Does Age Matter
Is an age gap of 12 years alot?
Voting for this poll has ended.
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g-money wrote...
Love has no boundaries. I want to agree with that ideal because I'm a romanticist, but the realist in me says otherwise. Why? Life's life, too random and bound by rules, etc.A word of caution: guys way older than have more experience of the world than you can ever have. Best to know him better before making your move, if you haven't already. 12+ years of living in the adult world makes one helluva experience. But hey, go for it girl, and if you're both sending signals to each other, the better. Of course, let's hope the guy is not a player especially since he's way older than you, but that's a fear I think all girls face when meeting up with a guy.
Now, pedophilia is a different story, but once one has gone past 18, all's fair in love and war. Though a 20 year+ gap would begin to scare me... and marrying for money doesn't count.
Damn G-Money, You always steal the words right out of my mouth... It really comes down to what you want. If you think you should be with this guy don't let other people guide you otherwise. But heed the caution and make sure he loves you too.
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Age does matter.Do you want to fall in love with a 50 yr old woman?
Ok that was just a rude comment.
usually Age doesn't matter if you fall in love with someone younger than you.10 year difference can also be taken.But if the difference is way too much then that's just like abusing and using.Gonna wait for your partner to die to take all the riches for yourself now that's greediness.
Ok that was just a rude comment.
usually Age doesn't matter if you fall in love with someone younger than you.10 year difference can also be taken.But if the difference is way too much then that's just like abusing and using.Gonna wait for your partner to die to take all the riches for yourself now that's greediness.
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Here's my opinion:
As long as you can add 4 or subtract 4 from your age and still get her age, then it's fine. But, in most cases, the world is free, and the sky is your limit. So go crazy, you beasts you.
Who cares about what society thinks of as P.C. or wrong(unless it's a 30 year old man with a 8 year old), who cares what other people say. You've got one goddamn life, so do whatever the fuck you want with it. Make it fun and worthwhile.
As long as you can add 4 or subtract 4 from your age and still get her age, then it's fine. But, in most cases, the world is free, and the sky is your limit. So go crazy, you beasts you.
Who cares about what society thinks of as P.C. or wrong(unless it's a 30 year old man with a 8 year old), who cares what other people say. You've got one goddamn life, so do whatever the fuck you want with it. Make it fun and worthwhile.
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I draw my line at 5 yrs age different, over that I start question whether it love or lust. It a complicated matter, the best thing I can thing of doing is find out about the other person intention and make sure it not something ======> :twisted:
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Hmm if you ask me, age really doesn't matter much unless of course the age difference is pretty high. For me, two people shouldn't be together if they're more than four or five years apart; maybe even three.
But hey, who are we to decide that? If it's true love your speaking about then maybe a couple should be together regardless of age.
(Of course true love probably doesn't exist.. then again it does exist but few people understand what love really is. By few, I mean 1/300 people maybe)
But hey, who are we to decide that? If it's true love your speaking about then maybe a couple should be together regardless of age.
(Of course true love probably doesn't exist.. then again it does exist but few people understand what love really is. By few, I mean 1/300 people maybe)
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I apologize for reading no posts but the topic post, but I just wanted to comment that my dad is twelve and a half years older than my mom and they've been together for over twenty years now (I forget the actual number...). The poll is closed, but I've gotta agree with those that say that age makes no difference in love. But hell, I'm 18 and have only had a long distance relationship so what the hell do I really know. :P
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IMO it really actually depends on the couple/people in question but i don't really see the problem with loving one that is older than you unless of course it is over the limit(say....15yrs?) of course it applies the other way round too.....
But you have to think....being in such a type of relation has a lot of complications and i have seen loads of cases where their relationship just breaks apart and it all started because of the age diff problem...
But you have to think....being in such a type of relation has a lot of complications and i have seen loads of cases where their relationship just breaks apart and it all started because of the age diff problem...
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I agree with the others. As I have already said in my introduction thread, I'm 19. My boyfriend is 38. And we love each other. So yeah, it's just a number.
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I can't make a life changing decision for you, it goes against everything I believe in but I can give some advisory comments.
Most importat thing is that you two actually love eachother and you're not just a plaything for him, unfortunatetly that's quite often the case in such relationships but your remarks do not point to that.
Don't forget that while he is older you're still part of a relationship, if something isn't right for you tell him, he has not more power over you than a younger boyfriend or one of the same age has.
There probably will come times where he has problems that you can't relate to at all, (and vice versa) an even greater amount of tolerance is required to make it work.
You'll probably need to get accustomed to people asking you if he is your elder brother or even your father without getting infuriated.
Also something you should consider if you actually feel like this is going to be a long-term relationship (maybe even for life) is that he quite possibly is going to (forgive my crassnes) hit the dirt much earlier than you will. Of course, this isn't something that you should burden yourself with 24/7 but it's still something that you should keep in mind.
No matter how you're going to decide I wish you best of luck and if you really try and still fail see it as a lesson learned for life.
Most importat thing is that you two actually love eachother and you're not just a plaything for him, unfortunatetly that's quite often the case in such relationships but your remarks do not point to that.
Don't forget that while he is older you're still part of a relationship, if something isn't right for you tell him, he has not more power over you than a younger boyfriend or one of the same age has.
There probably will come times where he has problems that you can't relate to at all, (and vice versa) an even greater amount of tolerance is required to make it work.
You'll probably need to get accustomed to people asking you if he is your elder brother or even your father without getting infuriated.
Also something you should consider if you actually feel like this is going to be a long-term relationship (maybe even for life) is that he quite possibly is going to (forgive my crassnes) hit the dirt much earlier than you will. Of course, this isn't something that you should burden yourself with 24/7 but it's still something that you should keep in mind.
No matter how you're going to decide I wish you best of luck and if you really try and still fail see it as a lesson learned for life.
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Crystallion wrote...
I agree with the others. As I have already said in my introduction thread, I'm 19. My boyfriend is 38. And we love each other. So yeah, it's just a number.He's TWICE your age! lol!
If you think that's bad, you should know that my 3rd wife hasn't even been born yet!
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saibot wrote...
I can't make a life changing decision for you, it goes against everything I believe in but I can give some advisory comments.Most importat thing is that you two actually love eachother and you're not just a plaything for him, unfortunatetly that's quite often the case in such relationships but your remarks do not point to that.
Yes, I know he loves me. ^^
saibot wrote...
Don't forget that while he is older you're still part of a relationship, if something isn't right for you tell him, he has not more power over you than a younger boyfriend or one of the same age has.There probably will come times where he has problems that you can't relate to at all, (and vice versa) an even greater amount of tolerance is required to make it work.
Don't worry, I often speak my mind when I don't like something. For example, sometimes he wants to watch porn while we have sex. It's not right with me, and he won't do it again. Because I told him.
saibot wrote...
You'll probably need to get accustomed to people asking you if he is your elder brother or even your father without getting infuriated.Ho boy. The fact that I look at least 4-5 years younger might make things a bit awkward. But I don't care, and he doesn't care either. I even joked about it once. I said that by the looks of it, he really could have been my father. He just said: "So I fuck my daughter. Lol." We crack jokes like that, don't ask xD
saibot wrote...
Also something you should consider if you actually feel like this is going to be a long-term relationship (maybe even for life) is that he quite possibly is going to (forgive my crassnes) hit the dirt much earlier than you will. Of course, this isn't something that you should burden yourself with 24/7 but it's still something that you should keep in mind.Yeah, I also know that. He'll "hit the dirt" 20 years earlier than me...and this is not counting accidents in. I won't ever think of that, way too early and I'm already big enough a pessimist, I don't want to think of it that way.
saibot wrote...
No matter how you're going to decide I wish you best of luck and if you really try and still fail see it as a lesson learned for life.Thank you, your post means much to me.
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Crystallion wrote...
Thank you, your post means much to me.Curse it, this makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
You're welcome, nonetheless.
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i go for the FIRST one! :lol:
it really depends on how much you love each other and if it's true or not.
it really depends on how much you love each other and if it's true or not.
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You go for it, gurlie! Love will conquer it all *throws rose petals in the breeze while happy music plays in the background*
For me... age, distance and space mean nothing in matters of the heart. So you know, I'm a 30 year old single-parent/divorcee who has a long-distance relationship with a 22 year old hottie who wants to make babies with me. What a riot! *lol*
In Asia that age gap of of 10 - 15 years is peanuts for a woman dating an older men. So, all the best! Ganbarre! :wink:
For me... age, distance and space mean nothing in matters of the heart. So you know, I'm a 30 year old single-parent/divorcee who has a long-distance relationship with a 22 year old hottie who wants to make babies with me. What a riot! *lol*
In Asia that age gap of of 10 - 15 years is peanuts for a woman dating an older men. So, all the best! Ganbarre! :wink:
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CreampieHoney wrote...
You go for it, gurlie! Love will conquer it all *throws rose petals in the breeze while happy music plays in the background*For me... age, distance and space mean nothing in matters of the heart. So you know, I'm a 30 year old single-parent/divorcee who has a long-distance relationship with a 22 year old hottie who wants to make babies with me. What a riot! *lol*
In Asia that age gap of of 10 - 15 years is peanuts for a woman dating an older men. So, all the best! Ganbarre! :wink:
I would still advice to show a certain amount of reason in these matters,
it turns out better in the end, trust me.
Of course, I am aware that this is difficult in matters of love, do to it's inheretly illogical nature.
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@ Saibot - there's truth in what you say, Saibot-san. :)
You've got to make a well-informed decision and weigh the risks, sweetie before ultimately taking the plunge. I'm sure whatever you decide will be a reflection, as well as, an extension of the person that you are, the lifestyle that you lead and values that you uphold and practise. If you have the blessings of your folks even better. All the best!
You've got to make a well-informed decision and weigh the risks, sweetie before ultimately taking the plunge. I'm sure whatever you decide will be a reflection, as well as, an extension of the person that you are, the lifestyle that you lead and values that you uphold and practise. If you have the blessings of your folks even better. All the best!