I mean :p), but being twenty-seven and never been employed (wether due to the current crisis or personal problems) is kind of shameful, or at least not commendable.