GreenZero wrote...
I think she should be let back, easiest way to see if she has changed is by letting her back in.
If she does something ban worthy after being let back you just perm ban her.
What? Like the other 20 times she's been let back? There is only so many chances we can give.
She was let back, she was found to have not changed, and her apologies were all bullshit. She did the same thing, and got banned. This happened a total of about 8 or 9 times by my count.
Are we really even considering this a legitimate reason to let her back?
Shotty Too Hotty wrote...
My problem isn't that she used blanket statements or the fact she didn't apologize. The problem is with the apology itself. An apology should be broken up to 3 parts: Recognizance of what you did wrong, Explanation of why what you did was wrong, and then explaining what you should done instead. Each part shows a level of sincerity: Recognizance, Clarity, and regret. Koko's apology itself only touched on recognizance and regret. Koko recognizes that she did something wrong but she didn't go into specifically what she did. Basically, she only saw the big picture and not underlining details of the whole affair.
Secondly, there was no clarity on why it was wrong. If you don't know what you did wrong then to you it isn't wrong, correct? In person's mind that may be case but to reasonable mind that is not. None of Koko's apologies to this point has she explained why what she did was wrong to begin with which is a very glaring problem. This may be the reason Koko has a sort of Victim complex because as Lugo stated, Koko wrongfully lashes out she sees nothing wrong; but when the person lashes back Koko then plays the victim. There is an implication that Koko doesn't think she did anything wrong if she's the first to play the victim or Koko knew what she did was wrong but instead of facing it she rather hide or let someone take care of it for her.
Lastly, Koko expressed that she does feel some regret. Well I can't that to be true or not, I can judge her past actions if that was the case. Koko made over 10 alts to just spam us and this site; and Koko also would try to blend like nothing happen to be begin with. Now moving on is one the steps of facing regret and dealing with it but one doesn't just the amount of bridges Koko has and not even recognize through words, thoughts or actions that, "Yes you did do that and people are going to be pissed." Thus making her unaware of the level of her consequences.
Basically, Koko's apology comes to the level of a child and I don't mean that to be malicious. Koko, who took a cookie from the cookie jar without permission, just like any child was told what she did, why it is wrong, and was commanded by Jacob and Waar (the parents) to apologize to them and us (Fakku as the other children). When child is forced they try to be sincere, sometimes actually is sincere, but gives an half-hearted apology and these are one of those cases.
This entirely.
Although, I'd like to expand on it;
From what she has posted (her 'apology') It seems she has no feeling, no actual regret, and has not come to the realisation of why she was banned, or what she has done wrong.
She has admitted she has done some wrong, but will not expand on that, and will not admit that she has done wrong explicitly. She will keep making apologies that say 'I MAY have done something wrong, and for that I'm sorry' not, 'I HAVE done something wrong, I abused people, I attacked people, I broke the rules in multiple ways, by creating alts, etc etc'
From where I'm sitting, she lacks sincerity in her apology, and is just bullshitting her way through an apology, like the last fifty times.
If she wants my approval, she needs to make a sincere apology, put meaning, put thought, and actually prove she's realised her mistakes, and has learned from them.
After that happens (which I doubt), I propose an undefined probation time (preferably indefinite again) and if she fucks up (again) Ban her again, and keep her the fuck off the forums.
I'm being serious here, if she can break all the fucking rules, and come back as 50 alts, fuck shit up, abuse people, personally attack people, and be a general cunt (breaking more rules) Then, come back scott free.. Why the fuck do we have rules? Why the fuck are there even mods? If she is allowed to have such privilege, why is yoshi not back? Why is mantis not allowed back? What she has done is by far worse than what the others have done collectively.
Honestly, either be consistent with the rules, and how you enforce them, and ban her, and tell her to fucking grow up. Or, let her back, and let mantis and the others back.
Again, this is about her 50th time being considered a chance. The past times have all ended up in her breaking her promise and getting banned. She gave an 'apology' and swore she would be good. That lasted about a good few weeks before she got banned again. Every time.
Every time you (waar) even considers telling her to re-word her bullshit apologies, or banning her for breaking the rules (yet again), she comes back with 20 more alts, calls you a cunt, tells you to kill yourself, calls jacob a cunt, tries her best to break the server (although she seems to lack the know how on how that actually works) and pretty much throws her chance in the toilet. Last time this happened, that happened whilst we were discussing bringing her back. Then she somehow came back under the impression she was allowed back, before being banned again. Now this.
Seriously dude, you need to just man up and get rid of her. She is cancer.
Every time she does this, she gives you an insincere apology, filled with bullshit about how she's 'changed' and then goes and does exactly what she was banned for.
She is literally a child. Nothing is going to get to her, and get her to change, especially if this shit keeps happening. How can you possibly learn a lesson if you keep getting treats when you're meant to be punished?
re-evaluate, sleep on it, then get back to me.
edit; Apologies, got a bit heavy fingered in there, but, point still stands. You've been far too forgiving to her
Also; notice how as soon as you posted 'You have shown no guilt, nor remorse' and suddenly a thread comes up about guilt and remorse? Yet, it still doesn't contain sincerity and/ or specifically admit to guilt, just says that things 'may' have happened. And when questioned on it, she just says 'for things that HAVE happened' doesn't say the whole thing over, and put meaning into it, it's all just another false front to try and sweet talk you into coming back onto the forums.... again.